I thought this was great. I do love this sort of crap and wife swap I can then sit there smugly with Dh and see how fab we have it
However and you can shoot me down on this one, sometimes just sometimes we do make a rod for our own backs like that Karen woman was saying, she criticises all the time and it is like a vicsios circle. I have seen threads on MN where I amnd others have said that sometimes we complain so much about our dh's not doing things the RIGHt way (eg our way) that we render them incapable of doing anything at al, then we nag them for being useless, when in fact they are too worried about pissing us ooff in teh first place, hence we are the ones making them crap and so, my point - long winded maybe- is that prasing them and bigging up thie efforts and agreeing to do it their way is not such a bad thing, it does seem to make them do more in a funny way. They suddenly become more capable, as we lay off nagging IYKWIM. Reading the link to the DM (hatefuly rag) says that she does less around the house now, as Ali helps more as she praises him emore.
Surrendered wives, surely it is another trick to make our men behave - use the ca\rrot, not the stick praise the good and ignore the bad - hay it's like we teach a toddler See what I mean now ......
My DH is capable of far far more then a few years ago, simply because I don't nag about it, and agree to do things his way somethimes