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The Baby Has Landed

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Sotiredsomuch · 27/11/2019 21:05

Anyone watching?

I love stuff like this.

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WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 20/12/2019 12:53

Is the NHS maternity package very good?

adhdme2019 · 20/12/2019 13:00

The NHS do get a good package. I want to say a years full pay but I could be wrong.

Small age gaps are amazing btw.

Helen’s comments to us were better than Sylers Grin

WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 20/12/2019 13:08

Christ that’s an amazing package If correct! Shock

Boyo7 · 20/12/2019 13:09

@lovingthelovein
I think your family are absolutely lovely, and all the best to you for the future.

Sundayschild4 · 20/12/2019 13:10

Absolutely do not get a years full pay Confused more like 8 weeks full pay then 16 weeks half pay + SMP, then 13 weeks SMP

Minster2012 · 20/12/2019 14:04

Ive only read bits of this thread, but watched the programme with interest as a mother of gorgeous boy (17 months) who was born as a result of my best friend carrying him as a surrogate to me & my hubby. I didn’t know the show included a surrogate pregnancy either. A lot of the “views/knowledge” on U.K. surrogacy here are wrong just through lack of knowledge. The dads did fab, the friend was great, I found it very poignant having done something similar (albeit home birth at my friends house with her family there). That’s the way UK law dictates it to be to get a parental order for us as biological parents of the child. It also showed a similar weird scenario to ours of the absolute stillness of preparation our side at our house (dogs included though not like theirs ours are mad!) then all of a sudden oh my god we have a child nothing will ever be the same again!

I thought the whole program showed a great diversity in the U.K. population & bringing up children! I liked Mo & Syler, ok not the smoking but there’s so many people in the U.K. like them they are great! And they have loving support. It shows how a baby can change every relationship. Good luck to them all.

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/12/2019 14:21

I agree with you vivacian I did my best to stay out of that.

WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 20/12/2019 16:10

I thought the whole program showed a great diversity in the U.K. population & bringing up children!

Not that diverse-all pretty normal couples- no single mothers which is hardly a rarity.

CoolCarrie · 20/12/2019 16:19

Sorry Helen, but your managers at the NHS must be fed up with you coming back from maternity leave pregnant again!

SimonJT · 20/12/2019 16:20

I agree @vivacian, it was very upsetting to read those awful posts.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 20/12/2019 16:25

Sorry Helen, but your managers at the NHS must be fed up with you coming back from maternity leave pregnant again!

Well,if they are then it's up to them to sort it out and nothing to do with you,is it? Confused

BerniesGirl · 20/12/2019 18:16

This is why I would never go on TV and have my life, choices and practices available to the viewing public. Fair play to those who do (you're braver than me), but the temptation of reading opinions on social media, forums and other websites would be too much for me. I would have to look then possibly go on the defence!

It's fair enough hoping people won't judge or express opinion but it's out there on viewer's TV's and as Helen said it would be naive to assume that everyone is going to agree or not pass judgement or opinion. Your post was certainly thorough and covered all bases of opinion / viewpoints that had been expressed on here.

snailywhaley · 20/12/2019 18:46

@lovingthelovein FWIW I loved your family! I thought you all seemed so close (&I definitely understood Nigel's humour!)

Honestly, I felt a bit jealous that you are able to cope with the chaos of 5 children, (and pregnancy) so well. We have chosen to stop at 2 because that's my limit and we're all very happy. But I'm another world I think I would have loved a massive family.

Good luck to you all x

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 20/12/2019 18:53

In another world I would have stopped having kids at menopause I think,I always imagined I'd have a huge family.

Bigoldwimp · 20/12/2019 22:08

@SleepingStandingUp I have a newborn and two older boys of similar ages to Ezra and Elijah. I think I would be portrayed as crabby!

SleepingStandingUp · 21/12/2019 00:19

, 😂😂

NotYourHun · 21/12/2019 06:05

The NHS do get a good package. I want to say a years full pay but I could be wrong.

😂😂😂 Nothing like.

Izzabellasasperella · 21/12/2019 06:42

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

In another world I would have stopped having kids at menopause I think,I always imagined I'd have a huge family.
Sorry I don't understand this sentence.

DappledThings · 21/12/2019 08:04

Izzabellasasperella She means that in another world, presumably one with unlimited personal and environmental resources she would have carried on having babies as long as she was physically able, until the advent of menopause stopped that being possible.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 21/12/2019 10:26

In another world/life I'd have continued to have babies until menopause prevented me from having any more. Unfortunately I wasn't able to have more than one child.

SidSparrow · 21/12/2019 16:16

Being critical of surrogacy is not homophobic. It's a very easy conclusion to jump to in order to dismiss the ethical concerns that comes with surrogacy and single sex parenting. It's not about the needs or concerns of the adults, or their ability to parent. It's about the needs of the children which doesn't seem to centre. Purposely denying a child it's mother or father is wrong.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 21/12/2019 18:07

Agree x100 Sid

SmileyClare · 21/12/2019 19:35

Denying a child it's mother or father is wrong

This is such an over simplified view of the world. Adoption agencies are fine with single sex parents adopting; not because they are desperate to home children but because they see nothing "wrong" with a family headed by 2 dads or 2 mums or indeed single parents.

If you mean by this statement that a child should never be separated from a biological parent then that rules egg or sperm donation as "wrong" also parents divorcing? Step parents? What about a single woman that wishes to have a child by sperm donation because she hasn't met a life partner? Should she be denied?

Let's also be realistic about same sex parents. I know a gay couple with a son and he has grown up to be a well adjusted lovely man. He grew up with a variety of female figures in his life; very close to his grandmother, aunts, uncles, family friends. A family isn't just a mum and dad.
There are many people who have been brought up in a loving family set up that isn't your usual mum + dad = child and who are not damaged or feel denied.

You're entitled to your views Sid but I disagree with a blanket statement of "it's wrong" That's far too black and white for our modern society.

SmileyClare · 21/12/2019 19:59

My reservations around surrogacy are the risks that women can be coerced into carrying a child or are not emotionally equipped to deal with a surrogate pregnancy.
And although surrogacy is highly regulated in this country there is always a risk that people abuse the system for financial gain.

SmileyClare · 21/12/2019 20:24

Hello to Helen. Extremely brave to go on a programme like this and I think you are wide open to criticism after doing so, particularly with an usually large brood.
I'm impressed you found the time and energy to write an essay! I probably wouldn't be capable of stringing a coherent sentence together in your shoes.

Let's face it, no family is perfect. I can't imagine the chaos in your household at Christmas but wish you all a merry Christmas Xmas Smile