Aw. You should write to them and ask all these things. I hated all the wondering. I did tonnes about my 1st birth, so had a look at notes when pregnant with second and it really really helped.
Helped me see where progress slowed and what was done and why the trace meant this couldn't happen and reminded me that I actually only spent 45 mins thinking I was dying {plenty long enough, but it felt like the whole 18 hr experience in my head} and the rest of the 18 hours either mobilising and moo-ing or fast asleep with an epi.
Was gobsmacked by how different 'their' experience was to mine and dh's though. I'm sure there are 2 times zones. One for the labourer - where time is either slow slooooooow or a sort of mad hopping techicolour beast that flits back and forth. And another more standard tick-tock for the midiwves.
Actually, now I come to think about it it's like that for us too 
Thing I was most gobsmacked about was how well I pushed and how text book my second stage was. No tear. Lovely experience.......then Pretty much urinary incontinence ever since and getting nearer to a prolapse with every month that passes. If I'd had an instrumental I'd have blamed that, but it was a great delivery. I just need some double sided sticky tape on my insides.