The Baby Has Landed

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Anyone watching?

I love stuff like this.

The two moments that really got to me so far was Syler upset over the amount of colostrum pumped (so much!! I wish she'd known how great that was, I was so proud when I got a whole syringe full but only because the midwife in the hospital told me it was good for day 2 - otherwise I might have thought there was a problem) and when Hermisha was wincing when she was getting her baby to latch on. A PP is so right - feeding is incredibly emotional. My baby is 5 weeks old and before she was born I thought I'd try BF but if I ended up FF then fine. I'm combination feeding but have thought several times I'd have to stop BF due to the pain and felt so incredibly guilty- it's like the rational part of my brain couldn't kick in even though she's enough happy with bottles when DH does a night shift with formula (which is a godsend). I'm still BF the rest of the time but this is mostly because I'm so lucky that I've had a hugely supportive midwife team who have advised me, watched me feed, referred me to different BF groups, all without being judgy in any way. I hope that all of the families on the show are getting the same level of support from midwives/HV and that my story isn't an anomaly.

Apologies that was a bit long - it was really cathartic to write though!

Yes the pain when Hermisha was bf-ING, again raises a qn over support?

The comments around Syler aren't about her not being a good Mom, but a question on if she's getting enough support.

I'm gonna miss tonight's episode as I'm in hospital with raised bp, two days from having my twins grrrrr

Hope it goes well @SleepingStandingUp - I had the same and was induced the next day as they decided it was pre-eclampsia - one EMCS later (she was in distress when my waters broke) and she arrived before the day was out! (It was really positive though - I don't want to stress you out!)

Good luck with your twins Sleeping

Thanks Katie, thankfully no talk of bringing them before Friday, had EMCS with DS so hoping to avoid / at least its not utter unknown. So far no indicators of pre eclampsia but MCDA twins make everyone nervous

Good luck - let us know how you get on!

Oh no I missed the first 8 mins!

The twins mum is so, so brave. I'd be in pieces :/

This is heartbreaking

Does anybody else feel like the twin dads are lovely but just seem to keep forgetting about the surrogate mum? I keep waiting for a moment of redemption. When they came to hospital they were carrying soft drinks and I was thinking oh I hope they’ve brought her a nice little treat or something...no such luck. Sounds so small but I just don’t think they consider how she is feeling at all.

"At no point did they feel like mine" do you think that's really how the surrogate mum felt?

Mum of 5 is already annoying me. She seemed really scathing about the Dad "needing" to be away from the children at work while she could fill her days with the children. As if she thinks being fulfilled by being a SAHM is better than working and it makes her better.

Ezra however is cracking me up!

Evan I agree. They could have at least stayed with her till she left the hospital.

I don't know. Surrogacy is something I could never do. I will find it unnatural to carry a baby for 9 months and then give it away. The whole scene was odd.

"At no point did they feel like mine

She probably felt like that. I don't think the egg was hers, which probably made it easier for her to detach.But it must have felt odd to carry a child for 9 months, feel them kicking around in your womb and the next- they're gone.That's it.

I really feel for the surrogate mum. She’s done such an amazing thing for the two dad but she must be really struggling. I thought they would have stayed with her a bit longer - I know they had to take the twins home.
I couldn’t do what she’s done - I think she’s an angel. Her husband is very quiet - he doesn’t look happy with the situation.

Oh yes, the dad of 5 looks like he wants to be anywhere but in that house! He must feel so torn - loves his kids but just wants a bit of peace. No wonder he was looking forward to going back to work!

I definitely don’t think I could do surrogacy

Oh he’d be getting a punch

A new baby, with the obligatory aspergers for good measure

Oh I don't like seeing baby's having a bottle without being held

That farmer bloke singing “Swing Low” while the baby was crowning. I’d have to slap him! 😂

Why are they changing the baby's nappy in the cot ? Is that the done thing ? Maybe it's just me. I'm very OCD about bedding.

That farmer bloke singing “Swing Low” while the baby was crowning. I’d have to slap him!

My mum said my dad sang Sing Hosanna to her throughout both her labours and it was really helpful! DH didn't fancy doing that funnily enough but weirdly i found having that tune in my head through contractions was really soothing

And he will hurt his back leaning over the cot