@imovethestarsforno1 I think that is what I will have to end up doing. I have tried every day to leave him for a few minutes just to go upstairs, he cries and barks every time unless he has the lickimat, in which case I can get 20 mins but as soon as its all gone the barking and crying starts. I have been totally useless with it but now I feel we have almost everything else sorted I need to do it.
Pugpup had a great morning with the trainer this morning, he didn't really sleep there but went in the car with her and now this afternoon he was totally fine in the car with me for the first time, he wee'd outside at hers when they arrived and then asked at the door every time after that even though he's never been there before, he also mastered lie down which he's never done before and is doing it every time at home. He is going 2 mornings a week till mid April. In addition we will still do a few training sessions, main target is leaving him in the crate and continuing to get him to try and ignore people/dogs when out on the lead. He's so much better but at school today he was going crazy as there were people everywhere, normal lead walking is not too bad as there are only the odd 1 person or dog at a time.