Well said, Dee!
wannaBe, I am quite sure that if the couple had wanted to pull out and not have their grief shown on TV that they could have done so. I applaud them and C4 for actually showing that sometimes it doesn't go as planned and that not all babies are born healthy or survive.
My daughter died of SIDs. We tried to save her but our attempts were futile, we had the worst day of our lives in the childrens hospital, knowing that her little brain had died and that our girl wouldn't be coming home.
I knew some bereaved Mums here on MN, particularly fioled whose second baby was due the same time as my dd. I knew all about her first lovely daughter who was born sleeping. Thanks to her, I knew that we did want photos taken, that we should take hand and footprints, that although what we were going through was horrendous, that we should make certain memories, even though the thought of it seemed strange at the time. It sounds odd but I was better for knowing the story of someone who had walked this awful path before me.
Years ago, stillbirth and neonatal death were not talked of and families were expected to bear the grief in private. But there is no insurance against a baby dying, there is nothing different about those of us who lost children, we are just normal parents who have had the worst thing happen that can happen to a parent. I think there is no harm at all in knowing for example that if your baby has not kicked in a while that you should to to hospital or that babies should sleep on their backs.
And watching the show won't cause you to lose your baby and if you do watch it, the upset you feel is nothing compared to that of a bereaved parent. How do you think it feels for us, when the show normally shows the happy ending we didn't get?