House of Tiny Tearaways BBC3 tonight - did anyone watch it?

[emkana]

I didn't like it how Dr. Tanya Byron ( who I think is great really) went into full-on "He's going to sleep in his own bed tonight" mode with the little toddler who sleeps badly. I mean this was a strange environment for the poor little baby!
Couldn't believe the couple with the two-and-a-half year old "Do you want your tea? No? Do you want a brown yog-yog instead?" Please...
Will be interested to see this, even though I think it's a bit much that it will be on every night this month.

[natts]

i was saying to me dh the same thing about the mother bottling out. the dad was great though, he put his foot down.( well sort of)and whoopee!I'm glued to the prog. I feel really sorry for the dad of the tantrumming child. His wife is pushing him out. poor thing

[foxinsocks]

it does seem (in this week's cases) that she has been treating the parents more than the kids

[beansprout]

That is where a lot of the root causes tend to be. What happened with the parenting contract? Was he actually saying he gets angry if the beans are in the wrong place?!

[natts]

they certainly have got a lot of baggage. The lady with daughter, mother left home when she was only a child and she keeps comparing her and her daughters lives

[foxinsocks]

yes, I do admit that bit made him look weird! I think he's trying to get back a bit of control in his life.

I think he's very resentful of his wife giving all her love to the kid and not him - it sounded like they handed slept in the same bed for years! No wonder he's so pissed off!

[happymerryberries]

The parents in these programs always seem to lack confidence in their parenting skills, for whatever reason. They always seem to be too frightened to be the parents and tell the kids how it is.

[tiktok]

True, hmb....Tanya's job is giving them the confidence to be parents.

She helped the single mum with the two boys with a bit of role play - getting her to be assertive. It took about 20 seconds. Then she had to put it into practice and it worked....but she has to keep it up, of course.

[natts]

she is really doing well the single mum. I think she really puts into practice all she has learnt.

[alterego]

I feel so sad for the dad to Lucy. He's accused of being controlling by the mum and yet she's the one that currently has total control over how Lucy is brought up. Agree, the beans comment seemed a bit ott but that issue was probably symptomatic of the way L's mum does everything. On the other hand, you could see tonight how hard it is for mum to get tough with Lucy. Can't wait for tomorrow when Dr. Tanya has vowed to get rid of Lucy's bottle.

[natts]

I completly agree. poor man, he was clearly feeling really low yesterday.

[unicorn]

well... more success from the HOTT!!!
(are they allowed any 'failures'??)

Another point re this programme - I feel Dr T should point these families in the direction of extra help once 'outside'. (hopefully she does- but maybe it is off camera- so as not to dilute her effect)

That mum (with hair extensions) obviously needed counselling for her PND issues.
and the couple with Lucy probably should be directed to Relate or similar.

I think that is actually what bugs me re this programme, it gives the impression that things can be solved in a week...well tv may be like that but life aint.


Next weeks looks a cracker tho!!!

[alterego]

Drat - missed it tonight - so did Lucy go to bed without a bottle?

[unicorn]

anyone there- watch this...?

I can't help watch... but it is really really beginning to annoy me.

...

[unicorn]

ok I shall rant on my own... (get out of system!!)

How on earth could Dr T let that woman say she wished she had never had her son.. in front of him???

Why don't they research these families in advance so Dr T is starting from a pro- active point...

Why did Dr T immediately lead the little boy into talking about mummy being cross.... as opposed to daddy? ie.. the onus/guilt etc etc is always on mum!

er... I'm sure I will think of some more in a minute.... I am glued - but feel exceptionally
unhappy.

btw.. these people are not circus shows... if the NHS had a facility that would 'solve' such problems (without being on camera and made to look totally useless), I am pretty sure they would be inundated.

[Wallace]

Poor wee boy He seemed a lot younger than five didn't he?

I thought at first Tanya would ahve met the families before hand to assess them, but I think it makes better TV (not from my point of view) for them to have Tanya thrown in at the deep end.

What happens to the family with two boys?

[Wallace]

Oh yes, and Tanya did ask him very leading questions...but knowing her she probably had her reasons...

[beansprout]

Really, really felt for Harrison in his bed. He was really upset, not having a tantrum. No wonder he wants to get into their bed every night, it's about the only time his mum isn't rejecting him. I felt awful when she said she sometimes wished she hadn't had him and he heard her. No wonder he was so upset. Will be interesting to see how that one goes.

[unicorn]

wallace, thanks for helping me out in my stand alone rant here!!!

I'm sure Dr T has her reasons, I just hope the tv editing bods aren't muscling in on her (IYSWIM)

I reckon she is look very very tired...

yes, it does make good tv...but is it ethical???
(I know when do Tv bods care about ethics.. but this is the BBC- Not the Sun newspaper doing a comic strip problem page)

I know i'm ranting.. it just bugs me!

[unicorn]

exactly bsprout... he was scared re the fan...and no doubt the artificail environment
... now surely that is not right...

Couldn't Dr T Tell the parents that it was ok to turn it off etc...and comfort him?

(ahh- not such good tv??)

[Wallace]

It will be very interesting to see what happens as the week goes on.

I do find the programme fascinating, but not very ethical. She should have more background on the families. Or maybe she does, but that is not something the viewer is told.

I thought the exact same thing about the bed beansrout

[emsiewill]

I was watching this with my dds (they love the 'naughty children programmes' lol), and dd2 (5.11) said that Harrison should be allowed to be sad on the first night cos when it's your first night somewhere, you feel a bit strange.

I know they've not got long, but that's because of the restraints of the TV programme, and these are real people with real problems, no matter whether they've agreed to appear on TV, the problems should be dealt with realistically.

Agree with unicorn about Tanya letting the mother talk about her son so harshly in front of him (although maybe she needed to see how far the mother would go). Also agree about the leading questions.

Love watching this programme, though. Can't believe I'm going to miss the last week next week as I'm on holiday.

Also can't bear the constant recaps (as has already been discussed) - I wish the programme was 15 mins shorter without all the recaps. If I saw Isaac / Eggert eating garlic bread one more time by the end of last week, I would have gone crazy .

[emsiewill]

Oh yes, and agree about the fan. And the mother was standing there going "lets sit down and listen to my brat".

I think dd1 (8) is going to be a Dr Tanya when she grows up. She had a plan for Harrison - get the eating sorted, and he'll probably sleep better, as he won't be waking up hungry. Once the sleep is sorted, he won't be so narky, and the behaviour will be better. Easy!

[unicorn]

emmieswill blimey!

kids today are being brought up on this.. so I expect their children will have no problems at all!!!!!!

[beansprout]

Totally agree about Eggert and the garlic bread!!! Enough already!!!

Am going to find Harrison quite difficult to watch. He really is sad. I got quite attached to Lewis in the first week and I think the same thing might happen again. Poor thing - he is crying so his mum turns the monitor down (and that is with people she just met and on TV - just what on earth happens at home?)

[Wallace]

and calls him a brat