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Next door neighbor. Bones.
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manic666 · 07/06/2020 13:46

He keeps on giving my dog bones from his Sunday dinner I've asked him not to and he stopped for a couple of weeks then started again. My dog accidentally got hold of bones when he was younger and I ended up in the vets luckily only costed me 50 (not that price mattered) as very luckily he only needed some antibiotics to treat a tear which healed on its own.

My sister said maybe I can report him to someone? I was thinking of writing a note saying that he has had to go to vets when he accidentally got them out of bin but he's been threatening me lately and police have been involved I have a long history of abuse from men so while I am frightened to confront him I must safe guard my dog. But police have told me not to interact with him. But this cannot go on any suggestions?

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 13:59

Don't know if people think I'm being petty as I know some people give dogs cooked bones but my dog was injured once and I just want to make sure he's not hurt again.

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HappyHammy · 07/06/2020 14:03

How does your dog get the bones. Is he throwing them over the fence. If you want advice you can call 101 as the police have been involved before.

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Wolfiefan · 07/06/2020 14:08

If he’s chucking them over the fence then don’t let the dog out until you’ve put them in the food waste. If he’s threatening you then I wouldn’t be sending notes.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 14:10

He is not chucking them over the fence I always leave my back door open so my dog can go in and out as he pleases unless it's very hot or bad weather. My dog is so friendly he goes to the neighbor and he hands him the bone. Then I spot it and have to take it away and swap it for a treat.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 14:13

Thinking about maybe not leaving him out without me on a Sunday that might work.

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Moondust001 · 07/06/2020 14:14

Watch your dog? Mine won't take or eat anything that isn't given to I'm by me, but it isn't easy to train a lot of dogs like that. So the only option is to supervise him. It doesn't have to be a neighbour giving bones. Where one of my friends lives, some bastard has been chucking poison over fences where there are dogs and cats. In other places dogs are being stolen from gardens. Unless your garden is very secure, it really isn't at all safe to let an unsupervised dog out. I know a lot of people do it, but that doesn't make it a good idea.

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HappyHammy · 07/06/2020 14:20

The dog goes round there for a treat and ndn might be looking forward to the dog visiting. If its only on Sunday then the simple solution is to not let your dog out unsupervised but I guess he could get the cold bone another day. The long term plan would be to not just leave the door open and teain dog not to run off. Have you tried giving dog bone treats instead.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 14:23

I am thinking you are right I never thought about the idea of poisoned meat I will have to supervise him, I just think it's sad because my dog likes having the run of the house and garden as he pleases.

I always check on him regularly hence why I spot the bone and quickly remove it I will supervise him out there from now on, I just thought it was better for him to have freedom to go in and out as he likes but I wouldn't want someone to poison him or steal him.

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Bertucci · 07/06/2020 14:24

Buy the neighbour a bag of bonios or something. Say you're happy for him to give one to the dog but no bones as they are dangerous.

I say that as someone who had a £1000 vet bill as my mum gave my dog a bone and a shard of it got stuck in his oesophagus.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 14:33

@Bertucci oh no I hope it didn't cause him too much distress, this is my fear or worse that my dog will die from the bone and obviously although I could afford vet fees and would do so for my boy I would prefer it not to happen. I think I will supervise him outside every time. What I could do is just sit out the garden with a book and then my dog can continue going in and out as he pleases.

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Wolfiefan · 07/06/2020 14:55

You don’t leave your dog loose on your insecure property whilst you’re not there. If it doesn’t eat a cooked bone and get Ill then it could get stolen.
You need to take responsibility here.

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Greenkit · 07/06/2020 15:01

How is he giving your dog bones, do you have a low fence or gate..

Could you make the garden more secure so your NDN doesn't have access to your dog?

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 15:04

@Wolfiefan I have already said that I hadn't thought of that and will rectify it immediately no need to continue having a go at someone who has seen something they were doing wrong and said they will change it.

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Wolfiefan · 07/06/2020 15:06

You really thought it was ok? Hmm
Dog stolen?
Can access neighbour who has been feeding it dangerous stuff and threatening you.
Could bark.
You need to arrange daycare if necessary. Not leave your dog at risk. It is your responsibility to keep your dog safe. How can you not think of that??

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 15:07

I thought it was nice for my dog to freely roam I wasn't doing it to be deliberately negligent and the minute the danger was pointed out to me I didn't argue or try to say anything other than admit I hadn't thought of that and that it will be rectified immediately.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 15:09

Don't be a bully. I have not argued that I was right I immediately saw the issue pointed out and said it would be immediately rectified don't get what more you want other than someone admitting they were wrong and saying it will not happen in future we can all make a error of judgement whilst believing we are doing what's best.

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Wolfiefan · 07/06/2020 15:10

But it’s your job to think when you have pets. You shouldn’t need strangers on a forum to tell you to keep your pet safe Confused

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 15:12

Obviously I didn't realize the danger or I wouldn't have openly admitted it on a forum. And as soon as someone told me I saw the danger straight away.

What exactly do you want me to do that I haven't?

I admitted I can now see the danger when alerted to it, resolved to remove the danger. What else must I do exactly?

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 15:14

I didn't even argue ffs I just saw the point being made accepted my thinking was wrong and immediately said I would rectify it.

I'm sure you've done something in good intentions which another person may have thought was silly.

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Moondust001 · 07/06/2020 15:19

OP don't get upset. Some people aren't happy unless they are making you miserable. Lots of people don't realise that there are bastards out there. You know now and will do something about it. If your dog likes to play outside when weather permits, are there things you can do to secure the garden, or provide a secure area. My friend had an inner fence around her patio area, for example, so she can open the patio doors, let the dog play in that area, but he can't get into the rest of the garden or out of her supervision without her letting him out.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 15:23

@Moondust001 thank you,, as it happens I was already planning on erecting a 6ft fence to stop my neighbor from saying anything nasty to me, just waiting till my friend can put it up. The wall at the bottom and one side is six foot but my neighbors boundary wall is only 4ft so I am intending on putting posts and panels up on my side. Just waiting till my friend can do it.

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Wolfiefan · 07/06/2020 15:39

Before I got a dog I read up on my legal responsibility. I had a homecheck and discussed the needs of the dog with the person who did that homecheck and the breeder too. I did my research. Why on Earth didn’t you?
It’s not about making you miserable. It’s wondering what else you’ve done without thinking. If you’re an adult with a pet you need to think.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 15:55

Well considering my dog is a extremely health 11 year old dog which is old for his age I'll assume I'm not that bad a owner now go bully someone else to make yourself feel better.

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manic666 · 07/06/2020 16:05

Oh and you still haven't answered my question of what else you want me to do exactly? Do you want me to beg for forgiveness? or repeatedly say I'm sorry? or maybe I should give up my very happy healthy loved family dog who is old for his breed to already overcrowded rescue? Where he probably won't get a home as he is old.

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Wolfiefan · 07/06/2020 16:11

No. But you should take responsibility. Think through what you do. All of it. The fact he is 11 doesn’t mean you’re not making mistakes. I’m not bullying to expect pet owners to know the law and their responsibilities. Confused

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