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Will this affect my dog in the long term...

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MollyWoppitt · 15/07/2022 16:47

Some months ago I left my abusive partner, I took the dog with me as I was concerned for her safety, I lived for a month in a 'dog friendly' Air B&B, which was a little cramped for us both, then my sister offered us space in her home till I was able to find permanent accommodation, next month I'll be moving into a property and she'll be coming with me, despite all this upheaval she seems in very good spirits but I'm worried all this will affect her mentally in the long term, I love her very much and I've done my best to ensure she gets as much care and attention as possible but I still worry about the impact this may have on her in the long term, does anyone have a similar experience and could you advise ?

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LaurieFairyCake · 15/07/2022 16:49

Well no Flowers

Or how could anyone take their dog on hols Grin

You are doing EVERYTHING Flowers

GreenManalishi · 15/07/2022 16:51

Absolutely not, they don't have the same frame of reference as a human, as long as she's with her pack, wherever that is, she will be fine. Well done on the big change and good luck

Motorina · 15/07/2022 17:06

She's been with her favourite human all the way through? She'll be good.

Mollyplop999 · 15/07/2022 17:08

How lucky she is to have such a lovely owner. She will be fine as she is with you and that is all that is important to her.

dolphinsarentcommon · 15/07/2022 17:08

Sounds like you've done all you can OP, and I agree that so long as she's with you she won't care where it is.

DisforDarkChocolate · 15/07/2022 17:11

Sounds like you have been a loving consistent presence, she'll be fine.

Ilikewinter · 15/07/2022 17:12

Honestly this wont affect her as shes with her favourite human, youve done the absolute best thing for both of you.....I hope the future brings you everything you wish for 💐

Takingthepmaybe · 15/07/2022 17:21

Being with you more important than where she is being with you!

Takingthepmaybe · 15/07/2022 17:21

Dog pic puhlease

SarahSissions · 15/07/2022 17:24

She’ll be fine. You sound like you are doing a great job.
and well done on leaving what must have been a very frightening situation

KangarooKenny · 15/07/2022 18:01

As long as she’s with someone she loves she’ll be ok.

ddeey · 15/07/2022 19:16

My dog lived through some tough times with me and honestly saved my life i reckon. She slept on floors with me, cuddled in our sleeping bag when i fled my abusive ex and had nowhere to live. Travelled from place to place with me for over 6 months, with just a suitcase between us. She is the most wonderful, loyal, happy, healthy and loving dog. You would never know she had been through anything crap - except for maybe the incredibly strong bond we have. Which it may have only strengthened.

ddeey · 15/07/2022 19:18

Also - HUGE congratulations for what you have done. Our journeys sound quite similar and its the BEST thing you will ever do. Hold on to it and be strong - you've done something amazing xxx

007DoubleOSeven · 15/07/2022 19:21

Motorina · 15/07/2022 17:06

She's been with her favourite human all the way through? She'll be good.

This exactly. She'll be fine (and so will you).

Well done for your bravery op, you've been so strong, your dog is lucky to have you x

Lalosalamanca · 15/07/2022 19:24

Ahhhh mate
Rarely do I come across people on mumsnet who I instantly like but you...you are one!

I love that you care so much.
Your doggy won't care a thing as long as she is with you. Bless you both. Thanks for being a great dog mum ❤

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MollyWoppitt · 15/07/2022 22:19

Thank you all for being so kind, I feel a lot better now.

@Takingthepmaybe .....picture of my little girl as requested....

Will this affect my dog in the long term...
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dolphinsarentcommon · 15/07/2022 22:22

Beautiful girl.. she has a very wise and gentle face x

WinterMusings · 15/07/2022 22:26

@MollyWoppitt what's her name? Molly??

she's beautiful.

well done for leaving the abusive twunt, may fleas infest his boxers.

well done for taking her with you!

who knows what goes through their minds, but she knows youre her safe place, she'll be fine!!!

I hope you enjoy living in your new place (& whatever you do, don't take the twunt back!!)

Facefortheradio · 15/07/2022 22:30

You are an amazing dog mum. She will be fine because she has you. She's beautiful. Good luck to you both in your new life.

Walkingthedog46 · 15/07/2022 22:34

She’s beautiful and you sound to be such a loving mum for her. Good luck to you both for your new future.

perimenofertility · 15/07/2022 22:41

She's beautiful! And she'll be fine, she's getting consistency from being with you. Congratulations on getting yourself and your furbaby out of a toxic situation!

Mydogatemypurse · 15/07/2022 22:43

Shes been with you and loved and protected. Its all she wants. You could have been together in a skip for all she cares
Honestly dont worry.

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MollyWoppitt · 15/07/2022 22:54

@WinterMusings ....No that's just my silly nickname....her name is Nelly....and no worries..I won't be taking him back, in fact I've moved us both to the other side of the country to be away from him 😬

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MollyWoppitt · 15/07/2022 22:56

@dolphinsarentcommon ....yes she's a clever little madam....very kind and gentle with puppies and elderly and vulnerable dogs too, loves children...

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Mydogatemypurse · 15/07/2022 22:58

Shes amazing and so are you. You both stop stressing now and enjoy the new life you both deserve xxx