I don't think she led Abandrew on either.
Okay - she said she thought they could get on together and it was worth a shot - but that doesn't mean that she wanted to get physical. She doesn't know that bloke.
Then he proved to be pushy and full of himself and she didn't want to kiss him - fair enough. Why should she. It was his fault for going for a clinch in front of the cameras - he should have tested the water during their private off-lens time and then he wouldn't have been publicly humiliated in front of X million viewers.
they were both on the show for the publicity - neither was squeaky clean in that respect. They could have come to some arrangement whereby they put up a united (though not intimate) front for the cameras but retained their own space. He certainly would have come off looking much better.
Instead he was so childish and malicious that he repeatedly - not just the once - was rude and disrespectful about her when he had an audience of "the boys". Cheryl, to give her credit, was never that way about him, although she had more cause to be critical than he did.
I don't know why she tried to "have it out" with Scarlett, though - unless the production company suggested it. I lost some sympathy for her there. She hadn't liked Johnathan and had already 'finished" the "relationship", so it was none of her business what he did.
The ones who seemed to do best were Simon and Alene, who respected each other as individuals, even though there was no initial spark, and allowed a friendship to grow rather than pushing for intimacy early on. It is sad that it didn't pan out for them, but sometimes relationships - even good ones - just run their course and people grow or drift apart. That's life.
Maybe there's a message there for all of us.