Long lost family.

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I love this programme. I can even not hate Davina. I do love a good sob though.

I felt really sorry for the guy, his BM seemed so unfeeling about it all, and he was lovely

I think the problem with him (I don't mean 'with him', IYSWIM), was that his adoptive parents only told him he was adopted when he was about 8 years old (IIRC?). What an awful shock for him.

I was adopted as a baby and have always known I was adopted, so I had no 'shocks' like that in my life.

And, poor guy, his story was made worse by the future revelations about his birth family . He seems such a nice man, with a lovely wife and lovely DC.

I disagree. I think the problem was he knew his mum and dad were engaged to be married, therefore they loved each other and wanted to have a life together, but they gave away the baby they had instead of including it in that life.

I know times are different, but thats something most of us would struggle with, surely.

And then to find out they did marry and have 2 more boys, which they kept...and they never contacted him.....I dont know, thats unforgivable to me, however you look at it.

Ah, OK. I think I might have missed a bit of it, so thought that he hadn't known about that until later in his life.

But, yes, I agree, his BM seemed so remote and disinterested in him.

Are we ready?

This chap not going to his daughters' 21st birthdays nor wanting to get married is odd. How have his adoptive parents felt about this I wonder?

That was lovely, the three siblings together.

That's just weird isn't it Kimaroo. What an peculiar thing to do. If I were his wife or daughters I'd be pretty offended that he apparently cared more about someone he'd never met! And don't forget when he was in hospital the doctor told him the reason he survived was that he had something to live for. Which naturally meant his unknown mother, and not his wife and kids.

Has Stephen's partner been on something before? She looks so familiar.

I don't think we can underestimate or judge his feelings though. It's pretty major! At least he is open rather than bottling up his emotions

Oh the siblings were lovely. And they all seemed so genuinely pleased for themselves and each other.

I found the chap a little intense about needing to find his mum, almost to the extent of denying himself any happiness. I really hope it all works out for him as he seems so fragile.

But at what stage did this takeover his life and he hasn't celebrated anything? Was it before his children were born? Or just recently since his illness? At least he and his family can move forward now and I hope he's better after that message at the end.

Yes, the three siblings was a lovely reunion. They seemed happy and I hope they continue to see each other. The two brothers looked so similar!

But, I agree, that Stephen seems to have 'lost' so much of his life - for nothing really (I'm adopted, not found birth families, but I've never put my life 'on hold'). And his wife, daughters and grandchild have also lost much too. He probably is quite fragile, as you say Dolly.

The three siblings were lovely, and had a strong family resemblance. I loved the fact that the brother had a picture of his birth mother all along.

I hope the son gets closure now and move forward. It said at the end that he had been ill again - I hope he is now fully recovered. I wonder if they have got married yet.

Only watched it today. The siblings was a lovely story,all seemed so genuine in their delight.
The man who didn't celebrate birthdays,weddings etc was so damaged from it. I know it's harsh but I found him a bit unlikeable. His family were very understanding but i wondered if they'd indulged it all. What if she hadn't wanted to see him,or been dead? His life on hold for the chance of meeting her.
I sometimes find the men searching for their birth mothers almost more affected by their start in life than the women.

What were the circumstances of his adoptive parents, wonder what they thought? I didn't hear anything mentioned about his childhood etc.

I think they said he was bought up in Australia (although I could be wrong), so maybe his adopted parents were still there - assuming they were still alive?

Thanks viking

Anyone watching tonight?

Me, missed 1st 5 mins, but I like both these people tonight, seem lovely. Always such a tragic situation for these women, having no other choice but to give up their baby.

I know so heartbreaking. They do both seem lovely I think their meeting will go well

Oh gosh, doesn't the aunt look like the daughter?

Yes!! I thought the same. This is terribly sad. I missed why she gave the baby up did she have an affair? Or was it before she met her husband?

The mum was married, her husband was in the forces (?), he went away and mum had an affair, so gave up the baby - I think I've got that right. When her husband got back they went on to have the two other girls.