My Mum, Your Dad

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Oops got the title wrong in my first thread - have requested deletion

Starting tomorrow on itv1

“My Mum, Your Dad is a British dating reality show that is set to begin airing on ITV1 on 11 September 2023. It will be presented by Davina McCall and follows middle-aged single parents heading to a romance retreat for a second chance at love which is overseen by their children.”

From a Google for the show it appears there is already 1 season of the US called My Mom, Your Dad. So presumably the same format.

Anyone planning to watch?

Is this the show that was billed in the media as an upcoming middle aged Love Island earlier this year?

Think the programme is about to get a bit more interesting

Urgh Martin 2 is proper creepy and more fool Monique and Talluloh for falling for it.
Nice to see Janey and Roger talking.
I think Clayton and Caroline would be a good match as they are both lovely, open people.

Tolullah looked really angry when Martin M was giving Monique attention.

I just don't get it. Monique has had ahit men in her life and found a nice guy and she is gravitating towards the dickhead.

Some people just never learn.

You would think Monique would think "MM is just like my ex/ what I usually go for BUT I AM HERE BECAUSE THAT HASNT WORKED so I will go for another type", but no.

Isnt that the definition of madness - doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result?

Yes Martin 2 is a walking red flag. He's just out for the competition and I don't think he has any genuine feelings for anyone. Monique was getting on so well with other tall Martin who seems really genuine. I think she's making a huge mistake if she ends up pursuing him

Who tf is Carlton?! 🤣
(I'm teasing- I called Roger George yesterday 🤣)

Shows how lovely Caroline is, that she didn't say anything like "oh, I'm gutted" in amongst her chat with Janey. She's just thoughtful and doesn't want to put a dampener on anyone, even though she had tears. Bless her. I hope she starts to notice the other men,now that the blinkers are off her.

I hope so too. Clayton’s going spare.

Within the ladies I see a lot of damage from previous partners. It must be hard for them to look beyond the façade that the men will obviously project. On the show, they’re not going to show anything but best behaviour, are they?

Roger: lovely guy but definitely needs more time to grieve and settle. I hope he doesn’t feel obliged to make a choice on this prog.

New Martin: bogus and full of himself. Wants to be worshipped. Some people go for that - not me. He’s spent forever in Ibiza and seems completely out of touch with the everyday life that a lot of the ladies are living in the UK. IMHO wants to grab himself a new lady to take back to Spain, dazzle her with his grand villa, pool etc, and see whether it works, for him, not her…

Unlike a lot of PP here, I get a bad feeling from Clayton. He’s raring to get with ANY of the ladies. Someone new walks in and he’s ‘sold’. So hard to tell.

I’m not sure where the programme is going overall?

I agree with you, about Clayton, there is something about him I can't put my finger on.

I think it was obvious Roger wasn’t in to Caroline as a romance.
They shouldn’t have sent them on a second date, his daughter did say I think him and Janey might like each other and his daughter wanted him to try a date with Janey.
Caroline should’ve taken the hint after the first date and looked elsewhere as Roger wasn’t as keen as she was.
Maybe Clayton for Caroline…
Tollulah not happy new Martin flirting with Monique…
I think both of them like him as he’s flash and has money ….
Are more joining or is that it?

Clayton has insincere vibes

@Twonewcats 🤣 Clayton .. I do know a Carlton funny enough!

Clayton seems to be casting his net wide in the hope of catching anyone

Is he from Bel-Air?

He screams of desperation. Sharon was lost for words.

Natalie has been in the jail 5 times? Isn't that a rather critical fact to share when dating someone? Not sure I'd want my dad jumping in with someone with that history without some forewarning.

I get where you're coming from but isn't everyone entitled to a second chance? Maybe the programme will delve into this the more serious they get.

Absolutely everyone deserves a second and even third chance, especially recovering so successfully from addiction, but on such a show that should be front and centre as 'having to know' information as Paul has declared a commitment early on based on very little knowledge.

I am also not a Clayton fan, especially for the lovely Caroline. I could be wrong but I agree he comes off as insincere, and definitely he was basically coming across as being interested in sex rather than love to me at the beginning, though he seems to have dialled that down a bit. And he also seemed to struggle to focus his interest on one woman at the beginning until finally deciding it was Sharon, which seemed to come totally out of left field. I appreciate we aren’t seeing every conversation etc. but this seemed to come as as much of a surprise to Sharon and to the “kids” as to me!

Unfortunately I don’t think anyone in there is right for Caroline if Roger isn’t interested, which is a shame because she’s my favourite mum and the one I identify the most with. I also think she seems super fun but the situation is making her a bit withdrawn which is sad to see. She just needs a good man who will make her his number one woman and reciprocate her feelings.

I think Roger might have gone for her rather than Janey if he had been a bit more ready to date again but right now he’s perhaps looking for a less serious sort of relationship and Janey gives him that. At least for now, I do think she wants something serious but can also cope with things being fairly noncommittal and light hearted without needing to make any huge commitments for a while. Caroline is looking for a serious committed relationship and why not for goodness sake when you’re in your fifties, I don’t blame her at all for that. Like I said before there is definitely part of me that feels it was a bit unfair of Roger to come on the show when he isn’t ready for this, but I guess he maybe didn’t realise that until he was in the situation and he does seem to have been pushed into it by his daughter. Who I was thinking came across as a little older than she actually is, so I’d been confused about this lack of wisdom previously but now I realise she is in her twenties it makes more sense!

Really don’t see it with Caroline and Clayton at all! Maybe the first Martin would have been a good match for Caroline on paper, but in reality they don’t appear to have shown any interest in each other at all. Although partly that’s because Martin was apparently bowled over by Monique, who I agree is in the middle of making a huge mistake she is going to regret, they had the beginnings of a truly lovely thing going.

@Dancesaideveryone I agree this is need to know information fairly early on given that Paul has declared an interest in her and her alone. But maybe they’ve had a conversation about it that we haven’t heard? Though probably not because I imagine that conversation would have made it into the edit!

I saw a review of this programme that I thought was interesting that basically said the women’s stories are largely the same, they’re traumatised by previous heartbreak from bad treatment and infidelity by exes, whereas the men (other than Roger) mostly seem to have not got around to settling down yet. I’m interested to know if people think this says something about how fundamentally different male and female experience of past relationships are, or is it simply that the men aren’t as vocal about their past heartbreak etc? I personally think it’s the first, I reckon it’s much more unusual for men rather than women to be the victims of something like Sharon described, where she’d been on the verge of moving in with someone then found out he had a second family basically from the sounds of it!

The ladies are all very glamourous but at the same time I think I'd amp up the glam too if I was on TV...my kids would be mortified if I was lounging around in my comfies 😄

I really like Caroline, she comes across as a very warm and genuine person, definitely someone I'd like to be friends with. I don't feel there is anyone else other than Roger in there for her, which is a shame as she genuinely seems like a really lovely person

So just remembered a couple of other things about Clayton that I found off putting. I could be wrong but I believe his response to Monique after she ran off and was crying showed to me that he didn’t really get it. I can’t even remember what it was now (will have to rewatch!) but I remember thinking I’d be super irritated by it if I were Monique in that moment. Natalie also said something a bit “missing the point” at that moment I thought. Like oh every relationship doesn’t have to be the one and it’s ok if it ends up in heartbreak. Good for her if she’s able to take that attitude but Monique is in her 50s and understandably doesn’t want to keep putting herself up for heartbreak. I remember thinking if I was Monique I would struggle not to lash out at them both! Though I don’t think either of them were trying to be mean or anything, actually I think they were both trying to be supportive but both seemed to just really lack true listening and empathy there. I do think Monique’s tears then were genuine and not attention seeking. But I was also surprised by how quickly she had her head turned by the new Martin.

The other thing that I thought was revealing about Clayton was his interaction with Tallulah in the speed dating. She asked something like whether she’d be the sort of person he’s initially attracted to and he was like “nope”. He has shown zero interest in even getting to know her at all despite not really having any of the other women in the house interested in him at this point. Of course he is allowed to not be interested in someone but he doesn’t know her at all at that point so I thought it was a bit odd. And wondered is he the sort of black men that doesn’t want to date black women, which would really put me off.