Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Telly addicts

Related: Film discussion forum.

Original poster

Swagger Inn; 77... Come (YWB) on in, you know you want to...

999 replies

FolknNorah · 13/01/2015 10:00

Another day another Swagger Inn thread.

Welcome welcome, take a seat on the chaise and let's get on down to it.
Which of the bbc musketeers would you like to boff?

OP posts:
Thread gallery
51
DrinkFeckArseGirls · 13/01/2015 12:23

I just had some Rochefort for brunch! With a celery stick!

LiviaDruscillaAugusta · 13/01/2015 12:25

Was it particularly cheesy Drink ?

Baddz · 13/01/2015 12:25

Well...I would :)

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/01/2015 12:26

Oh poor little mites :( I do know exactly how you feel, DS1 is really struggling socially at school, and they seem at a loss to know how to help him.

He is happy enough to go in, but apparently wanders around in a daydream a lot of the time, not really getting his work done and not engaging with the other kids.

I'm going to see his teacher after school tomorrow because things seem to be getting worse not better, and I am terrified about him going into Juniors in September and how he will cope.

It is the not knowing that is awful, you just want to have some CCTV of the day and see what is actually happening! I do feel that school give me a very filtered version of what happens, and DS1 definitely doesn't tell me the truth about what he's been doing a lot of the time. Hey ho.

Baddz · 13/01/2015 12:32

Oh, getting stuff out of them is like getting blood from a stone isn't it!?
Even ds1 (11) is the same.
Me: What did you so today?
Ds1: stuff
Me: anything you enjoyed
Ds1: yes
Me: anything specifically?
Ds1: eh?

Maybe I need to be a 1970s parent...I can't remember my mum and dad ever asking me how school went! :)

Original poster
FolknNorah · 13/01/2015 12:45

Oh, none of mine say anything other than yeah, fine, had fun etc etc.

If he didn't like his reception teacher, and has been off quite a bit last term, he might not have fully got into the swing of year one IySWIM?
It's awful when we think our children are unhappy isn't it?

I'm waiting...
Still waiting...
Grin

OP posts:
DrinkFeckArseGirls · 13/01/2015 12:48

Recipe needed! I bought a whole crispy duck thing, where you roast the duck and there are the little pancakes and the sauce. DD didn't want to know. thanks DD Hmm. So now I have a whole cooked duck ( to be shredded) but I'm lacking inspiration what to do with it. Curry? I threw the pancake sand won't have the 150% sugar plum sauce so what else?

BloodyElkFire · 13/01/2015 12:50

SNOW!!!!

Bads Sad As soon as they're born we start worrying about them, and can't bear for them to be in pain. Does his current teacher know all the background? Maybe it's worth having a chat with her....if she can tell you he's fine as soon as he's left it will make it easier. And your poor older one....Bullying is just awful. What's DS2's school's policy on bullying?, how do they respond?, are they reactive or proactive? I'm sure you've already been through all this yourself, even if just to reassure yourself history is not repeating itself.

Baddz · 13/01/2015 12:52

Raining here flops, sorry. No snow to send to you.
It's gone bloody dark here all of a sudden.
I do hope the end isn't nigh.
I've got a lot of laundry to do....

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/01/2015 12:56

Drink - couscous, pomegranate seeds and chopped mint and lemon juice stirred through?

Baddz · 13/01/2015 12:57

Elk...they haven't been great tbh.
The HT basically told me that we are "lucky". I.e we are middle class and a nuclear family so how could we possibly have problems?
I realise teachers must see some pretty bad things but I think that was a shitty thing to say. We have lost 8 family members in a year, inc dad. I had to have an emergency op, so did ds2...it's not been fun.
I have had issues with the ht in the past...I paid for a private EP report which dx ds1 as severely dyslexic (not news to me) as she and the ct were saying he was fine Hmm
She pretty much hates me :)
Actually her being a cow helped me. I just gave up expecting school to help him and did it myself. He is doing really well now :)
Wrt ds2 I don't know. He is very bright and is doing well.
But the pastoral care has been basically non existent.
I had to find and access the counselling myself.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 13/01/2015 13:01

will waitrose have pomegranate though? that's the nearest supermarket. well, if they don't have it who will...

Original poster
FolknNorah · 13/01/2015 13:12

Oh baddersz how shit.
Your family are so lucky to have you as are the wenches.

I love that norah and floppers are now the same person. Grin NorFlops for evah

OP posts:
Original poster
FolknNorah · 13/01/2015 13:13

I thought that there big city had everything you would ever want all on everyone's doorstep?

OP posts:
Baddz · 13/01/2015 13:15

norflops

Baddz · 13/01/2015 13:36

I have been musing on the preview of the next episode...
I think it's pretty clear what's going to happen to the girl that Rochefort gets to dress up :(
But what about the king/milady thing?
What will this dynamic cause?
Drive the queen into rocheforts/Aramis arms?
Send Athos insane with jealousy?

BloodyElkFire · 13/01/2015 13:46

That school sounds bloody awful Bads, but i'm assuming that if DS2 is settled and has friends there you'd be reluctant to change. Re. the HT, I don't understand how such detached people can obtain these positions of such power.....unfortunately, from talking to teacher friends, it's more common than you think. One friend and his partner both work in a tough inner city school, they've both taught the same class and both have been physically assaulted by children in the class. They both put in official complaints to the head, but the head did nothing, denied there was a problem, and was then surprised when one of them left.

MiladyBeaWinter · 13/01/2015 13:49

That's a shocker by the HT Bads, how "lucky" would she feel in the same circumstances? And her role is not to make judgements based on some made up prejudiced sliding scale of trauma, but to help deal with any issues the kids in her care have regardless of the cause. Can you ask to sit down with new teacher and talk to her, give her background and ask her to observe DS for you?

Ooops sorry Norah I seem to have sent the snow to Elk by mistake Blush

BloodyElkFire · 13/01/2015 13:50

Hmm...Insanely jealous Athos.....now that would be a good storyline, I just want to see him lose his shit, he's so contained and buttoned up. However, I think they're sending him down the redemption/forgiveness route ...mores the pity, we need him seething and tortured and ready to bang me against a wall

BloodyElkFire · 13/01/2015 13:54

or in a taxi

Baddz · 13/01/2015 13:56

Yes, yes....I want to see him lose control too :)
He is so reserved, so calm...what would it take for him to lose his shit?
I agree wrt ht. She is what I believe is called "old school"
Ds2 does seem to have friends, and seems to enjoy it when he is there (apart from assembly which he hates)
It's just so draining.
Every day this horrid feeling in the pit of my stomach.

Original poster
FolknNorah · 13/01/2015 14:04

Baddersz, a lot has happened to you (and your family) could this feeling of dread be you waiting for the next thing to happen?

Do you like his actual teacher? Can you talk to her? If you can reassure yourself that both boys are doing well and more importantly happy, you might begin to let go of that feeling of dread.
We've got you.

OP posts:
Original poster
FolknNorah · 13/01/2015 14:06

I want to see them all standing naked in a pool washing themselves NOT EACH OTHER
There should be a waterfall to rinse themselves under.

And me.

Ooooooooooffffffffff

OP posts:
ApricotCrush · 13/01/2015 14:07

Sorry about DS Badders, it just tears you apart when your little ones are unhappy. My DD was bullied by a teacher, who used to hit her over the head. She was a sadistic woman who picked on one child every year. We complained to the head teacher who more or less told us DD was making it up, but she was such a quiet little thing and would never have lied. It was a long time ago, and that sort of thing just wouldn't happen now.

YES, I want Athos to be insanely jealous about Milady. And I want him to take her back to the chateau to remind her of their previous happiness, and I want him to drag her to the summerhouse in the grounds if there is one and force himself on her, and she resists him at first but then in end she gives in, and, and ....

Adrian if you haven't gone down this road already, and you want a script advisor for S3 ..... Hmm

Original poster
FolknNorah · 13/01/2015 14:09

I'll be back in a bit..

OP posts: