Bride & Prejudice

[covetingthepreciousthings]

Any watching this new show on channel 4?

Me!
John is annoying.

Yes I thought that.. it was the boom boom boom

God, he was AWFUL! I think she's in for a reality check one day. The Asian woman and the white bloke seemed very sweet - her mum seemed controlling, though. Looking forward to seeing the gay couple - apparently one of the couple has parents who just don't believe he's gay. My mum would be like that!

That grandad is awful, he really needs to back off!

Sad story about her dad, but agree the grandad is too much & needs to back off.. she's clearly happy, might aswell let her enjoy her wedding by giving her his blessing.

"If he was a genuine gay"

"Cracking birds round here.. big chested things" even the mum seemed to cringe with that..

'He used to bring some cracking birds back... big chested things'

I feel really sorry for him.
There's no aisle?

I missed it, how long as he been with his partner for? It's just very sad that they can't accept it.

Omg the dad perving over his sons girlfriends!

Ohhh I'd guessed they were trans.

The gay blokes parents are awful - 'if he was a genuine gay he'd have a limp hand', sweet Jesus what 1950s book have they been reading?

I hope her Grandad agrees, it's sad that his views should overshadow her happiness.

I'm watching. I couldn't believe the comment about the limp hand!

My heartbreaks for the gay couple. His parents are just awful and the excuse ‘we’re a different generation’ makes my blood boil

Also the Malaysian mum needs to stop referring to her future son in law as A transgender.

Aww the grandad made me well up! Agree about the gay mans parent the Mauritian woman, it's not about YOU, it's their children's lives, I could not imagine trying to shove my prejudices and beliefs down my child's throat, how arrogant they are

I must admit I'd like I think I'd probably accept whoever my kids wanted to marry. But I can see why some parents might find it hard.

I'd worry my daughter would be looking after an old person in a few years if she married someone 35 years older than her. But I guess I'd not withhold 'my blessing' because there is no point if they are getting married anyway!

Watching on Plus 1 catch up so I am an hour behind!

The gay guy's parents were awful. So narrow minded. I felt really sorry for him.

I must admit I don't think I would be happy if a child of mine married someone 35 years older. It is such a large age gap and will become more and more obvious as time goes by

I feel bad for both the gay man and his parents, they all seem defensive and sad.

Cringe from John 'won't forget this day unless I get dementia' my god. For me that one I'd find hard to accept only cos he's so annoying as well as the age difference.

It does seem as if it is not quite so straight forward. Seemed at first older guy, gay couple, racist mum. ....Spoiler alert....

Then it was that as a girl she lost her dad at 13, so maybe was looking for a father figure. I can understand her grandfather being uncomfortable.

The gay guy had been straight, married to a woman and is a dad of two. Of course he can change his mind and be gay, or bi, or whatever - but his parents have obviously found it harder to accept.

And the mum is pretty racist but also finding it hard to accept (or easy not to accept) the fact her daughter's female friend became her boyfriend and now fiance.

What's a bit difficult is the gay guy and the 24 year old seem to expect their loved ones to acceit who they want to marry and be interested in the wedding/or even play a part on it.

And although I can see why they would feel that way, I can understand why their loved ones would struggle.

At the end of the day if your love of the person getting married is strong enough, you may be able to accept their choice.

I started watching this thinking I would find the parents objecting really closed minded and bigoted but putting myself in their shoes I can absolutely understand their concerns. The gay mans parents were pretty horrible and some of their phrases appalling but I guess their son was married before has children and they are struggling to make the shift from who they thought he was to who he is now (saying that though I don't think their views would be any different if he came out to them in his teens so I do think they are a lost cause).

The girl marrying the man 35 years older I would struggle with. I have 3 daughters and the first thing I would find hard is if they wanted to marry at 24 which I think is very young particularly nowadays don't know about UK average age to get married but in Ireland for a woman it is 30. I would also be very concerned with her marrying someone so much older for loads of different reasons. I would probably questions his motives for marrying someone so much younger too. If it boiled down to it I would accept it and give them my blessing but I think inside I would be sad.

The woman with the daughter marrying the trans boy again I would find this tough but tbh probably easier then the age difference marriage. Again I feel this couple also seemed really young and wondered why they were rushing into marriage particularly when he was still quite early on in his transitioning. Again I would accept it but inside wouldn't be entirely happy about it

@Dulra my thoughts exactly! I also feel the age gap is a massive one. I'd be worried my child would be widowed young. Left to cope with or without kids.

The other situations didn't seem as dramatic I'm a way.

I can definitely see why all the parents are struggling and I also agree that the most reasonable parents actually had one of the hardest situations!

Although I do think if the older fiancé had been more of a ‘lad’ then Grandad would have found the age gap easier. It’s exacerbated by the fact he doesn’t understand why his granddaughter likes him.

The parents of the gay guy were just appalling though. Yes it must have been a shock but giggling about limp wrists and he can’t be gay cos his previous girlfriends had big tits?! I’m sorry but that level of ‘I’m not a homophone or nothing BUT...’ is just disgusting. Like any other homophobia it is still rooted in the basic idea that gay men are perverted pansies and it’s not ‘real’ but the product of abuse or perversion. Unforgivable to my mind.