Seven Year Switch

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Anyone else watching this now?

@FrozenMargarita17 it was horrible watching Nikki, Have you spoken to him about how you feel?
Please dont resign yourself to a life like that.

I’m my opinion Simon wasn’t prepared to give up his boys. I’m not convinced he loves Nikki still and I found her pleading eyes and change of tone in her voice desperate for her to love him so so sad. Glad they are still together but I’m not sure they will be once the boys have flown the nest.

I actually thought Tony was awful at first, but came to really like him. I thought Gemma was absolutely lovely and I can see they are going to have such a fun life together. Camp, emotional and selfish, but sweet, fun and embraces life. They are the sort of couple I’d like to be friends with.

Tom and Rachel were completely mismatched. I thought she came across badly, but it must have been hugely frustrating to be her. I hope they both find happiness elsewhere and I image they are able to put their child first and leave the viciousness of splitting at the door.

As for Michelle and George, I expected to dislike her completely. I thought on appearance that this was all about self promotion, but she really surprised me. I thought she was a really nice girl and I really warmed to her. Thank God they split for the sake of their child, what an awful atmosphere to raise a baby in. The language and complete lack of respect from George was toxic. I thought he was absolutely vile.

It was not normally my kind of program but I really enjoyed it. Maybe because it highlighted what an amazing hubby I have and that I’m so glad we’ve been able to grow together!

When a marriage falls apart like Nikki and Simons over a few years it is realistic to accept it will take a few years to fix. I can completely see how over a year their marriage could now be thriving - after Simon struggling for so long he's not going to overnight be all emotionally open, I'm sure with Nikki much happier he'd be capable of learning to be different.

@Prettylovely yeah I have. I couldn't for a very long time because he used to just walk out or look at me like 'what now?!' All the time in the beginning. I'm so much better now but I can't help but be a bit resentful of how he treated me when I really needed him

after Simon struggling for so long he's not going to overnight be all emotionally open, I'm sure with Nikki much happier he'd be capable of learning to be different.

I feel sorry for Nikki if that’s the case. She deserves to be loved especially when she is unhappy. Simon seems to lack the emotional maturity to be able to give more than being a fair weather husband.

I bet @FrozenMargarita17
I dont blame you for being resentful he sounds uncaring and unsupportive.
What a let down.

Just because he didn't know how to be/how to help doesn't mean he didn't love her???

When people get very very depressed they do actually turn into someone you don't recognise, you love them but have no clue how to relate to the person they've become!

Nikki had posted/tweeted that they are happy I was merely trying to explain that it was possible and their marriage may have truly come a long way in the last 12 months...

@Prettylovely he's so much better now that I am better. And he's so much more involved. At one point he would come in, walk past, and go out to the shed. So bad. But now he isn't like that at all.

Well glad hes better now and things are looking up for you @FrozenMargarita17

Ive now started on the Australian series

Just read that George made Michelle and their son leave the flat when she said she was divorcing him and she had to stay with family. I honestly couldn't see anything nice about him in any episode. He just seems awful.

George should have gone back to his mummy’s house.

Now George is living by himself, who is doing his cooking, cleaning etc?

Just because he didn't know how to be/how to help doesn't mean he didn't love her???
This
My dad got severely depressed when I was in my 20's. I loved him but found it so hard to be around him I avoided him like the plaque. It hurt me too much to see him and dragged me down too. I didn't for one minute stop loving him but I just couldn't handle the situation and my worry for him made me angry at him for putting us through that. So I can completely understand why Simon behaved how he did unless you have had to deal with someone you love struggling with mental health issues you have no idea how you will cope. As I mentioned previous I suffered with pnd and saw how that effected my dh. We had a toddler and a newborn I wasn't coping he had to manage everything the kids, his job, me. Was he perfect? no but he did his best and kept it altogether when my world was falling apart and I will forever be grateful for that.

FrozenMargarita17 Glad you are much better now too and things have improved with your dh

I thought that Rachael had been after a ring for a while. I think the fact Tom never proposed was the catalyst for her anger about his immaturity. By the time he decided to be mature enough to ask her the respect was already gone.

I think Simon and Niki have similar issues. She was the go getting working woman who saw hot rugby playing Simon first. He liked that and went for it. The reality of her being a SAHM wasn't what he expected let alone with PND. She still sees him as the hot rugby guy rather than the stilted emotionless bloke he is, so is dresser ate for it to work. He's taking the easiest route of least resistance ( wouldn't be surprised if he moved on eventually though).

Totally agree with your post @sheworebluevelvet

I think previously both Rachel and Tom considered Rachel as the “settler” and Tom as the “reacher” in their relationship. It was only by doing the switch that they both realised how objectively attractive Tom is! Especially when he was paired with the very hot Michelle, who clearly appreciated Tom for Tom, and made Rachel actually feel insecure about the relationship, away from her default position of frustration with him. Tom meanwhile grew in confidence that a gorgeous woman like Michelle could find him attractive having got used to constantly being put down by Rachel.

I hope for both their sakes that Simon and Nikki are true to themselves and each other about their compatibility. Hope I’m wrong but seems to me that Nikki is in for a lifetime of emotional frustration with Simon.

I'm sure I saw that Rachel was an accountant hence her not liking his lack of drive and bar job

She was a stay at home mum in the programme although might have been accountant before or since then of course

George is a nasty piece of work. Not only did he kick Michelle out of the flat, apparently his uncle was the landlord of the shop where she ran her business and he forced her to leave. I hope she can get her life together and find someone loving.

George was really nasty, and tbh, Simon was not much better; that bollocks about worrying the kids weren't safe with Nikki, yet buggering off to rugby after being out of the house all day, doesn't add up.

Simon was such a wet Wednesday, all she wanted was affection and conversation 🤦🏼‍♀️

I'd like Tom to start standing up to Rachel or leave her. She's a really catty little bitch with Tom and is always putting him down. No she doesn't have a job outside of the house - she's a mum.
Agree George is a nasty bloke and Tony -I dunno - it hadn't occurred to me that he was gay, not that it matters as you have to know the important things to keep a relationship alive regardless of your sexuality.

Tom and Rachel have split up.

I felt so sorry for Nikki in the last episode, she's so desperate for Simon to love her and be an emotionally supportive husband but he just isn't, he's a bit of a prick. He seemed quite angry with her for having PND iyswim? Like he resented her for making their life hard, but obviously it's not her fault and I think he knew it wasn't her fault but he was still angry at her for it. I think he wanted her to know how hard it was for him, and deep down he was angry with her for not apologising to him for It, or not trying hard enough? I'm not sure but I sensed some resentment from him about her pnd, i think he blamed her a bit for It, he certainly didn't like the fact shed had it and not in a " its so horrible seeing someone I love like this" way.

I Think Rachel came off badly but Tom would annoy me so much. I think she was very insecure and uptight but I think she loved Tom but I don't think he really liked her anymore, perhaps understandably, and I think she knew that. Tom was a bit immature. Glad they split really as neither did the other one any favours.

I don't think you can really judge Simon's reaction to Nikki's pnd unless you know exactly how it was, how she reacted to him, what happened in it. Yes it wasn't her fault but people who have mental health conditions can be hell to live with and can hurt their partner in many ways emotionally and mentally. If someone has issues it's not just that person who suffers. So I can see the viewpoint of some of the people above who have said it will take a while for Simon to come out. And I can see that this is why therapist said Simon needs to feel it's safe again.

Just another way of looking it. Cos even though we've seen the show we haven't seen every single day leading up to this and what happened.

Simon came across as emotionally lacking, like the lights were on but no one was home.