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To regret getting a dog

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katedan · 11/03/2022 09:21

I really love our dog and he is a dream in the daytime but he wakes in the morning earlier and earlier and it is now about 6am. We go and let him out for a wee but he then wants company and will woof until someone joins him downstairs. We do not let him upstairs and that is a given. I am Really tired and it us impacting on my ability to work etc, I did sleep deprivation when the kids were young and I don't want to do it for a dog! Really questioning if I can do this for the next 12 years. He is 18 months old.

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HoneyItIsntGoodLuck · 11/03/2022 21:49

[quote AllThingsServeTheBeam]@HoneyItIsntGoodLuck did you see the cat bit duck?

5 have boths dogs and cats. 2 have just dogs and 3 have just cats. Would you like me to tell you their names?[/quote]
And you know that every single one of them lets their pet upstairs.

Fascinating times around the water cooler……….

abeanbaked · 11/03/2022 22:43

This is the first time I've heard of people not letting their dogs upstairs

My dog wasn't allowed upstairs atall until recently as she is a larger breed and it is not good for their joints to be running up and down stairs. I taught her to sit at the bottom and wait for me.

Whattodo121 · 11/03/2022 22:43

Our dog sleeps happily in a crate all night without a whimper, wakes up for a wee (time varies, usually anytime between 4.30-6.30am.) if it’s light she then fidgets until we let out the chickens so she can look at them intently for a bit (border collie) and have her breakfast and then she just comes back upstairs and sleeps on our bed. She only goes upstairs if she’s invited, she doesn’t ever go upstairs on her own.

user2908143823142536475859708 · 11/03/2022 22:48

My collie wants upstairs but the other 3 don't and stay downstairs.

Blossomtoes · 11/03/2022 22:49

@TedMullins

Personally I’d just let him upstairs.
Me too. Ours comes up and says good morning after she’s been let out and then snuggles down under the duvet for another kip.
abeanbaked · 11/03/2022 22:53

This thread is ridiculous. OP, you will just have to accept that your Ddog is an early riser and get up or allow them in the bed with you to snooze. As for the people claiming she doesn't love the dog, ffs. And not everyone who bought a dog during the pandemic and is having some trouble with obedience etc is getting all 'oh I can't manage, I will need to re home'.

MANY dog owners have struggles with behaviours, that's why there are so many fucking trainers and literature out there. This isn't a new thing..

Having said that, I don't think this sounds behavioural. Your dog is just ready to get up at that time and wants to be with you.

abeanbaked · 11/03/2022 22:58

It is also not normal to walk your 18 month old dog all day every day because they need 'lots of exercise'. Working dogs do not run around all hours of the day. They have training periods, walks like most other dogs and are kennelled the rest of the time. They are the most well behaved and focused dogs there are. Walking a dog for hours on end doesn't actually do anything for them apart from make them a fucking athlete. If a dog is sleeping, it is content. If it is shredding the furniture, it is not.

Branleuse · 11/03/2022 23:01

Can you snooze on the sofa with him for an hour or two if you dont want him upstairs.
They do need company. Dont forget, you are their entire life.

pilates · 11/03/2022 23:15

Get a dog bed in your room. He will sleep in believe me.

Lampface · 11/03/2022 23:17

We don't let our dogs in our bedroom either op, it's unsanitary in my opinion.

Our girls go to sleep in their crates with a blanket over the crate. They're not locked in and know how to get out and get some water and then get back in. But the darkness keeps them going until we get up (although we are generally up by 6!). One of our girls likes to have her afternoon nap in there too with the blanket down and barks until someone puts the blanket over Grin Blocking out the light really does help and really worth trying!

Lampface · 11/03/2022 23:21

Cannot believe so many people are saying 'just let the dogs upstairs'. There's no need! Our girls are perfectly happy - they have the whole of the downstairs and a massive back garden and we're around all day as we wfh. They actually really enjoy their space at night!

DinglyDellsBells · 11/03/2022 23:31

Our black lab joins us when he wakes up. Let him out of his room at 7am and he will happily sleep on the bed until we get up.
He loves his family (us!) And just wants to be close which I love.
Just change the bedding more often

Isausernameavailable · 11/03/2022 23:34

Why is it in your house at all? Does it not have a kennel?

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 11/03/2022 23:43

@HoneyItIsntGoodLuck don't go in the office my dear. Teams chats. Over the past 2 years I've discovered all 10 of us allow their pets upstairs.. along with all my closet friends and family. I really don't understand why you're not believing me.

HoneyItIsntGoodLuck · 12/03/2022 00:04

And let me guess, duck. They’re all referred to as your ‘furbabies’, my dear?

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/03/2022 05:37

@HoneyItIsntGoodLuck

And let me guess, duck. They’re all referred to as your ‘furbabies’, my dear?
Oh god no. Not at all.
Libertybear80 · 12/03/2022 06:07

We allow our dog anywhere we are in the house because she's family. We just clean. She also has a dog flap so she can take herself out to wee etc. Sleep guaranteed.

PollyRoulllson · 12/03/2022 08:14

The dog is family is a ridiculous reason to have your dog in your bedroom, My mother is family, Great Uncle Bob, 18 year old DC is family, but they dont all sleep in my bedroom with me......

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 12/03/2022 08:22

@Lampface

Cannot believe so many people are saying 'just let the dogs upstairs'. There's no need! Our girls are perfectly happy - they have the whole of the downstairs and a massive back garden and we're around all day as we wfh. They actually really enjoy their space at night!
But the difference is that OP's dog isn't happy - and neither is OP as she's not getting enough sleep.

It's not completely outrageous to suggest the dog comes upstairs - outside of MN I only know one or two dog owners who don't allow the dogs on the bed and that's more to do with size than because they disagree with it in general. I also don't know anyone who doesn't allow their dogs upstairs.

Obviously not everyone agrees I and that's fine, but it's a perfectly sensible suggestion. Our beagle sleeps in the bed and we've never had an issue with early starts or sleep deprivation because of him. I don't recognise any of the threads about sleeping cramped on sofas for weeks to settle puppies or going down to them at 5am for the day Grin

It could be coincidence and he's just lazy anyway but I honestly think we all got so much more sleep and rest because he was with us and not downstairs on his own.

PollyRoulllson · 12/03/2022 08:26

How do you know the dog is unhappy?

He just wakes at 6.00, that does not mean he is unhappy.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 12/03/2022 08:28

@PollyRoulllson

How do you know the dog is unhappy?

He just wakes at 6.00, that does not mean he is unhappy.

Okay - wrong choice of words but OP isn't happy so I really don't think it's that outrageous to suggest that she moves the dogs bed to see if it helps her get some more sleep.

The dog may be happy but I certainly wouldn't be signing up to years of being woken at 6am if there was an easy solution.

PollyRoulllson · 12/03/2022 08:34

There are many reasons owners may not want their dogs in their rooms.

Reasons from my recent clients:-
Is tube feed at nigh
Has sleep apnea machine
Has dialysis
Has children that need attention in the night which wakes the dog up
Has allergies that are worse with dog in the room at night
Bedroom is at front of house and the neighbours car wakesup the dog
Prefers to have the door open at night to listen to the children and the dog paces between rooms
Dog is a chewer and eats makeup shampoo etc when upstairs
Has an active sex life and does not want the dog joining in !
Wants the dogs to be independent as they will not always be able to walk up the stairs
Dog is a working dog and is on constant working mode if with the owner however chills out totally when on their own
Cats live upstairs and dogs live downstairs
Wants to teach their dog the life skill of being content on their own as may not always be at home sleeping due to shift work and holidays.
Doesnot want to sleep on old duvets as suggested on here!

PollyRoulllson · 12/03/2022 08:37

There are solutions but very few people on here are aware of them so they have just spouted out the have them in your bedroom which is the one thing the OP does not want to do.

Then berated her question - which is not unreasonable.

PollyRoulllson · 12/03/2022 08:37

the question is not unreasonable !

PollyRoulllson · 12/03/2022 08:38

Its like someone saying my dog pulls on the lead and the answers being well let the dog do this because he wants to. He is family and wants to show you the way.............

Dogs can be sleep trained to fit in with the owner exactly as you would your children.

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