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Anyone awake?

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OhLawdy · 18/09/2018 01:27

I put my pup to sleep in the kitchen for the first time tonight and it's been 2 hours and she is still barking :(
It's so loud. I'm worried about my neighbours and I can't sleep either!

She can't sleep in my room as my bed is low and she just jumps in it and bites my hair/face, plus my furniture is designed in a way where it juts out and she just tries to chew it all night.

I'm so stressed. Someone please tell me I'm doing the right thing. I feel awful

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bpisok · 18/09/2018 21:19

I am up for at least a couple of hours so let me know when you're both knackered

Wolfiefan · 18/09/2018 21:25

It IS more stressful than a newborn. Neither of my children ever chewed through a wall or bit as newborns.
But it gets easier. MUCH. This is the worst of it.

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OhLawdy · 18/09/2018 22:12

Ok have brought crate into my room. Will try again but I just know she's gonna freak

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bpisok · 18/09/2018 22:20

Have you worn her out yet???

Wolfiefan · 18/09/2018 22:25

If she’s freaking out you’re crate training wrong. Can she see you from the crate?

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OhLawdy · 18/09/2018 22:27

Yes I'm sat next to her. And I'm doing everything it says online. Food in the crate. Positive reinforcements. She just freaks when the door is shut

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OhLawdy · 18/09/2018 22:28

She's howling and barking now and I'm right next to her

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bpisok · 18/09/2018 22:35

Don't shut the door. Stay really close to the door and stroke her

Wolfiefan · 18/09/2018 22:36

So you can’t shut the door. She’s spent so long being upset in the crate that’s she’s learnt it’s a scary place. If she “freaks” she’s scared.

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OhLawdy · 18/09/2018 22:38

I'm sat next to her and she's actually gone to sleep

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adaline · 18/09/2018 22:39

Don't shut her in. Sit next to it and comfort her. Reassure her that you're there.

If she's distressed with the door closed you're moving too quickly. You can't shut her in a crate and expect her to be okay without training.

adaline · 18/09/2018 22:39

X-post.

That's good! Bless her.

Wolfiefan · 18/09/2018 22:40

Yay! Hope she sleeps soundly. The early weeks are bloody hard. Sleep helps.

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OhLawdy · 18/09/2018 22:42

The doors shut.

If she wakes up I'll just sit with her

I'm really sorry if I was snappy earlier.

I've just got so many people telling me what to do and it's so confusing. Must be to her too :(

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Wolfiefan · 18/09/2018 22:56

Not snappy. Confused and overwhelmed. We’ve all been there. (Or was that just me?! )
It’s hard because everyone has the way that worked for them but all homes and dogs are different. Good luck OP.

bpisok · 18/09/2018 23:09

Yay!!!! But don't leave her. Stay with her all night. You haven't said how old she is. ...you will probably need to get her up if she's not used to going through the night. Normally I wait until she stirs and then take her that very second. Pick her up, carry her to where you want her to go, say toilet and then wait for 5 mins (not talking). Carry her back whilst stroking calmly and pop her back in bed. Then lay next to cage again. Whenever she wakes up stroke her but don't talk . If she doesn't settle take her outside as before

Well done. We are rooting for you!!!

You're not Scott free yet - it's going to take a few days before she thinks she is safe in her cage. And then you can finally get some sleep

It's 2 weeks tomorrow Lexy arrived aged 9 weeks with no toilet training and having never been in a cage. The last 3 days she has slept through from 11.30 to 6.00. The first few days I referred to her as the f*cking pup bastard from hell (and meant it 😁). So I feel your pain.

Anyway I am still awake (catching up on the work I didn't do today due to her acting like she was on speed) - but she has been zonked out for an hour so I will get her up for the loo at 1 in the hopes she will wake at 7. Then she goes to the toilet, eats, bounces off the walls and then TAKES HERSELF to her crate to sleep for another 2 hours

Remind me, why did we think pups were a good idea haha

Wolfiefan · 18/09/2018 23:18

I don’t know. And I’m thinking of puppy number two. I need my head read.

bpisok · 18/09/2018 23:21

@Wolfiefan - all I can say is that you must be barking mad😁

Wolfiefan · 18/09/2018 23:23

I am actually diagnosed as such by a GP!
My girl is two now. Calm and relaxed and great recall. No chewing. Fine on the lead. But she’s a giant breed and they don’t live long. She will break me when she goes. It’s sad to say she’s my best mate.
The early days are bloody hard. Hell our first few months were a nightmare at time. But the hard work pays off.

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OhLawdy · 18/09/2018 23:24

She's next to my bed so won't leave her.

She is 10 weeks and 3 days. Still a tiny baby.

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Tracey5469 · 19/09/2018 00:02

When I got my first dog, 18months ago I slept downstairs with him the first night. The next night he slept in his bed all night with one of my old jumpers over him like a blanket. That might work. Give him a little teddy to cuddle with, but make sure you put yor scent on it first then he shouldn't miss you so much. Hope this helps

bpisok · 19/09/2018 00:35

@OhLawdy - yep, a tiny baby. Mine is a the same age.
Really sorry I was so harsh earlier. I think it was because I couldn't imagine leaving my puppy to cry for hours. I am not a total softy but I can't see how psychologically it could be good for anyone (you or her). In simplistic terms (and the same in humans) in order to make it do what you want, it needs to either (a) trust/love you and want to make you happy or (b) be scared of you and be frightened of being punished or (c) believe in a god who will pass ultimate judgement on their behaviour. Leaving it to cry was in my mind was (d) making a baby feel scared, alone and abandoned, not making it love you and not making it scared of you either

I am sure (a) and (b) get results but I know what I prefer - even in a work environment I would rather my team did things to make me happy than did things so they wouldn't get a verbal warning. They want to make me happy in the hope of an eventual reward of promotions/pay rises.

Same approach just different rewards. If only I could lob a piece of ham at my team to get them to do something they didn't want to do life would be so much easier... but on the flip side dogs will do so much for so little pay back so long as it's now this instant not tomorrow
Hopefully you are asleep... let me know how your night went

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OhLawdy · 19/09/2018 03:51

Shes still asleep!

Shesnwokenna few times, sat up, looked at me and gone back to sleep.

I'm in shock.

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twoheaped · 19/09/2018 05:54

So glad having her next to you has worked.

The thing with trainers is that they have one way and one way only. There is always more than one way to achieve something.
Doesn't mean your trainers crap, just means their ways may not be right for your puppy.

Wolfiefan · 19/09/2018 07:22

Yay. Hoping you wake feeling better this morning.

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