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Puppy has to go :(

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Bumchin101 · 20/02/2018 16:56

We recently got a dachshund (31st Jan) she's 5 months old. Since having her my DS whose 4 has been so nasty towards her to the point she is constantly locked in the kitchein for her and DS safety. DS use to be so loving and caring and since getting dpup he has changed. I've tried disaplining DS but nothing seems to be working. Most of the time he's just playing with Dpup but he always goes overboard and ends up hurting her. It's getting so bad Dpup has started jumping up at people's faces and going to bite them and has even bit DS a couple of times. I'm worried as I have a 2 week old DD and concerned that dpup will hurt DD. I don't want to have to rehome dpup and we live my mil who has really bonded with her and gets upset everytime I mention it might be a possibility, but I have tried everything I can think if and nothing is changing. Not sure what i want from posting this really.

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PhelanThePain · 20/02/2018 18:11

actually yes I did do my research.

But that didn’t extend as far as checking if the breeder would take her back? I’m not convinced your research was that thoroughly. certainly not thorough enough.

The decision to rehome has not been made lightly.

Not as lightly as the decision to get her, clearly.

PhelanThePain · 20/02/2018 18:13

Why was the pup still with the breeder at 4 months btw? You didn’t answer.

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Bumchin101 · 20/02/2018 18:17

I honestly did not post this so I can get told how stupid I was. Yes I did do my research, I did not get the puppy because she is cute, I love this breed and have done for a very long time. Yes I thought I would be able to cope and yes I hold up my hands I realise I haven't coped as well as I thought I would. I know none of this is fair on the dog. like I've said I did not know DS would act this way as he has been round animals before and not once acted out like this. We're not doing this light hearted we have tried everything.

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BiteyShark · 20/02/2018 18:18

I grew up with dogs but until you are 100% responsible for them I don't think you can appreciate all the hard work that a puppy entails. I found it hard and I have no children let alone a 2 week old and another small one. The thing is they are land sharks as a puppy and then become wilful and defiant as a teenager before blossoming into an adult dog as long as you have done the training.

I am glad you are looking at rehoming responsibly which is the most important thing right now.

Ylvamoon · 20/02/2018 18:19

Have you tried looking on here for training class?
www.thekennelclub.org.uk/training/good-citizen-dog-training-scheme/information-for-dog-owners/good-citizen-dog-scheme-training-clubs/

Generally I believe you should re- home ...But with hard work and consistency you could make this work. Use training class for you and DS to have some special time training the puppy...

PhelanThePain · 20/02/2018 18:23

I apologise OP. I have been harsh. It is however extremely exasperating to see this exact story played out time and time again both IRL and on MN. I’m sorry but people really don’t put enough consideration into having a dog and I don’t think you have either but i’ll Leave it at that. I hope you get her properly rehomed soon. In the meantime your DS can’t be in the same room as her unless there is no chance of him going near her.

Kerryb79 · 20/02/2018 18:24

Where abouts in the UK are you? And are you looking to privately rehome?

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Bumchin101 · 20/02/2018 18:24

@phelanthepain sorry a bit sleep deprived puppy was actually 10 weeks old so almost 4 months now. Feel like my days have melted into one and didn't realise the date. The breeder did say she would have taken her back if we hadn't got the chip changed over already. The breeder was also researched and spoke to many of the other puppy owners from this litter.

I am aware of their spinal condition and the puppy is not allowed on the sofas and we do have stair gates in place, she does not go up the stairs and we are very careful when picking her up. I know it may seem like we have done our research but we have. This was not done on a whim, this was discussed for many months and in hindsight know we should have got her at a later date and will hold my hands up to my mistake.

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rocketgirl22 · 20/02/2018 18:30

You already feel bad enough, and do you know what we all make mistakes? No one has been hurt and you are doing the right thing.
If you in laws won't take her the rescue centre is the best place. A two week old baby and the puppy are particularly not a good mix.

By your son a toy dog to replace the puppy and try and put it behind you with reassuring words to your son.

The puppy will soon have a new home and I would not mention anything more about it in future. Your ds is still learning how to manage himself and I am sure he didn't mean to hurt the puppy. Nonetheless it is not safe for any of them, so sort it out swiftly and put it down to experience.

rocketgirl22 · 20/02/2018 18:31

question mark shouldn't be there.

dantdmistedious · 20/02/2018 18:31

Poor dog.

Have you contact daschund rescues?

I'm very surprised a reputable breeder wouldn't take her back. Can you arrange to change the Chip details back to the breeder?

Chippyway · 20/02/2018 18:43

Poor dog

tinymeteor · 20/02/2018 18:48

I think some of the replies on here are overly harsh. This may be the doghouse section but we're on a parenting site and the OP is the mother of a newborn - a bit of empathy is called for.

OP, obviously this was a mistake but the breeder should have known better than to send a puppy to a household where a new baby was imminent and not expect it to come back. They've failed as much as you. They clearly can't be trusted to have the dog back. Rehoming is the right thing for the puppy and for your family. Hope you manage to find a good rescue so you can get on with enjoying your new baby.

villainousbroodmare · 20/02/2018 18:50

Breeder is being ridiculous. As they often are. It's very easy to change microchip details... you would do it if you moved house or got a new phone number. Weakest excuse I've ever heard.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 20/02/2018 18:57

I think people have been a bit harsh on you here. The only mistake you made was thinking you could cope with bringing up a puppy and a newborn baby, although I’d have made the same mistake as my babies were easy and I’ve grown up with dogs too. You couldn’t possibly have foreseen that your previously perfectly normal 4yo would turn out to be jealous and cruel to animals. Nobody would. That must have been an unpleasant shock in itself. I hope he grows out of it and you’re able to have a dog in the future. Flowers

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 20/02/2018 19:04

Not really sure what the point of continuing to harangue the OP is - I think the point has been made.

OP if you're looking at general rescues, consider the Dogs Trust. They have a centre in Newbury, never put a healthy dog down (the same cannot be said for the likes of the RSPCA) and have excellent behavioural support both within the centres and post adoption for new owners

anxious2017 · 20/02/2018 19:08

Your breeder is not reputable, so you didn't research well enough. ANY reputable breeder will make you sign a contract to say that if you have any issues that lead to rehoming, the dog MUST be returned to them, no matter the age. It takes a few minutes to update a microchip.

Poor puppy. I'd have her if I could afford another dog.

BiteyShark · 20/02/2018 19:12

I'm very surprised a reputable breeder wouldn't take her back. Can you arrange to change the Chip details back to the breeder?

Sounds like the chip thing is just an excuse by the breeder not to take pup back so OP is right to rule that path out as it's best that puppies next home is one that wants her rather than the breeder that clearly doesn't.

UrsulaPandress · 20/02/2018 19:18

Every day's a new day.

meandmytinfoilhat · 20/02/2018 19:52

Contact the red foundation, they will find your dog a new home.

thereinmadnesslies · 20/02/2018 20:06

The microchip excuse is a pretty poor excuse. We recently adopted a puppy who was returned to the breeder after 10 days by the previous owner. All it requires is for the person registered with the microchip to get a code from the microchip website which allows the new owner to update the microchip details. It cost me £17 to register as the new owner including lifetime updates to address etc (the breeder was always upfront that this was a cost to the new owner, and I was fine with it).
Good luck making the decision OP, but I think the welfare of the puppy and your DS’s wellbeing needs to come first.

ToothTrauma · 20/02/2018 20:08

Rehome the dog. She will be snapped up if you take her to a reputable rescue. PLEASE don’t put her on gumtree or sell her to a stranger.

Do it now while she’s young, for her sake. She’s no life at the moment and your children aren’t safe.

CapnHaddock · 20/02/2018 20:15

A decent breeder will take the dog back so it's not a decent breeder

Surrender your puppy to these people: dachshundrescue.org.uk/

And never get another dog

HonkyWonkWoman · 20/02/2018 20:23

It would be best to rehome the puppy through Dachundrescue asap, as pp stated there is a waiting list.

Please keep your Ds away from the puppy until it goes as the poor little thing must be terrified.
So sorry it hasn't worked out for you or the puppy, I'm sure that you were well meaning.

Wakeuptortoise · 20/02/2018 20:32

My nearly 4yo ds has changed from an amenable and over sensitive little boy to a demanding, obstinate, grumpy, naughty boy who thinks he knows how to do everything by himself but actually doesn't, dangerously so in some situations. He's been like it since Christmas. I'm guessing it's a development phase and it shall pass with some strong parental help. Hopefully your boy will grow out of his problem phase too, but not fair on the puppy to wait. Rehome pup and reconsider in a few years.
I would suggest phrasing it so he doesn't feel resentment about the Rehome or transfer to his baby sis. Maybe something like, we're not ready for a puppy and it's better for the puppy to go to a new grown up owner.