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The doghouse

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My dog went for my 18 month old

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 19:10

I have two Bichon Frise both have been spolit since ive had them,one is 8 and the other 7. Since having my baby they have been okay with her,just curious but never showed any sign of aggression atall. Now my daughter is getting older and has found her feet she has also realised we have the two dogs and will not leave them alone,she pulls their ears hits them all sorts,everytime I tell her off and I have showed her countless times how to stroke them nicely. Today she grabbed the older dog by his ears and would not let go I was shouting and trying to get her hands off him and the dog went for her just as she released her grip,I managed to pull her up as i already had hold of her hands. My question is what do i do? This is not my dogs fault and my husband is all up for shipping them off to his mums to live. What would you do?

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 07/01/2014 19:39

Crate training is a process that takes time, you can't just buy a crate and expect the dogs to just love it.

AHardDaysWrite · 07/01/2014 19:41

Can't they stay in the kitchen with a stairgate?

ToffeeOwnsTheSausage · 07/01/2014 19:44

Your dd is in the wrong but she can't be blamed as she is too young to know if she hasn't been consistently told no enough.

The dogs aren't in the wrong as they have been putting up with being abused for quite a while it seems.

MothershipG · 07/01/2014 19:45

It's not fair to keep them crated all the time, if you can't keep them apart any other way then I think you should see if your Mum will have them.

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 19:45

Yes stairgate and kitchen would work I think. They havebeen in crates before and wer fine its just now we have a smaller house the crates had to go. Ill have to throw away some furniture to make room but it has to be done i know. The stairgate accross the kitchen is needed aswell.

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ThisLittlePiggyStayedHome · 07/01/2014 19:45

I don't think you deserve to be shouted at at all, OP. The advice you've been given is spot on, but the tone of some of the replies is completely unnecessary.

You've come here recognising that something has to change, willing to accept criticism for how you've managed things so far, demonising neither dogs nor toddler and concerned for the welfare of each. There's no reason why people couldn't take a "great that you've recognised this can't go on, here's how I'd address it" approach, some just choose to try to make you feel worse instead.

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 19:47

We have quite wide doors (old cottage) but my husband can make a stairgate im sure.

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ThisLittlePiggyStayedHome · 07/01/2014 19:48

Many x-posts there, I was responding directly to your "I deserve to be shouted at on here" post.

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 19:49

Absolutely know its not my daughters fault bless her but its not the dogs either,its mine and I should have seperated them ages ago. When my daughter grabs the dogs its always very quick and the dogs rarely react buttoday she hurt him badly and he snapped quite understandably!!!!

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Dinnaeknowshitfromclay · 07/01/2014 19:50

Re-home them nicely or baby gate. The crate idea doesn't sound great from the dogs point of view. They might have more of a life at the MILs. I would go the MIL route tbh.

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 19:51

Thanks this little piggy i am crying whilst reading all these posts. It is my fault though :-)

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BrownSauceSandwich · 07/01/2014 19:52

To be honest, given the limitations of space, and that you have somebody who you know can offer them a good home, I'd really seriously consider letting your MIL take them. If it was a choice between an uncertain fate in a rescue centre, I might try harder with fencing off the kitchen, or engineering an escape upstairs, but it's going to be a stressful life for the dogs and for you, and still risky for your daughter.

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 19:53

Do anyone elses dogs live in the kitchen? Going to feel so sorry for them because they normally have free run of the house.well i say house kitchen and front room.

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TheGreatHunt · 07/01/2014 19:58

Dogs living in a kitchen is grim. Sorry.

My mum did this and despite how clean she thought she was, when I found dog hair in a meal, I never ate there again

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 20:02

I dont mean live all the time,just while my daughters around,when she goes to bed they can go back in the front room and then their beds are upstairs so they come up to bed with us,unfortunatly they cant get up the stairs by themselves because theyre both scared of them.

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HoneyDragon · 07/01/2014 20:21

I have the same layout as you Tobeytoes.

I have a freakishly large batty Labrador and a small dd.

Dd was 2 when we had her as a bitey land shark.

I have a stair gate between the lounge and living room. And a stair gate on the stairs.

We needed an extended gate due to a stupid door.

When the child is free ranging Hully hangs in the kitchen. She's happy as I'm always in and out. During nap times (or now preschool times) she has the run of downstairs.

In the summer, I'm in the garden with dcs, the dog is in.

The dcs are inside when it's the dogs turn. If we are all out, the dog is playing too, the dcs join in with training.

Dd and the dog are now 4 years old and eighteen months and very fond of each other.

I've had Labradors in kitchens for all my adult life and haven't killed anyone yet. My kitchen is spotless.

HoneyDragon · 07/01/2014 20:22

Oh and obviously dog is in with us after bed time

HoneyDragon · 07/01/2014 20:24

TheGreatHunt

I wish I had friends like you, I'd be wealthier, mine deliberately come round when they think I might be cooking dinner.

I may save the dogs hair after her next brush and start planting it in meals

Although saying that my hair gets in the food and that doesn't seem to put them off

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 20:26

Thanks honeydragon ive just spoke to my husband and I said if I have to cook and my daughter wants to stay in front room i can take dogs in the kitchen with me and if she wants to come in the kitchen i will put dogs in the front room. Its so hard because my little one is so active and she lovess running through into the kitchen and back into the front room and we have so little space.

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HoneyDragon · 07/01/2014 20:30

I felt like that at first but.........

As dd got older it was brilliant, she can play nicely in the front room and can't come flying in and get under my feet when I'm cooking / dishing up.

And sometimes, I can hide behind the gate and coffee and Mnet and she can't get me

MrsDeVere · 07/01/2014 20:34

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furbaby · 07/01/2014 20:35

Think you have all the advice you need tobytoes but I just want to add good for you in realising things are not working at present and taking advice from others without getting shitty .
I think you can all live in harmony and dogs will be fine in one room while child around as long as they have quality time with you when child in bed .
Good luck

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 20:42

Thankyou everyone. I cant have a go at anything anyone has said because I know your all right. I was in a panic whe I wrote this but I feel calmer now with all the good advice and feel a bit better about the situation. Feel sad for my dogs but they know I love them.....i hope and they will hopefully start to like the hastle free environment in the kitchen. Theyll be peeking through the gate looking at the coal fire and moaning :-o my heart!!

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SnakeyMcBadass · 07/01/2014 20:53

They'll get used to the new rules, toby, and you'll be able to relax knowing that DD is safe. You're doing it for their sake as well as DD's, so ignore the puppy dog eyes

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tobytoes · 07/01/2014 20:55

Ill try and I have to think,its not forever. And to this hubby and i were on about baby no2 today ah hahahahahahahaha!!!!!! That is a histerical laugh by the way!!!!

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