We have to rehome Duke for his own safety. I was worrying so much about the girls but I cannot stop crying

[TrinIsASadSpottyFatRhino]

I've failed him

You don't deserve a flaming Trinity. You have been to hell back these last few years and you have tried your best for Duke and your girls. Sadly things don't always work out, no matter how hard we try.

I hope the rescue are able to find him a good home soon, so you can start to try and put this behind you.

As an aside is it all possible you could find another behaviouralist? Although it's perfectly understandable if you don't feel able to do this after the way the last twunt behaved.

dooin, every hour isw tricky as hell with duke

I want to just love him till he gows insead of trying to train him again and then still have to rehome him

I dont thunk he can be relaxed here anymore
he wants neil but hes gone and duke is in the same place trying to make sure noone comes near us

he is alwasy stressed
and someimtes agressive

he has bitten two people

but one of mt neighbours has hit him with a meatqal pole, I dont thnok thT HAS helped

I cant tyoe

iff you ask me, I''ll retype and post any questions you haave

bluddymofo

I can understand your typing. It's easier than decoding my sisters typing when she's been at the Vodka [wunk]

Retraining would be a huge and very time consuming and emotional commitment so it is understandable that you don't feel able to do it.

A change of scenery will probably do Duke good and if it is any consolation, us fosterers are a good bunch. He will be spoilt rotten and given all the training he needs. I have never met or encountered a fosterer that would not be willing to walk to the ends of the earth for their dogs, so Duke will be in very good hands.

Your neighbour sounds awful. I think we should all come up and batter him with metal poles and bring you cake, of course

Spend some good quality time with Duke until he goes and try and be kind to yourself. You're doing the right thing. So many others would have just dumped him in a pound or hid their head in the sand until it was too late and someone was hurt.

dooin, thankyou, I truly fel that he can be happier somewhere else

I love him soooo much, he's soo sweet

but his entire love will flourish in a new home

[happy]

I wa supposed to ddo [ smile]

sorry
I meaan sad, very sad and heppy

he needs to be away from his hurt

Duke needs help. That is what he will get.
It hurts, God yes, but better he gets seen by someone who can help him with his behaviours than have it any other way?
He has been attacked by your neighbour, gone for people he felt threatened by or who he felt were threatening you or the girls- mentally he is not in a happy place right now, despite loving you all. His stress levels are probably on a par with yours. So way up in the stratosphere.

It takes a really strong person to do what you are doing. I know of a lot of people who would keep lying to themselves and everyone else about how the animal was. Until it ends up really bad. The girls will be upset because they love him, but I'm sure DD1 at least can understand why he needs to be with another family.

I'm so sad
I slept on the sofa with him last night
he has to go to the vet today to get his kennel cough shot and then I take him back tomorrow
I dont think the kids should come with me so I've got to go on my own as dp will need to look after the kids

dp looks gutted too
all the kids are totally gutted

I feel mean but I cant bear the thuoght of him getting hurt or carrying on feeling so stressed abut trying to protect us from everything

Trinity lovey, have just picked up your PM, sorry for not having spotted it earlier (need a bloody alarm bell with it). I take it that the rescue you've chosen was the one you sent me the link about? If so it's coming across via you as good as it sounded in that link.

Wish I could be there to hold your hand matey, I can't imagine how you feel. :(

(And just let me get at the fucker who hit Duke with a metal bar, I'll do the same to him....)

Just hold on to this... you are doing the best for ALL of you, Duke, the children, yourself and your relationship with DP no doubt.... and I'm bloody sure from all you have told us that Neil would have been proud of you for that.

Take it esy on yourself lovey.

x

Take it ea*sy!

thanks dogs, actually after some advice from the lady from the link I am taking him back where we got him from

its written into the contract that he cannot be given to a thrid party without their say

the lady from the link says they will do the best for him and I should taake him back there

the councils antisocial behaviour officers have just been to the door
I caant do this to my neighbours anymore and duke will be hppier with a fresh start

is he going to feel desperatley abandoned?

do dogs cry?

will he get over leaving us?

I feel like the worst person ever
I never thought I woud ever have to do this

I cant stp crying

I've been trying to work out what we can do for months and months
and months

I cant help him enough

I just so so want him to be happy and relaxed

I now he loves us but he could be happier and without dnager to himself somewhere else

you can shout at me if you want, I couldn't feel any worse

Oh FFS, that neighbour has no compassion have they? Bastard!

I didn't realise that Duke was a rescue dog or I'd have asked whether there was a return clause in the contract.

Any decent rescue should have one but it's worth pointing out that unless they are a NO-KILL rescue it may not be wise to adhere to that contract. In Duke's case of course it seems that you've been dealing with a good rescue Trinity, and thank goodness for that.

Oh trin So sorry. You have to do what is best for Duke and for you all.

they do have ano kill policy thing

and I have seen dogs up for rehom on their site that have nipped people but have been rehomed

they have a behaviourist and they also foster out dogs so they dont spend a long time in the kennels

I was at first very worried about taking him back their to what I thought was a death sentence but having spoken to the lady from the link, she had worked with them alot and she knows how they work and she trusts that they will rehome him

Darling, look at the stories of the rescue dogs we have between us on MN. Some of them have been through hell and back but they DO recover, our stories prove that and I see it myself in rescue.

I've got 3 big dogs -

Labrador - Beaten by alcoholic male owner for first 2 years of his life. Had real issues with men. Rescued and adopted by a woman, rescue being assured that no man would live with him. Stayed with her for 2 years, she moved violent BF in, Labrador hurt again, taken to vets for PTS, vet sent him instead to rescue, rescue couldn't get near him, he was snarling and aggressively barking, growling and trying to bite through the kennel.

I came along and we somehow clicked - I only went to the rescue for a fete, not to adopt a dog! Moved him in with my young children. other 2 dogs and I... he's wonderful, loves us all, happy and content and has been here for nearly 8 years now.

GSD 1 - came to me as a 6/7 week old puppy as purchasers didn't want him. Mine his third home, he's 4 now and daft as a brush, loves everyone.

GSD 2 - lived with a lone mum since being a pup, put into rescue due to change of family circs, stayed there 18 months, scared of everyone, literally no-one could get near him, he'd just run away. I worked and worked on him, spending whole weeks in rescue, made him my friend. He's epileptic and had had some fits whilst in kennels.

He's been living with me for a year now. He's loyal, content, snoring as I type, has great recall, never runs away or goes far from my side, is happy now to allow most visitors to fuss him.

So yes.... they do get over upset and grief, I promise.

thanks dogs, I do feel a bit better now
I'm hurting because I'll miss hi but thats not the big picture
I just want to feel that he can be happy

my girls are talking to him sweetly in his ear
I cant hear what they are saying
they done it all three of them
all at different times

I feel like I'm making them hurt new all over again about their dad

please someone say something even to condemn me

There's no need to condem you, you're doing the right thing.

{{{Trinity}}}