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How to Divorce . . .

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expatinscotland · 31/01/2006 21:23

Anyone watching?

Tara's a cow. Rupert's a prick.

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 31/01/2006 22:25

i thought she was lovely. not very American ifkwim.

emkana · 31/01/2006 22:26

I quite liked the counsellor, I thought she was v. good at talking to the children.

Misspiggy · 31/01/2006 22:28

I liked her... thought she explained what divorce is to Tara's children really clearly.

Misspiggy · 31/01/2006 22:29

oops...sorry Emkana. Bit of an echo there

emkana · 31/01/2006 22:29

That's quite all right

alexsmum · 31/01/2006 22:34

rickman i apologise you are right, i have no idea what i would do and it's easy for me to say this from the position i am in now. ie happy and contented.

Turquoise · 31/01/2006 22:37

I think Tara just didn't seem able to articulate what the problem was, that doesn't mean there wasn't far more to it and also these shows are edited to create heroes and villains. (Not that Rupert needed any editing).
She reminded me of me quite a bit - I was just a zombie because i was so unhappy, but probably everything looked fine generally.

fio my texts won't send - I'll call you in the morning, are we still on?

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expatinscotland · 01/02/2006 11:00

i'd be willing to bet money that tara chose that expensive house they were living in, then someone had to go to work to pay the mortgage.

what the hell did she expect out of life? big huge house + man around all the time w/roses behind his back?

she seemed really immature and silly.

they tried relate, but SHE was the one who gave up on it. she admitted she was still the one insisting on divorce. colin still doesn't want it.

think she needs to grow the hell up.

poor kids! they're sad faces.

mrsm, i thought of you when rupert appeared.

the scottish gal he originally left for was called melanie and had a kid. so obviously he'd traded her for another model, donna the barbie.

i LOVE how he said, 'my kids are my life. so is donna.' um, yeah, well, he couldn't be arsed to fly to the UK to see the kids who were 'his life'?

what a twat.

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Misspiggy · 01/02/2006 11:14

I know it sounds silly but DH came home from football to find me in tears after watching this. Just so sad - Tara and Colin's children were completely bewidered by it all and Rupert's were so obviously hurting I almost felt guilty watching. How his ex manages on a day to day basis I don't know.

4blue1pink · 01/02/2006 11:19

Sadly Rupert does deserve hate mail and lots of it. He is a to$$er of the highest degree ...I HAVE to believe that he genuinely does not see the importance of a paternal role and therefore does not comprehend what him taking this away ( or never having really given it) has done to those children.I think we will discover some kind of absent father thing/boarding school /only child with mum bit in his past.Franny did seem quite clued up tho and sadly I think Mum quite liked having her around at weekends so ......maybe was not puching TOO hard to get her to visit Pops and Sacha ( Dutch Bratz)

Tara ....I think people are being a little harsh. I thought her marriage was a little passionless and although her hubby looked adorable it was evident that he STILL did not see there was anything wrong with it...rather like a hurt and bemused child.

A marriage without any rows can often be a sign that there is no spark no passion and this is both of their fault...It looked like being married to a lovely brother....... Not what any one would want...

He needed to look deep deep at the relationship and find what had been there ...try to recapture a little of the ' take your breath away-ness' that was once there....

You will not stay ' In - love' forver I know that but you can still fancy one another and have a little fun and frolics despite the drudgery. I dont think tara's hubby had this in him and I for one could not consign myself to a lifetime of companionship on that level.

I love anaylysing these shows can you tell?

Misspiggy · 01/02/2006 11:25

at Dutch bratz!

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4blue1pink · 01/02/2006 12:03

Maybe it was for the free counselling and advise offered on the Houston bit........

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expatinscotland · 01/02/2006 12:20

Having been married before and gone out with many different men in my life, I can say, Tara should thank her lucky stars! I'll take married to a brother over take my breath away ANY day!

A man who's a good dad is more attractive to me than any 'passionflower', anyhow.

Been there, bought the tshirt. Rupert is the 'take your breath' away, 'fun' type. Who then leaves you high and dry holding the baby whilst he's off to find 'love' elsewhere b/c he's no longer 'in love' w/his boring spouse.

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4blue1pink · 01/02/2006 12:27

There is a middleground though.....Rupert is not 'Dad material' and that is not attractive to me personally in a cave- woman ish type way.....HOWEVER ...I am a woman and want my man to make me feel like one by being a man! (Ducks for cover)

aside;- My dp of 15 years is not a macho type in the least infact I always call him 'gay' ( ducks for cover again) but sex appeal and all that - I think it is essential even in late 30's and onwards! Funnily enough i feel like lots of my friends fancy him and that helps...have i lost the tack here?

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expatinscotland · 01/02/2006 12:44

Frankly, I had a lot of fun before I got married. . I guess I just got it out of my system. But w/all that 'fun' went a lot of relationships that taught me that all that glitters isn't gold. Or maybe sex appeal just means something different to different people.

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 01/02/2006 13:52

4blue1pink - I too think there's more to Tara's story than the cameras tell, and it's probably true that her husband has played a role in the unfortunate state of their relationship - but - having a relationship that's a bit passionless is not, imo, a good enough reason to put your kids through divorce. Maybe her dh is lacking in something, possibly lacking in respponding to her needs, but she's the one leaving, and explcitly advocating for putting herself first, and that I just can't condone.

Earlybird · 01/02/2006 13:58

You're right that there is probably more to Tara's story than we heard last night, but she doesn't seem very adept at articulating her reasons for wanting a divorce other than the jumbled/mumbled "time to be selfish" comment. He, on the other hand, seems bewildered/upset and is initially, a person who it's far easier to feel sympathy for.

elliott · 02/02/2006 10:09

Caught up with this last night and found it really upsetting. Do you think Rupert will be writing articles on 'how children ruined my marriage' in 20 years' time?? Infantile p***. But wonder, surely its possible to spot these types BEFORE you have kids?
Can't comment on Tara as missed the beginning of the prog. Generally though it all leaves me so bemused - I mean, intellectually I can see that some people end up in a place where separation is the better option, but I emotionally I just can't imagine how anyone can do that to their kids....

mistressmiggins · 07/02/2006 21:03

hmmmm on again in a minute

am watching again...see what tosser Rupert (alias my Husband) is going to do.....

Flossam · 07/02/2006 21:26

Poor little boy. His heart seems to be literally breaking and it brings tears to my eyes.

mistressmiggins · 07/02/2006 21:30

my husband IS Rupert

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expatinscotland · 07/02/2006 21:30

Rupert deserves to be bitchslapped w/i an inch of his life.

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expatinscotland · 07/02/2006 21:31

The little girl's heart is already broken, Flossam, she just either doesn't know how to show it, or she's given up.

He has scarred those kids forever, the bastard, w/o so much as a second thought.

What a prize prick!

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