Channel 4 : My Violent Child

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[Lesleythegiraffe]

I'm appalled at the amount of very young kids who are allowed to play 18 rated computer games. It's fairly common among children at our school.

The kids can't buy these themselves so surely it's down to parenting - mine would never have asked for those as they'd know I would never allow them to have them till they were the appropriate age.

[ouryve]

Sadvoice.

I hate sadvoice narration in these things.

[TwoLeftSocks]

Sadvoice plus sadmusic.

[OddBoots]

I'm sure the subtitles said it was Franklyn's older sister sat there watching not dad, I might have got that wrong though.

[TiredCassandrasbed]

My child had no TV, no computer games, none of the things you are thinking can cause agression. what my child had was a group of phyiscal health conditions that were undiagnosed. I was beaten up and blamed for being a shite parent, we were given no support just judgement and nastyness. Maturity and understanding the medical conditions are what changed things for us.

[spanky2]

Glad you got help.

[ouryve]

Dad was on the sofa, next to them.

[Jinsei]

:( Sorry to hear you had such a bad time, tired. People can be so quick to make judgements when they don't necessarily know anything about what's really going on.

[OddBoots]

I rewound, sorry you're right, that was dad there, sister was off camera talking, she was the one filming it (and also laughing).

[Lesleythegiraffe]

Can anybody tell me why I can go into my local Post Office, Doctors' surgery, Argos etc and they all have signs saying that any abuse of their staff will not be tolerated, yet schools have to put up with this from children and parents and very little seems to be done about it.

Maybe it is in other people's experience, but not sadly in mine.

[spanky2]

I have had to deal with violent children. I had to restrain one while in early pregnancy, she was a danger to herself and others.

[starlight1234]

I only watched last 10 minutes so obviously missed a big chunk... It appeared the children in the program behaviour really needed parents to change.

I am not judging all parents by this standard ( or even these as I missed so much ) but there is peoples parenting that are exacerbating childrens behaviour.

I saw the one guy at the park ..saying we need to do more of this now he has said he liked it ( or something like that ) why would you not anyway?

I would also imagine these programs also have a remit which was never designed to make the parents look good

[Lesleythegiraffe]

Spanky we have a pupil like that in our school (mainstream)

He has verbally and physically abused many members of staff and his mother is very aggressive when she comes up to school, yet we seem to just have to put up with it.

[Cookiechef]

Please don't judge the parents we don't know how they have brought up there child before the cameras turned up and we don't know it the child has any undiagnosed conditions.
I have a child who can be violent at times he's 3 and has autism we try our hardest we have 11 professionals involved in his care but noone even us as parents have been able to stop him when this happens he can't control it himself.

[JimmyCorkhill]

All I could notice was how clean their houses were. Immaculate. I don't know what point I'm trying to make but I have 2 under 5 and dream of an immaculate house

[VerityWaves]

Those women were being abused in their own homes. They were so used to it and ground down it was the norm for them.

[TiredCassandrasbed]

You do get ground down by it.

It is also sad for the child they feel horrible when they calm down. Guilty even years later and my child still can't explain why they got so violent like that it was apparently like they lost control of their body, we understand physically what was going on.

[OneInEight]

Awful programme. As usual let's just blame the mothers. Even the boy diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, ASD and OCD behavioural problems were all down apparently to his mother's (undiagnosed) OCD. Mind you was a good illustration of how little help there is out there - solution one a traffic light card, solution two let's feed bread to the ducks and solution three let's go to "Go Ape". I watch these programmes in the forlorn hope that there may be some useful strategies but I have to say I could take nothing from this.

[TheFirstOfHerName]

I have a 12 year old boy with ASD & ADHD. I've never been given the advice to lie on top of him to calm him down. If he has a meltdown I tend to separate him from his siblings and try to make sure he is safe.

[spanky2]

I saw it on a programme about autism as well. I questioned it to my friend as it didn't look right to me, but it is what the experts told her to do.

[VerityWaves]

The solutions did seen to blame the mothers who they were beating up!
Also The " bonding" time with the father who he didn't beat up or call a cunt, where he also seemed to blame the mother for not putting boundaries down.

[Aeroflotgirl]

I feel that there must be something more biological to this extreme behaviour, mabey chemical. Why aren't the parents seeking medical help! Sometimes the siblings are fine, they have the same environment and parenting, it's not always the parenting to blame. Why aren't tge professionals on thos programme recognising this!

[Aeroflotgirl]

Especially Brett and Franklin, they need to be assessed by a paedritrician ASAP and get the diagnosis and help they need.

[Aeroflotgirl]

I think Franklins mother has given up, she needs to take away the games, TV and leave just tge bed. Why is tge father laying this ell on the mum, blaming her, it's his responsibility as the father too.