I wish I hadn't read this bloody thread. I missed a lot and thought I'd catch up.
All the comments about Sam moaning about early labour, in pain, negative, struggling, can't be that painful, I did it with just g&a blah.
That WAS me. My water's broke, contractions immensely painful. They were the same pain at 10cms dilated as at 2cms, 28hrs of labour in between where I coped badly. I've felt like a bloody failure every day since because of how I coped. It wasn't until the 28th hour, 6hrs of pushing that her heartrate decelerated and stayed there. She was in deep transverse arrest, asynclitic with her ear presenting. She was being pushed into my pelvis for 28hrs, with no waters to cushion. There had been no way of knowing this. I had an em cs.
I have PTSD and reading this thread has confirmed all of the things I though dh was thinking about me at the time. Grow up, 2cms pah, what's wrong with you.
I'm sorry, but please be careful what you say about an individual's experience of labour, you just never know what or why.
I haven't cried this much in a long time.