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OBEM this week - 27 march SPOILER and SENSITIVE.

90 replies

gregssausageroll · 24/03/2013 18:20

Is going to be a difficult watch. The couple want the birth to be aired in order to raise awareness.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2298377/Couples-heartbreak-death-newborn-baby-shown-Channel-4s-One-Born-Every-Minute.html

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cupofteaplease · 27/03/2013 21:22

Well said deemented. If the parents are brave enough to share their story, then we should feel privileged to watch it.

Whatevertheweather · 27/03/2013 21:22

Trust me toddle anyone who has been in their situation will feel nothing but empathy and admiration for them. I can promise you that.

MrsWolowitz · 27/03/2013 21:22

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Bluemonkeyspots · 27/03/2013 21:24

Well I have been in their situation and am now days away from being due my next baby.

No my baby or myself won't catch the "death disease" by watching it but it will bring back memories I would rather not face just now. So in that case thank you to the op for making me aware.

deemented · 27/03/2013 21:24

Yes, i know it's shocking and horrific. I have one.

Bereaved parents do not want to be handled with kids gloves and shied away from 'things they may find upsetting'

Our children have died. Unlikely anything could upset us more, yunno?

cupofteaplease · 27/03/2013 21:24

As someone who has lost their baby, I don't watch OBEM usually- seeing all the happy ever after stories are what I find upsetting. Unfortunately there aren't any warnings about that in real life.

Piemother · 27/03/2013 21:24

I'm watching. I have checked on baby dd2 about 17 times already but I will see it through Hmm

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 27/03/2013 21:28

Great, nice to know my life, and the lives of so many others should have a big warning sticker slapped on it so we don't offend anyone by talking about our children.

Is there any wonder there is still so much stigma attached to being a bereaved parent. Maybe we should all give prior warning before speaking of our children just in case we upset anyone.

fioled · 27/03/2013 21:36

Applauds dee

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 27/03/2013 21:37

I agree the couple is very brave. No-one expects a pregnancy to end in a baby's death... but sadly, it does happen. But no, but it is not catching. However, often people are too scared to bring up such occurrences to pregnant women, because they don't want to worry them.

Surely it is better to be informed?? How much research and reading do we all do about strollers, birth plans, or even methods of ttc? Surely this is simply part of being prepared for parenthood. For you are still a parent to a baby that does not live, and no-one can deny this to you.

Yes, joyfully, the majority of babies born are absolutely fine. But I do feel that the miracle and wonder of pregnancy and birth which is 'sold' to us by media, the medical system and other sources can overwhelm (and undermine) the very important messages of the possibilities of when things don't happen as expected. Yet in the terrible situations where a baby dies, the poor parents are woefully under informed and can feel incredibly alone... and that is why the bereaved mothers thread here is so important - to ask the questions no-one else can answer, to solicit support, and to figure out how to deal with this 'crappy path.'

Toddle · 27/03/2013 21:38

Sorry if I have offended anyone. That really was not my intention. I had not actually seen this in the paper or facebook etc but I know the couple personally. It maybe says in the paper what will be shown. It possibly seems more upsetting to me because I know them and what is coming.

I wasn't trying to suggest that you should be silenced or your stories offend anyone. This is quite a change on the normal type of stories one born every minute covers. i guess it could come as a surprise to someone who wasn't aware and they could find it quite upsetting.

Again I'm really sorry if I have offended I hadn't thought of it from that side

MrsWolowitz · 27/03/2013 21:41

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Meglet · 27/03/2013 21:42

I'm watching.

susiedaisy · 27/03/2013 21:43

I'm watching very movingHmm

Piemother · 27/03/2013 21:44

My heart broke for the dad watching the birth.

IAmLouisWalsh · 27/03/2013 21:45

God, this is hard.

My heart goes out to them, and to anyone who has experienced something like this

pegster · 27/03/2013 21:47

So sad, such a brave family allowing this footage to be shared. I hope it brings them a little comfort following their tragic loss

Littlemissexpecting · 27/03/2013 21:47

My stupid house phone rang so missed the actual birth. Can anyone fill me in? I just saw the parents crying Hmm

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 27/03/2013 21:48

so, so quiet....no crying.

Lucyellensmum95 · 27/03/2013 21:49

I can't believe they have put a fucking add break in , to keep viewers in suspense - i missed the begining, did they say that the baby didn't make it???

AndFanjoWasHisNameO · 27/03/2013 21:49

However hard this is to watch-we owe it to the parents to do so. It's a hell of a lot harder to live it Sad
Their bravery in allowing people to share their journey to raise awareness for their wonderful boy is huge.
Unmumsnetty hugs to those affected by this subject xx

IAmLouisWalsh · 27/03/2013 21:50

Agree, Fanjo. People need to know and accept that this can happen, dreadful as it is.

Whatevertheweather · 27/03/2013 21:50

I think the danger is in this day and age so many medical miracles are performed, babies are saved at earlier and earlier gestations, that it is easy to forget that tragically babies and children do still die. My daughter was born at 36 weeks - she was live born but she wasn't breathing but I lay there terrified but utterly utterly convinced that they would be able to save her. Because that's what program's like OBEM ordinarily show - the grey floppy baby who eventually let's out that beautiful cry. My baby didn't do that. She was silent and still as she was handed to us and I cannot describe to you the shock and disbelief that they couldn't save her. I wish I'd seen a program that covered the less than happy outcomes.

deemented · 27/03/2013 21:53

It's been nine years and i still can'r believe they couldn't save him.

Jesus it's hard.

I want an 'off' switch.

sweetieaddict · 27/03/2013 21:59

RIP Beautiful Baby Kaiden

xx