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What to do with the dog ashes?

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 18:33

Just picked him up. Thought I'd just pop him on top of the bookcase but I keep looking at the box and weeping (again).

But I don't want him shut away in a cupboard either.

Or should I plant him with a tree?

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 18:34

Also, smalldog is missing him dreadfully. Any ideas there?

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EasyToEatTiger · 09/08/2013 18:42

Planting a tree to remember him by is a lovely idea. Some people scatter the ashes somewhere special. Ashes in a box is dreadfully sad and it may help to remember him by something you both enjoyed doing together.

I'm not sure how to help a grieving dog. I'm sure someone here will have experience. I'm very sorry for your loss.

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 18:48

I like the tree idea I think. I don't think I want to scatter him. It'd be too much every time I walked there.

It is a nice nice wooden box. Not a shabby cardbord one.

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ButThereAgain · 09/08/2013 18:48

Sorry that you have lost your dog.

I scattered my dog's ashes on a lovely bit of a local dog walk. But then I was daft enough to change my mind and I scraped some up again to scatter where I was laying a new bit of lawn and an apple tree.

He was fond of shoving his way through our hedge to snaffle windfall apples in the neighbours' garden so it seemed appropriate. I call the new bit of lawn the Spike Memorial Garden.

I think the garden option is a good one, if you have a suitable space. Gone enough for closure, but present enough for memory.

PseudoBadger · 09/08/2013 18:52

I'm sorry for your loss :( I'm afraid I have no idea how to help your other dog, do you have anything that smells of him that he could snuggle to?

I intend to scatter my older dog's ashes on his favourite beach in Norfolk when he dies.

PseudoBadger · 09/08/2013 18:53

Sorry I've just seen that you don't want to scatter. The tree (or a rose?) idea is lovely.

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 19:26

Might plan a tree.
Will keep him on thhe bookcasefor now while I ponder it.

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Frettchen · 09/08/2013 19:29

My girl's ashes are currently in their little urn, inside a bigger wooden box which my sister gave me a few Christmasses back, having painted a picture of my first ever cat on it (sadly she, the cat, died 4 years ago) I plan on keeping the ashes until I can move out of this grotty house, then to plant a holly tree (her name was Holly) in the new house and scatter her ashes underneath it.

I stole the idea from my mum, who has our first family dog's ashes scattered under an ornamental cherry tree in their garden.

topbannana · 09/08/2013 20:04

Sorry the worst did happen cervix :(
When BlackDog was PTS, GingerDog was bereft, in a way we had never seen him before. We tried everything to cheer him up but unless he was out in the fields then he was miserable. The arrival of a new puppy was the only thing that helped him even though he hated him at first

Floralnomad · 09/08/2013 20:04

We have our Belgian hares ashes on a window sill ( in a wooden box) with a photo of him next to them . My mum has a selection of ashes in her sideboard

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:08

I think you can have jewelry made from ashes.

I still have my horse's remains in a black bin liner. She is currently in the greenhouse. She died in 1996. I cannot scatter her as she is sort of clinker and would hang around looking at me.

I used to keep her under my bed and touch her every night before I went to sleep.

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:09

I intend to have her put in with me when I go.

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:10

A Belgian hare?

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 20:10

DD1 and DH think tree.

DD2 and me think keep box on bookcase.

Might do both. Get a tree but not bury him.

I'm ok. Still dissolve into weeping frequently.

But there is possibly/probably new pup on the horizon. She needs a home and we had thought we'd get her before BigDog reached his end.
It's too soon really but she needs us. And it would help Small.

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 20:11

Exit, a horse must make quite a bagful. I was surprised how big and heavy BigDogs box is.

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cathpip · 09/08/2013 20:13

Both our boys (litter brothers) are scattered halfway along coniston water on a lovely little beach, it was there favourite walk and when we visit the lakes (about once a year) we always do a walk to Jake and Bryns beach to say hello.
For the first month we did put the urns in places that they were not allowed in the house, like upstairs on the sofa and the dining room table:)

Floralnomad · 09/08/2013 20:13

We have 4 lots of horse ashes ( in mums sideboard ) ,Belgian hares are a type of rabbit but very intelligent and trainable ,ours was like a dog !

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:13

On yes. There is a lot of her. But not ground down to a dust unfortunately.

Goodkingwalkingslass · 09/08/2013 20:14

I collected my dog's ashes yesterday :-(

Same as you, don't know what to do with them.

Sorry for your loss, it's horrible, it really is.

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:14

How did you get th to ashes Flora?

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 20:16

I did take him for a walk in the forest after I collected him Blush.
Vet nurse said her girl lives in her car still so she can take her to work with her every day.

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Floralnomad · 09/08/2013 20:16

Horse ashes are quite big ,where we have ours done he puts a portion in a box for display / burial or whatever . We have had all our animals cremated at the same place .

TerraNotSoFirma · 09/08/2013 20:18

I'm sorry for your loss. :(
When my eldest dog goes, I plan to scatter her ashes around a favourite spot where we used to stop during our walk, would something like that be an option?

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:19

So you don't get all of them?

NationMcKinley · 09/08/2013 20:23

So sorry for your loss cervix. My beautiful cats ashes are also in a nice wooden box on the bookcase Sad. We've bought a Japanese Acer and a nice pot to put it in. We're going to plant the tree with his ashes mixed with the compost. I didn't want to sprinkle his ashes randomly as I want to keep him close . We don't plan on staying in this house hence the need for a pot. Once we move (hopefully for the long term) we'll plant the Acer out. I do feel for you, it's so tough isn't it?

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