Bride & Prejudice

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Any watching this new show on channel 4?

The Mauritian mother is concerned for how this would effect the entire family, not only is her future son in law not Mauritian but used to her her daughter's female friend. She may have a lot of outraged older relatives breathing down her neck and putting a lot of pressure on her.

The age gap couple, a previous poster mentioned the idea that she is seeking that father figure. But he did come across a bit doddery, but could be hammed up for the cameras. The grandad and the groom are just from different backgrounds and that was pretty evident.

The homophobic twits from March probably worry about what other people in their small market town think and are going on stereotypes alone. I think they annoyed me the most. I can't remember how long the couple had been together but if his parents haven't warmed up to the idea by now, perhaps they won't. Mind boggling that people still hold these antiquated opinions although it's not even antiquated yet in terms of law.

The other gay man's mum, Sue, was lovely. (and I have the top she wore!).

I think the parents of the gay man were totally nuts to say 'I've never told anyone my son is gay' and yet are now on national telly doing just that!

The Mauritian mum seems to be thinking about her family but not her daughter's happiness. She is so young, 23, but they have been together a long time.

At the end of the day as a parent unless your child's partner puts them in danger, I guess maybe you need to accept the person they choose. I think the granddad did that. I had tears in my eyes when he made that speech!

I would really struggle with my dd marrying somebody close to her grandads age I think Dee's grandad was worried obviously it was none of his bussiness but I got his concern. The gay blokes parents were awful though the limp wristed but we are from a different generation comments were ridiculous.

Oh watching this now, the older gay guys parents are so awful. I just want to hug him. They're idiots. He isn't gay, he doesn't have limp wrists!

I was at the gay blokes parents too, his dad was bragging about the "corking birds" his son used to bring home. Then there was the stereotyping what gay men are supposed to look and behave like
My cousin is gay and he is very feminine and probably what the dad would expect of a gay man, his partner though is the complete opposite!

Some of the parents were awful, particularly the dad of one of the gay couple ('he used to bring back some cracking girlfriends, big-chested things' WTAF?), but I do understand the concerns of the family of the 24 year old girl marrying the 59 year old. Nothing against him as a person, but in 20 or 30 years she could end up as his carer, life is going to be hard for her.

Anyone watching now?

I think the gay man's past history has played a part in his mum's feelings. His dad is coming round.

I missed the end tonight - did the gay guys wedding take place in this one, and if so, how was the mum?

With the transgender guy, it would be interesting to ask the mum how she'd feel if he was Mauritian transgender, as the ethnicity is also such an issue for her.

It's on catch up @theliverpoolone.

www.channel4.com/programmes/bride-prejudice

No the wedding did not take place.

Quite impressed with how far the dad of the gay guy has come. I can't help feeling that there is a lot more going on there, really in that whole family dynamic.

I wonder if it would make a difference to the mum if he were not white. I think she feels a bit duped, that the person came into her daughter's life as a friend and then changed. That seemed a theme with the young woman with the homeless guy too, for the parent I mean. There are lots of layers I think, it is not one thing.

Personally, I think the race of the trans guy is not he main issue at all. But who knows. I actually quite liked the trans guy but he, and the gay guy and the girl all seem to want their parents to really accept their decision and not just put up with it but be proud or happy or whatever. Trying to imagine how I would feel if my child were marrying someone and I did trust the situation.

I feel 'trust' is a big issue for all the parents in the episode tonight. They seem to be worrying their child is making a mistake, not just that they don't like the person. Very sad as the people clearly love their betrothed partner and I imagine it's so painful to feel mum or dad doesn't approve.

I wasn't feeling well last night watched it in bed but fell asleep I got up to the gay guy being in prison I can see how the gossip and whispering would affect mum I felt a bit sorry for her.

God yes, the gay guy's (can't remember his name) parents are just awful. Especially the mum- When discussing what goes on in gay bars ""They'll just be a lot of gays and lesbians, but I suppose they just do what normal people do" WTF?! Normal? Oh and when they were talking in the café and he said his grandma would know he was gay when he snogs his husband at the alter and she said "shhhhh there are people in here"

Honestly, the common theme of bigots like this is they're just idiots. Plain and simple. No time for them at all. I don't care if it was a different time. I don't care if it's not what you're used to. You better get used to it, cos we're going nowhere

Just watched this on catch up... I really felt for the mother of the young girl who wanted to marry the liar. I felt he was into divide and rule. The girl said, "I've never felt like this before!" and I thought, "Well, no, you're 20, that's what it's like when you first fall in love!" But the lies he told about his parents dying, not only to get a place in a homeless hostel but also to his girlfriend's mother were appalling. It would be interesting to see his parents on the programme.

And yes, I know I've said "young girl" when she's 20, but she seemed really, really young to me!

I can see that the mum of the young girl thinks she is too young to marry, especially as she herself got married young and it didn't work.

It can work though. I know 2 couples who got married that young and are still together, and seem happy, over 30 years later.

I also know couples who, whilst they didn't get married that young, met when they were young (ranging from 16 to 19), got married mid 20's and are still together.

People get married at all ages and it doesn't work.

I can see why he lied about his parents. If it was the only way to get housed then as awful as it was I can see why he did it. He said himself that he got caught up in the lie and had to carry it on.

The lies just tripped off his tongue though I appreciate it was a survival instinct but he managed it so easily he didn't need to say his parents were dead

I can understand why the mum of the younger couple's not hair after having been lied to. Can't stand lying.

I agree Purple. He doesn't come across as a very nice person at all.

How on earth did the production company persuade the parents of couples to appear on the show?

I love this programme but I actually feel quite sorry for the parents. They are not happy with their child's choice, for whatever reason, and yet the programme is all about bamboozeling them into being proud, happy etc when they aren't!

I do feel sorry for the couples, because it must be crap when your most important person from your past (parent/s) don't love/like/accept the person you love.

I dated black, Asian and Jewish men but ended up marrying a white man (I'm white). My parents had a great relationship with my husband and I would hope that would have been the same whoever I had married. But if they had not accepted my choice I'd have followed my heart (I hope) but no idea if I would have expected my parents to be happy about it.

I felt Jamie was wrong not to accept the cake. It felt like a kind of peace offering. Faye hurt him so he wanted to hurt her back!

I'm the younger Gay guy fronthe show and your comments on here have been very warming to us, I'm from harlow originally and Sue my mum still lives there
Would love to hear what you thought to our wedding

@simon2ce congratulations. I thought your wedding looked lovely. Your new mother-in-law did show some (I think) genuine emotion at the wedding.

You put in a lot of work! You also certainly put the wind up your husband by arriving late! But I think I did that too!

Your mum is a total sweetie.

Your in laws have found this hard. Please don't take it personally that they have found it hard. As a parent it is not always easy to agree with all our kids want to do! It sounds like they are coming round slowly but they are coming round so look to the future.

The programme slightly 'demonized' the parents for not being on board but by agreeing to come on the show they did show a willingness.

To be honest I can see why everyone of these families bar the young girl marrying the really older guy why they have issues

And the trans persons mother had it bang on the best you can hope for is tolerance you can’t acceptance from everyone
As long as she’s not being openly hostile your gonna have to suck it up

The boy who said his parents were dead needs to apologise and I bet his parents think he is a twat

The gay guy I guess his parents are shocked since he was with a women

theliverpoolone

The main issue is the trans thing and if I am honest I would feel the same

BME people are much more conservative
Many white middle class would expect trans but you wouldn’t find many black or Asian families who would have nay if it

@simon2ce I absolutely loved your wedding. You seem like such a lovely couple, seem to balance each other out perfectly.

I loved that you did so much work and made it so personal to you both. Amazing. Congratulations!

@simon2ce did you get to meet the other couples?