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Rehomed dog separation anxiety

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LoveUsed · 03/10/2019 22:00

We rehomed a dog last week from well known rescue centre, he’s 3 year old terrier cross. Was told he was being rehomed due to barking when left alone and the neighbours complained. To try and combat this the owners put him in a muzzle. He’s obviously been neglected, he’s underweight and hasn’t been groomed in what looks like forever. Owners apparently told rescue centre that they weren’t exercising him enough.

When I enquired about him the rescue centre said he had separation anxiety and that any time left alone would have to be a slow process. The girl said ‘5 minutes left alone, then 10 minutes and so on’ She also said that he had been fine in kennels and had barely barked.

I researched separation anxiety and thought it was something I could manage and work up to leaving him so reserved him and went to meet him a couple of times before bringing him home.

However putting it into practice has been quite different to what I have read. I have tried leaving a kong with treats in, boredom breakers etc but he eats a couple of the ones he can see and then comes to the baby gate we put up (practicing for when we leave him in kitchen ) and starts grumbling and barks. So far I have only been able to leave him for 3 mins in total while I potter in his eye sight and returning before he barks.

I have tried to start de sensitise him by putting my coat on, getting up but going nowhere etc.

I have had a behaviourist out to discuss it with me and he seems to think that with time (as it’s such early days) and practice the dog can manage it. Also because he’s just moved house essentially he’s going to be more anxious in the first place at the moment which hopefully will die down. At the moment dog follows me everywhere from room to room.

DH is away next week with work so I will have to do nursery drop off and picks up by myself and will have to leave the dog for 30 mins. Behaviourist gave me some tips to manage this and also said that it won’t traumatise the dog, just might take longer in the long run to get the desired outcome.

Anyway I’m sorry for the long post. I love this dog already but feel completely overwhelmed and just wanted some tips or any positive stories u can give me!

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LoveUsed · 07/10/2019 13:40

Had a bit of a cry just now.

Picked DS up from nursery and left dog in car. Left radio on and my phone recording to see if he barked and he didn’t so that’s a success. Don’t think he barked on Friday either but just wanted to make sure.

But then took DS and dog to the park near to our house. DS didn’t want to stay long at all (i think because I was so focused on what dog was doing and not actually playing with DS) and then Dog saw a cat and nearly dragged my arms out of the sockets. He was barking and generally being wild trying to get to this cat. I suddenly felt so unsafe having dog and DS at the same time and thinking how on earth am I ever going to manage walking them together. I don’t think dog will ever manage to be off lead.

I know I probably feel worse because I’m going to be on my own this week with no support but I just don’t know how I’m going to manage it.

Sorry for the ramble.

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ThisIsNotAIBUPeople · 07/10/2019 14:20

@LoveUsed poor you I'm so sorry that happened. It must have been a shock. We will do this together. Its so so hard and when you have a setback you just want to give up. Good thing is no one was hurt and you all got back home safely. Keep posting, I will check this thread, you can do thisThanks

LoveUsed · 07/10/2019 16:22

Thanks @ThisIsNotAIBUPeople

Have been doing some training this aft while DS naps, improving lots at sit, wait, stay, bed and some recall. I have a strong feeling the recall is redundant though, he literally only does anything if he physically sees the treat and if he sees a cat he’ll be gone no matter how many treats I wave in the air 😂

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ThisIsNotAIBUPeople · 07/10/2019 16:27

@LoveUsed where are you getting your training ideas from? I was going to take Sam to classes but he's not ready to go, however I do think he'd pick up some basics at home with me, just not sure where to start! I need an idiots guideGrin

LoveUsed · 07/10/2019 16:55

Do you mean what to train? Or how to do it?
I could pm you on here my ideas and how is going etc? Or what’s app u if u want to exchange numbers strictly for dog related things!

I have enquires about training too but I think it’s too early while he’s getting settled as well x

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LoveUsed · 07/10/2019 16:56

I have a clicker which I really think helps to let him know he’s done the correct action!

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ThisIsNotAIBUPeople · 07/10/2019 17:34

Ooh if I'll PM you my number that would be fabSmile

LoveUsed · 07/10/2019 18:33

I’ve what’s app u! I’ll reply with the training bits later 😊

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