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What to do with the dog ashes?

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 18:33

Just picked him up. Thought I'd just pop him on top of the bookcase but I keep looking at the box and weeping (again).

But I don't want him shut away in a cupboard either.

Or should I plant him with a tree?

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binger · 11/08/2013 21:28

I have my dog's ashes in a cabinet in the living room, She died 10years ago. I'm keeping them so they can go with me when it's my turn. My gorgeous current girl will also be with me. I'll probably need a bigger casket just to accommodate all my girls lol.

Callmedreckly · 10/08/2013 23:46

My DDog is coming home next week, he was pts yesterday.
I think he will go in the lounge. Im not coping at all.
I hope you are ok OP.

GobblersKnob · 10/08/2013 07:55

My dog is still on the mantlepiece three and a half years on. I intended to scatter originally, but I just can't. After he died and went away to be cremated I felt terribly anxious because I didn't know where he was, but as soon as I had him back in the house I felt better.

SallyBear · 10/08/2013 07:23

We lost our 14yr old Labrador 6 weeks ago. We bought a Norwegian Acer and planted it with her ashes in the garden. We don't intend to move. We watered it religiously for the first three weeks, and we've just come back from holiday and Sally's tree has lots of new growth on it. When we planted the tree, we had a mini ceremony as the kids needed to be able to say goodbye properly. It helped. I feel less sad about it now as the tree growing in the garden seems to suggest new life and peace. I will always love my Bear, but somehow it's comforting to know she's close by us all.

dogsagoodun · 09/08/2013 21:11

So sorry for your loss. It's two weeks tomorrow that we lost our boy. It's so, so hard.

We've put our lovely boy on a shelf above his favourite place to lie. It feels nice having him home so I don't think we're going to scatter them.

We thought about a tree but I'm worried I may kill it. We're going to make a scrap book of all our favourite memories and we're going to buy a really lovely bench to put in the garden. We will get a plaque to put on it and it can be our place to sit and remember him.

MrsPresley · 09/08/2013 21:04

MY lovely Cracker died just over 2 years ago. His ashes are in a box which sits on his blanket in front of the radiator in the living room. This was his his 2nd favourite place to sleep, his first being my bed, so he obviously can't go there .

I keep his collar beside my bed though and his lead still hangs on the hall cupboard door handle, I just can't bring myself to move it.

When I die I want his ashes placed in my coffin beside me.

So sorry about your dog, they leave such a gaping hole, along with so many happy memories

Floralnomad · 09/08/2013 20:36

We had all of the first one (great big box ) and the rest we just had a sample ( in the wooden box) as the first was TBH impractical ,but we weren't to know that because we had never had a dead horse before . We paid for individual cremations though so I'm happy that they are our ashes .

AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 20:26

I keep thinking of Phoebe in Friends who had her Grandmother's ash in her taxi.

And The Royle Family when Mary was in the Dyson.

Inappropriate giggling. Then more tears.

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NationMcKinley · 09/08/2013 20:23

So sorry for your loss cervix. My beautiful cats ashes are also in a nice wooden box on the bookcase . We've bought a Japanese Acer and a nice pot to put it in. We're going to plant the tree with his ashes mixed with the compost. I didn't want to sprinkle his ashes randomly as I want to keep him close . We don't plan on staying in this house hence the need for a pot. Once we move (hopefully for the long term) we'll plant the Acer out. I do feel for you, it's so tough isn't it?

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:19

So you don't get all of them?

TerraNotSoFirma · 09/08/2013 20:18

I'm sorry for your loss. :(
When my eldest dog goes, I plan to scatter her ashes around a favourite spot where we used to stop during our walk, would something like that be an option?

Floralnomad · 09/08/2013 20:16

Horse ashes are quite big ,where we have ours done he puts a portion in a box for display / burial or whatever . We have had all our animals cremated at the same place .

AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 20:16

I did take him for a walk in the forest after I collected him .
Vet nurse said her girl lives in her car still so she can take her to work with her every day.

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ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:14

How did you get th to ashes Flora?

Goodkingwalkingslass · 09/08/2013 20:14

I collected my dog's ashes yesterday :-(

Same as you, don't know what to do with them.

Sorry for your loss, it's horrible, it really is.

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:13

On yes. There is a lot of her. But not ground down to a dust unfortunately.

Floralnomad · 09/08/2013 20:13

We have 4 lots of horse ashes ( in mums sideboard ) ,Belgian hares are a type of rabbit but very intelligent and trainable ,ours was like a dog !

cathpip · 09/08/2013 20:13

Both our boys (litter brothers) are scattered halfway along coniston water on a lovely little beach, it was there favourite walk and when we visit the lakes (about once a year) we always do a walk to Jake and Bryns beach to say hello.
For the first month we did put the urns in places that they were not allowed in the house, like upstairs on the sofa and the dining room table:)

AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 20:11

Exit, a horse must make quite a bagful. I was surprised how big and heavy BigDogs box is.

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AtYourCervix · 09/08/2013 20:10

DD1 and DH think tree.

DD2 and me think keep box on bookcase.

Might do both. Get a tree but not bury him.

I'm ok. Still dissolve into weeping frequently.

But there is possibly/probably new pup on the horizon. She needs a home and we had thought we'd get her before BigDog reached his end.
It's too soon really but she needs us. And it would help Small.

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ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:10

A Belgian hare?

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:09

I intend to have her put in with me when I go.

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/08/2013 20:08

I think you can have jewelry made from ashes.

I still have my horse's remains in a black bin liner. She is currently in the greenhouse. She died in 1996. I cannot scatter her as she is sort of clinker and would hang around looking at me.

I used to keep her under my bed and touch her every night before I went to sleep.

Floralnomad · 09/08/2013 20:04

We have our Belgian hares ashes on a window sill ( in a wooden box) with a photo of him next to them . My mum has a selection of ashes in her sideboard

topbannana · 09/08/2013 20:04

Sorry the worst did happen cervix :(
When BlackDog was PTS, GingerDog was bereft, in a way we had never seen him before. We tried everything to cheer him up but unless he was out in the fields then he was miserable. The arrival of a new puppy was the only thing that helped him even though he hated him at first

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