No longer want to have our dog

[ashley1309]

I feel awful saying this but I no longer want our dog. We brought him from a rescue centre almost 3 years ago and he is a very placid and nearly perfect husky dog. He's loving and calm but now I've had a baby I just can't cope with it all. My baby girl is 9 months old and trying to juggle working, running a house, looking after her and managing a dog is all too much. The dog hair is driving me insane. I know I am a house proud person and I have tried to let go of some of my ways however, I won't allow my daughter to be covered in dog hair and having it in her mouth and stuff. I don't have time to hoover everyday, which is what my house needs. He also needs walking at least once day, or more, and quite frankly I just don't have time as I always have more pressing jobs to do related to work, home or baby. My partner works a funny shift pattern so also no longer really helps out with the house or the dog.
Essentially I think it's time we did the fair thing and allow him to move to a more loving home where he would get more time and attention, where he isn't shut out from parts of the house, and where he gets looked after better. However, I just don't think my partner will see this and agree. What do I do?

Get a zoom groom from amazon. They are amazing for dealing with dog hair.

All I can say is I hate people who have a pet-usually a dog,treat them like a baby until they have a baby. Then then lose interest.

You posted a thread saying in the title and the text that you no longer want your dog. You went on about dog hair and your daughter, you said you didn't have time to hoover and were house proud... Suddenly, after understandable criticism you're saying you love it and don't want to rehome it??

Do what's right for your family and the dog says the above poster! That means dump the dog and don't focus for a second on the fact that the dog, who has already been through this once, will be upset and bewildered. "Do what's best for your family" means be completely selfish.

It takes a LITTLE bit of organisation to cope with a baby and a dog and a house. I'm the absolute opposite of a domestic goddess and even I can Hoover a room in a matter of minutes.

And I'm sorry if I sound scathing, but I have a houseful of rescues dumped by people like yourself. I'm the one that picks up the pieces. I'm sorry but I am scathing!

I've had so many pets over the years. Including dog cat rabbit hamster. Yes it's difficult juggling your time but i would never,ever,get rid once I'd decided to rehome. Unless extreme circumstances-say dog attack
One we got them we keep em

Other posters are nutjobs who can't understand why you wouldn't sacrifice your first born for the sake of your dog. Don't ever bother posting here if you don't share that attitude."
wtf is wrong with you?who even describes people like that

Possibly people very strongly that peopke shouldnt have an animal and then decide to dumo it when they have kids.
I really hope op does change her mind now she’s had some helpful suggestions.
May have to be a little less house proud with a little one!

Am guessing you are the wind up merchant here as you've gone from wanting to hand him back to wouldn't dream of giving him up in a few hours. No I'm not a troll or a dog loving child hater. I'm a full time worker mum of four who juggles work with my shift working partner, whose common sense tells me dogs will need walking/ care/grooming/life long commitment. A bit like children really.…

I could never judge anyone in your position OP. We have a rescue husky who was dearly loved but because of a relationship breakdown the partner who was left with him couldn't cope. If she been berated for admitting her home life wasn't suitable I don't know what would have happened to him.

Bigonesmallone3, well doing what is best for the dog is unlikely to be trying to rehome him is it?

"It takes time to rehome"!!! Is that meant to be a joke for fucks sake? Do you even have any idea about dog rescue and rehoming? Yeah it may take time and in that time the poor dog will have to be in a kennel wondering what he did wrong AGAIN! Or maybe he will be put to sleep. Is that in his best interests?

@mydogisthebest
Yes actually sometimes it is dependant on the dogs home life, and I do know about rehoming as my MIL runs a dog rehoming charity, idiot

@mydogisthebest
Doesn't always mean time in a kennel!
Some charities arrange rehoming home-home or temporary fostering
Do u know anything about rehoming?

Iv had one of my dogs 9 years and she came to me from a very similar circumstance to yours. The lady loved her so much but as a big dog (Rottweiler) she just could provide the love and attention and walks the dog needed and couldn't leave the baby and dog alone so the dog kept getting shut in the kitchen.

The dog was rehired to me, we have 3 visists, took her for a walk and did a weekend test run to make sure we were the right people for the dog. She gets so much love and attention, lots of walks, never shut in different rooms and she loves us and loves life.

No matter what these posters are saying the absolute right thing to do was to rehome her - we have given her a better life. 9 years on we still send pictures to her original owners and they love seeing her so happy - they wanted the best for her.

Do what you think is best just be absolutely sure you rehome her to the right people.

I think your reasons for rehoming are a shame (hair and walking which are normal husky traits, rather than being concerned that dog isn’t happy living with a baby or similar). However if it’s really not working out and you’ve tried EVERYTHING then rehoming may be the best option. Better that than resenting your dog and not walking/spending time with it.
IF you really are trying to find a way to make it work you’ve had lots of suggestions, the only one I’d add is to buy a blaster - like a reverse vacuum cleaner. Great for Huskies as it blows all the loose hair out of their coat so you’ll find way less in your house. Much easier and quicker than brushing, just do it outside.
Also I don’t know why some people have said not to get a large dog if you work full time or are planning children, the breed and activity level needed is much more important than size. I’d rather have my Leonberger than a Border Collie (or a husky, for that matter).

OP, post in realtionships. Same post but change the focus to your workload: baby, work, housework and shit partner. Ask how to cope. This will be much mkre helpful to you.

I considered rehoming my cat when my dd was a toddler. We didnt. It was just the stress at that point of everything, on top of the cats anxiety and occasional weeing when something in the house changed. We manage that now as ther things are better.

Youre stressed. You need to address the stress and maybe get a better and more balanced daily routine.

Walk the dog with your daughter. Get a dog walker or ask someone you know to walk him (I would be happy to walk a neighbours dog and I’ve let my elderly neighbour know I’m available when needed). Hoover one room each day or the main room you spend time in. Get your partner to stop being a dick. Your daughter will grow and she will love that dog so much! I appreciate that some people might struggle with a dog and family but your reasons for wanting rid of him are petty. Poor pooch! I would never get rid of my furry family member.

I think it's a shame when people ask for help and get criticised. The OP is clearly struggling. I'm sorry I haven't had time to read all the replies, but if keeping the dog doesn't work for you then usually breed rescues are very good and will find a good home for your dog, so would suggest this route rather than rehoming via an Internet ad or whatever. I wish you luck, whatever you end up doing. I hope you manage to keep the dog though and work things out.

Bigonesmallone, sadly I know an awful lot about dog rescue and rehoming. I have many friends involved in rescue and 2 run dog rescues.

I know that most dogs in rescue are in kennels because not enough foster homes can be found. Many never find a home and others that do, like this dog (she got it as a rescue) are returned for silly petty reasons.

Having heard every excuse under the sun, usually pathetic ones, I don't have a lot of sympathy for people who get dogs then can't be bothered to put in some work and get rid of them

Poor dog. You didn’t deserve it in the first place.

I cannot stand people who get rid of pets until something new and shiny comes along - usually a baby

It deserves better owners.

You make rehoming a dog sound so easy MitchellMummy.

A lot of rescues, breed or otherwise, don't have spaces to take on more dog because they're already bursting at the seams with dogs that someone can no longer care for or just doesn't want to care for any longer.

Hard to rehome dogs might have to be pts, or a dog might just not appeal to anyone and could be in kennels for some time.

It's not always just a case of, don't want the dog anymore, give it to a rescue and the dog will find a lovely, loving new home.

Did you not think about these things when getting a dog? The dog shedding and amount of walks it would need? I just don’t understand how people can get a dog with out doing proper research! There are dogs that don’t shed, you could have got one of those! Hire a dog walker if you don’t have time to walk the dog. But also, don’t you take your child out for walks in the stroller? You could easily walk the dog and the baby. It’s overwhelming now, but this will pass. Surely, you must love your dog enough to pass the difficult year or two? If not, then what was the point in getting the dog in the first place??

When ds +dil split up I fostered their ddog for a while. Mners assisted me in getting him a place at a reputable rescue. He was rehomed. Unfortunately due to the changes he had a breakdown and had to be pts. Not every rehoming has a happy ending op.

Sorry, I didn't mean to make it sound so easy. I know that's not the case. Breed rescues often rehome from the old home to new in situations such as this where it's not (so) urgent. I was trying to be constructive if the OP was set on rehoming (suggesting breed rescue). Lots of other good suggestions on here too but trying not to wade in with criticism when someone asking for help. You're right of course, some dogs don't make it through the rehoming process as per Snowwontbelong says above.