OK Listen. I have been involved in this situation. What I was trying to say was that people like him who use porn of that nature might not be adverse to messing around with his own kids but it's not always a follow on. Somehow, from what I've gleaned, pervs like him are outraged (see the programme!!) that he would touch his own kids inappropriately and try and make the wife feel guilty about doubting him. I still say that he's making her feel guilty about his "sicko stuff" and that he's acting all sweet and light for Social Services. I cannot understand your horror at a term that is used in everyday speech, ie: you don't bring the police to this door, don't bring any trouble here young man, you don't shit in yr own yard.... ie, family stuff stays in the family (even if yr being abused and no-one belives you}