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My darling girl is gone

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Rosebud1302 · 15/09/2023 22:35

She went lame on her back right leg a week ago. Today she had X-rays. What I assumed were going to tell me her bad knees had deteriorated and she may need surgery or stronger pain meds. I didn't say goodbye. They found aggressive and untreatable bone cancer. They didn't wake her up. I am broken. My baby girl. My first dog. She should have had years left. I will be forever full of regrets. I had no idea this was coming. She was so scared of the vets. How can this be happening. I can't stop thinking about her. I don't know how I'm going to process this or move on. My heart feels broken.

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SweetBirdsong · 15/09/2023 22:38

Bless your soul @Rosebud1302 AND your lovely doggo's soul too. What horrible, tragic news. I am so SO sorry. There are no words when something like this happens. Sending healing vibes and love and (((HUGS))) through the internet. She had a good life with you, please don't be full of regrets. ❤

BiteyShark · 15/09/2023 22:39

So sorry FlowersFlowers

Viewfrommyhouse · 15/09/2023 22:41

Oh my goodness, you poor thing. You mustn't feel bad, you couldn't have known. It doesn't matter how much time you did or didn't have to know. All you do know, and all she knew was love and a good home. That's all that matters. I won't minimise your grief - that's impossible - but please comfort yourself with the good life you gave her. Flowers

SkaneTos · 15/09/2023 22:45

My condolences. It really is heartbreaking!

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Rosebud1302 · 15/09/2023 22:46

I've just realised she is my username on here too. She was everything to me.

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knightsinwhitesatin · 15/09/2023 22:49

So sorry for your sudden loss. How old was she? I’m sure she knew she was so very loved, and hopefully the vet’s decision meant she didn’t suffer x

Onthisproject · 15/09/2023 22:51

Oh I'm so so sorry, that's just awful and unbearable for you. Massive hugs xx

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Rosebud1302 · 15/09/2023 22:51

My Rose (Rosebud) was 10. Never have I met a dog with as much love to give as her. Everyone got love from her. She was irreplaceable. One of a kind. I hope she didn't suffer too much. We were having a cuddle on the sofa at 8am and 5pm she was dead. I can't process it.

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SirChenjins · 15/09/2023 22:58

Oh no - I am so, so sorry 😢 Someone on here once said that they take a part of you with them when they go, and they leave a part of themselves behind. I thought that was a lovely sentiment. She had a lovely life with you and she was adored - how lucky you were to have each other. My deepest sympathies 💐

PhilMitchellsleatherbomber · 15/09/2023 22:59

You are in a state of huge shock, you have had no time to prepare at all for this, be kind to yourself, your dog will have just thought she was at the vets, she didn’t like the vets but it was a very normal occurrence for her it was nothing out of the ordinary, and she just went peacefully to sleep with no pain, it wouldn’t have been traumatic for her at all, you are the one with the trauma and grief and I hope you have some support around you, if not it might be worth contacting the Blue Cross pet bereavement helpline. I’m so dreadfully sorry it really is the most awful pain.

Querypost · 15/09/2023 23:03

I'm so sorry, it must have been so unexpected for you. Dogs really give so, so much and ask for very little in return. They are beautiful creatures.

I still think of my 10 year old Collie, put to sleep because of cancer also, often. He's been dead longer than I ever had him :-( I cried on and off for a number of years thinking about him, but it does get easier.

Givemeahigh · 15/09/2023 23:05

You poor thing. So sorry to read this. Dogs really are something special.

Wiccan · 15/09/2023 23:11

Oh OP I'm so sorry😞. We lost our beautiful westie cross to bone cancer she was 15 just over a year ago . I will never get over losing her , I miss her every day. But I have lovely thoughts of her every day and that brings me comfort. You couldn't have done anything more than love and care for her, she knew you loved her . Sending a big hug 💐

Meadowflower2023 · 15/09/2023 23:13

So sorry for your sudden loss, it really is utterly heartbreaking. Sending the biggest of hugs 🐾💔😢

WookieMama · 15/09/2023 23:20

So sorry OP, I can’t imagine the shock and the pain you are in. Sending massive hugs! If you want to tell us about her we are all ears x

caringcarer · 15/09/2023 23:31

SirChenjins · 15/09/2023 22:58

Oh no - I am so, so sorry 😢 Someone on here once said that they take a part of you with them when they go, and they leave a part of themselves behind. I thought that was a lovely sentiment. She had a lovely life with you and she was adored - how lucky you were to have each other. My deepest sympathies 💐

This really says it all. So sorry you girl is gone but better it is quick and leaves you in a spin than she had a long painful death.

GoldenSpangles · 16/09/2023 02:02

We lost our beautiful Birman a few months ago. She was 11 and seemed perfectly healthy and was seriously ill with a tumour within three days. We took her home to say goodbye and the vet came to our house to put her down with all the people that loved her around her in a favorite spot.

I am crying typing this but it does get better. We were all very sad for weeks. My husband didn't want to get another cat after all the grief but my son asked if we could.

We now have a young Tonkinese kitten. She's not Coco and we choose another breed deliberately. She has her own quite different little personality and in time I 'm sure we'll love her equally.

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Rosebud1302 · 16/09/2023 03:57

I wanted her to die at home when the time came. I wanted her to know how much we loved her. All I can think about is her being in a cage all day scared. Waiting for me to collect her. I never did. She died without me. I can't bear this pain.

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Turquioseblue · 16/09/2023 04:08

OP I'm so sorry. Losing a beloved pet is beyond awful.
There is a website called the Rainbow Bridge that is especially for anyone who has lost a pet. You might find some words of comfort and support there. You can even post about your beloved dog and read what others are saying and doing when they have lost a much loved pet. Do try to google it, I think it might be helpful for you.
I really feel for you 💝🐾

CorporaINobbyNobbs · 16/09/2023 04:12

Oh you poor thing. I’m so sorry. And she knew how much you loved her. Xx

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 16/09/2023 06:18

So sorry. 💐💐💐

Pennyplant19 · 16/09/2023 06:34

I'm so, so sorry. Please don't beat yourself up about her dying alone, it was the kindest thing to let her go gently whilst she was asleep - and you've been so caring doing the right thing for her. I promise you it does get easier. Sending hugs x

Ozarkz · 16/09/2023 06:39

I’m so sorry OP, one of my biggest fears about losing my dog is where and how it will happen so I totally understand. There is nothing anyone can say that will make you feel better but just know your girl knew you loved her and as far as she knew, she just went to sleep. Be kind to yourself

plehpleh · 16/09/2023 06:39

I'm so sorry, I often think about when my little boy will go and it fills me with sadness. Make sure to do the grieving process in full: have a funeral, say your words so she knows how much you loved her, maybe go to your favourite place you used to go together for some quiet time and to feel close to her. Don't worry about what people think, pain is real.

Good luck x

MariePaperRoses · 16/09/2023 08:35

I hope you find comfort in knowing that she knew she was loved and wanted and your lovely memories of her will always remain in your heart and mind.