No longer want to have our dog

[ashley1309]

I feel awful saying this but I no longer want our dog. We brought him from a rescue centre almost 3 years ago and he is a very placid and nearly perfect husky dog. He's loving and calm but now I've had a baby I just can't cope with it all. My baby girl is 9 months old and trying to juggle working, running a house, looking after her and managing a dog is all too much. The dog hair is driving me insane. I know I am a house proud person and I have tried to let go of some of my ways however, I won't allow my daughter to be covered in dog hair and having it in her mouth and stuff. I don't have time to hoover everyday, which is what my house needs. He also needs walking at least once day, or more, and quite frankly I just don't have time as I always have more pressing jobs to do related to work, home or baby. My partner works a funny shift pattern so also no longer really helps out with the house or the dog.
Essentially I think it's time we did the fair thing and allow him to move to a more loving home where he would get more time and attention, where he isn't shut out from parts of the house, and where he gets looked after better. However, I just don't think my partner will see this and agree. What do I do?

Wow! How slated.

I literally signed up today to receive encouragement and support, yet I feel abused. No I did not post this for sympathy or acknowledgment. I purely posted it for support and possible ways of solving the problem. So thanks to those who have actually suggested helpful gadgets to help like a robot hoover, not heard of that.

I won't be giving up my dog. And only ever had his best interests.

To all you haters, trollers, horrible people. It's appalling that you would even waste your time saying unhelpful and negative comments. Doesn't help anyone, including the dog who for the record, I love very very much.

Please re home your dog to a family who will give him the life he deserves

Hmm...so you went from not wanting your dog and essentially thinking it was time to rehome him to not giving him up...

You said you no longer wanted the dog.
So now you’ve changed your mind?
I really hope this is a troll rather than someone really resenting and likely neglecting their dog.

Bit of a turn around there OP.

Well you can’t love him that much seeing as his basic needs aren’t being met and you wanted to give him up to a “more loving home”?

But you said you wanted to give him up. What did you expect?

I feel awful saying this but I no longer want our dog.

In the space of 8 hours to

I won't be giving up my dog.

who for the record, I love very very much.

I did wonder if this was just another 'get everyone frothing' thread.

you need to develop a thicker skin posting on mumsnet, let alone The Doghouse,

Some posters have said horrible things. You were unwise to get a husky without being truly dedicated. However, some posters who are criticising you will not have young children and will have little appreciation of the stresses. I think you should rehome your dog carefully and feel no guilt. Circumstances change and we have to adapt.

You love the dog that you wanted to give up eight hours ago...

@lljkk no one is suggesting they “sacrifice” the child.
But should people see pets as some kind of baby substitute and then ditch them when they have a child? No.
If OP had said they were struggling and asked for ideas to cope that would’ve been different. Instead we get “there’s hair” no shit! And I don’t want it any more.

I have a husky, I could never let her go
just because I had the kids! There are odd days where she will go without a walk and be just fine and I don't feel guilty. Tbh I found it easier to walk her When the baby was still in a pushchair than once she was walking as she couldn't keep up with the dog! We also get her groomed every 3 months which does help with the fur but not completely by any
Means and I have to hoover daily,
I just find time. Like PP have said you can't get rid of a dog just because you've had a baby, I have three nearly 4 children, work part time and still manage to walk the dog and hoover etc. If you can't find an hour a day to walk your dog and hoover I would be surprised, it sounds like an excuse.

Hmm, I did wonder if it was that sort of thread, and it seems it was.

Yes let’s all ‘rehome ’ family members when we decide we can’t be bothered with the commitment we signed up to. Anyone who is crap with animals is crap with humans. Enjoy being a mum.

So you got a fluffy cute puppy to cuddle and pretend to parent but as soon as the real life dolly came along you want to send the dog away. Lovely. What are you going to do when your cute little play doll starts pouring drink on the floor and throwing toys and generally ruining your house?

Stop being lazy and hoover your house, don't let the dog on the baby play mat. Get off your arse and walk it like you did before you had a baby. Surely you have a pram. Tell your useless partner to do his share.

Your partner is a lazy bastard and you are bloody horrible OP. Do not ever get another animal and please for the love of god do not have another child. You might not be able to cope...

Any thoughts I have had about rehoming have been about dc!!

I was in the same situation, had a very energetic rescue dog for 3 years when DS came along 2 years ago. DP works long hours on a weird shift pattern and I'd had an EMCS that I struggled to recover from. It was never a question of getting rid of our dog, he's family, we worked around it. DP would get up an hour early to walk the dog before going off to do his 12 hour shifts and he'd walk him again when he got home. Once I was well enough to go for walks I put baby in his pram and off we went. It was good for all of us to get out in the fresh air and it's still part of our routine now and I'm pregnant with DC2. I take the grooming brush with me so I can leave the fur outside for the birds. I understand the frustration at the mess but you got the dog so you must have known what you were signing up for having a baby too. If you do really love your dog then you'll make it work.

OP, you obviously don't love your dog very very much or you would never have thought about getting rid of him let alone posting about it on here.

You deserve every negative comment you got. The people whose posts you take exception to are not nasty or trolls, they are decent animal lovers who don't believe you should get a dog then just rid at the drop of a hat.

Kool4katz, so I ask again. If the OP posted that she had several children and couldn't cope what would the replies be? You know damn well no one would suggest having a child adopted or put into care.

If you take on the responsibility of a pet then you look after them not just throw them out. OP should not have had a child with her attitude

You feel abused? How do you think your dog will feel when you throw him out because you have something better now?

OP if I were u I wouldn't bother reading or absorbing half the horrid messages on here, u do what's best for u, ur family, ur mental state and the dog.
Just make sure ur responsible with rehoming.. it takes time.

Never heard of a robot hoover? Really?

Have you been living under a log for the last 5 years?

Poor dog,your his people ,his human,he loves you .you gave him a home when no one else did...you must be very stressed ,it is hard ,job and baby ,give it more time with pooch ..he loves you ❤️