MAFS6- where the sliding into dms does not require lube and a fish slice

[SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard]

I’ve lost my nip.

I think all the couples are doomed. One big thing that none of them discuss when talking about moving but is clearly a factor alongside ageing parents, and friends - is work whether they would be able to work anywhere. Expecting someone to start again or change job is very significant and would put a lot of pressure on relationships in eluding the person who hasn't moved. This would be a factor for Matt - can't see a Take That tribute act being as lucrative in isolated rural Northern Ireland, and Franky starting again in a new country. But it will be a significant factor for any of them.

But none of these relationships are really going to work in the real world for 5 minutes are they?

• Marilyse - extremely rude about his house (which was actually nice and his taste probably better than hers!), wanting to have everything her way, dominating the conversation with family and not really being very interesting or fun at all
• Josh and Amy - get out now Josh, she is childish and rude (and sometimes you're egging her on with it because she's annoying you)
• Adam - awful to be the last to know but Morag is a very shallow person and she's certainly not worth giving up on kids for (you'd be a great Dad!). Listen to your Mum
• Matt - what happened to that sweet and charming Northern Ireland boy? He wants it all his own way.

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor 😂😂 he so reminds me of my nephew in looks and he's also into mediation and movement in a big way. Frankly it leaves me cold !!

@Bouledeneige erm you have muddled the names up somewhat !!!

Think you’ve got them all a bit mixed up @Bouledeneige!

I don't see anything wrong with Feargal wanting to stay where he is. He would be like a caged tiger in that garden.

He lived in London for a number of years 🤷
There's always a compromise

@JaneJeffer

I don't see anything wrong with Feargal wanting to stay where he is. He would be like a caged tiger in that garden.

The garden was bad that's for sure.

This is twist time isn't it. The homestays and the partnerswaps. I got bored last night, far too much of one in each couple wanting everything their own way. I'm also doubting some of these declared red flags on that score, maybe things that just don't suit, or a minor disagreement that the editing magnifies? Whatever, it's all very one sided, which is against the very essence of what's meant to be happening.

@SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard big hugs and a big drink at the right time. Have been there more than once and so understand and symapthise.

That yard in Leeds was horrible to be fair, well I assume near Leeds as he called it a village. There are really nice places near Leeds that are reasonable, like Cleckheaton, Shelf etc.

I would never move for a partner, I made that very clear when I started dating my husband, we all have things that aren’t negotiable and that is one of mine.

Marilyse’s friends GIGANTIC lips! OMG

And Amy’s mate in her shirt and silly coat and GIGANTIC eyebrows

Those houses looked so dreary, whatever about the furniture, but the complete lack of personality in any of them. Grim.

Can’t wait for next episode!!!

*Grim.

Can’t wait for next episode!!!*

Those houses looked so dreary, whatever about the furniture, but the complete lack of personality in any of them. Grim

They might not be to your, my or indeed the wives’ tastes. But I think it’s bloody rude to go in and immediately start either slagging it right off, or saying I’m going to change that, that and that.
Luke, for example, manages a children’s home and is a firefighter. I think it’s fair to say he has bigger things to worry about than browsing the Farrow & Ball website to ponder which colour to paint his gym room, or mindlessly while away multiple hours in The White Company fondling duvet covers.

@JasonMomoasgirlfriend

He could say he would move to Leeds for a year or two and then they both move back to Dan's home.

His business idea is a pipe dream, he's living in fairy land. It's a thing to speak about to show off to the people you tell but in reality it will never manifest. You can see it a mile off!

precisely - even if he tried to come up with something or pretended to try

Matt could go to NI, help him set up the pipe dream business, while also keeping his Leeds home. Airbnb out his home in Leeds, but return home every few weeks to catch up with friends and family. Dan could join him when his schedule allowed. Once you're in a settled relationship, there's less need to spend every second together, so it's definitely doable having two bases without it being a long-distance relationship. By the time it's all up and running, it would be clearer whether Matt could be in NI and sell his Leeds home, or whether they could continue with the two homes.
I'm starting to wonder if Dan's plan is that Matt will be helping to finance this new business. He's probably not minted, but selling a house might release some funds to kickstart it all. I know I'm being cynical, but seeing them in real life took a lot of the shine off their relationship for me.
Hoping that the visit to NI makes things much clearer for me for Matt. It would be great if he really loves it and genuinely wants to relocate. Otherwise it might raise some resentment further down the line. Also will be interesting to see if Dan has some family close by, and see if he can understand what Matt would be giving up for him/them.

@Blossomtoes

To be far, what compromise could there be? Property is comparatively cheap in NI, he wouldn’t be able to afford to set up his “business” in England. And it has a quite specific culture. My bloke’s from Belfast, hasn’t lived there for decades and tells me to adjust my watch to 1962 when we land at Belfast City. It’s a lovely place for a week or so but not permanently.

Business rates near Leeds aren't sky high either. They could get a new home together just outside the city, in the peaceful outdoors.

It’s not business rates that are the issue. He’d need to rent or buy somewhere for his pie in the sky business. Have you seen how cheap property is in NI? Imagine what this would cost here.

www.propertynews.com/property-for-sale/3-millfort-close-portstewart-bt55-7gz/property/ASGASG5027/?sort=Date+Added&status%5B%5D=For+Sale&sector%5B%5D=Residential&offset=0&limit=10&area%5B%5D=480

Matt’s mam and dad have well got the measure of Feargal.

I'm starting to wonder if Dan's plan is that Matt will be helping to finance this new business

Bazinga spanishfly

I've not really mentioned Matt & Dan- partly because I thought Dan was a bit creepy but couldn't put my finger on it so I do agree with Pp (forgotten who) who said he was maybe seeking to isolate Matt!

Tayah, Amy and Morag appear to have mixed up MAFS with Changing Rooms (although I didn't like Lukes house much either- but I would have been kinder). Tayah is moving at warp speed, Luke's family have wised up to Morag and Amy is just awful.

I actually found Amy upsetting to watch. I know she has been through a lot and PMS makes gremlins of us, but the way she was talking to Josh; the name calling, was constant lashing out. No wonder he wouldn't hug her! What had she done for him, either?

Watching her in the kitchen, I am relieved she doesn't have children. I know, it's an awful thing to say about someone who lost a baby and no one is perfect ... but I could imagine her very easily being like that with a baby, toddler or small child... and getting angrier and angrier. I know editing plays a part in what we see but she seems incredibly volatile. I feel awful saying that.

Her spirituality really is a huge cover for a rotten core.

[quote Blossomtoes]It’s not business rates that are the issue. He’d need to rent or buy somewhere for his pie in the sky business. Have you seen how cheap property is in NI? Imagine what this would cost here.

www.propertynews.com/property-for-sale/3-millfort-close-portstewart-bt55-7gz/property/ASGASG5027/?sort=Date+Added&status%5B%5D=For+Sale&sector%5B%5D=Residential&offset=0&limit=10&area%5B%5D=480[/quote]
I meant "business rates" as an overall general term. I don't really understand your point, tho - you say you wouldn't move to NI as it's fine for a week but not live; but then Dan shouldn't leave NI - so do you think they should just pack it all in and split?

Thinking about mat and Dan I always thought mat would be the lead in the relationship as he is older and established etc but now it seems he maybe doesn't have as much confidence as Dan and is now being led and having to make all the sacrifices

@SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard

Matt’s mam and dad have well got the measure of Feargal.

I'm starting to wonder if Dan's plan is that Matt will be helping to finance this new business

Bazinga spanishfly

And the "business" just sounds like a gay orgy getaway...:D

I don't really understand your point, tho - you say you wouldn't move to NI as it's fine for a week but not live; but then Dan shouldn't leave NI - so do you think they should just pack it all in and split?

I think if you’re born there it’s quite hard to adjust to living anywhere else because it’s so different. The bloke’s nieces and nephews all went to uni in England and Scotland and went back, none of them even contemplated living anywhere else, despite the more limited career opportunities.

No, I don’t think there’s a compromise and I think a split is inevitable. I also think if they do split up, Matt’s dodged a bullet.

@LagneyandCasey

It's "Perfect Match" which is on All4 now from 2001

I think Dan's been pretty clear from the start that he doesn't want to live anywhere but NI and he's obviously very inflexible on the issue. As others have said, it seems like Matt is going to have to make all the adjustments. He probably wants Matt to do all the admin while he does his dancing.

Ecstatic dancing.