Matt and Whitney are vomit inducing.
When people feel this way about someone they really don't know well, it's not love, it's idealised infatuation and reality is always going to be a disappointment.
So you know their birthday and what pets they have...? Big deal.
What about 'when this person is tired and depleted, what do they need from me?'
'What winds this person up and how can I avoid it?'
'How do they cope with conflict?'
'What is their mess-tolerance level like?'
'How do they express when they need support?'
It's not very funny, I know, but it is true. Totally in lust.
And yes - bringing Duka into that was low and small and nasty.