protecting our children

[thekidsrule]

carry on please

no she said he has been quite unhelpfull, ie the dad.

He's too old and has too many developmental problems to be adoptable. So it's these parents or multiple foster homes for the next 13 years.

The dad doesn't know how to deal with his son. When the boy was crying in the social workers' offices, his dad was just looking at him.

Just now, too, he touched his arm and it was as though he didn't know what else to do.

Is there no other family around? Grandparents?

What can it be like for that man to be surrounded by all those women judging him and telling him what to do. He is so out of his depth and it must be humiliating for him.

I am not condoning what he does or says or saying that they shouldnt tell him what to do. But from his point of view he hasnt done anything.

I think its just so difficult for everyone.
But the little boy most of all.

Shame Tiffany can't see that she would be better off without Mike.

She doesn't even bend down and pick toys up, she kicks them around the floor.

Not necessarily multiple foster homes.

His dad just looks so scary. I don't know how the social workers dare talk to him.

having to stay in hospital for the nexy 14 weeks??

Charlotte, anybody please tell me there is hope for this little boy to catch up on his development, please, i can't bear it.

Bad parents or not that boy will get terrible separation anxiety with such a long enforced separation. Very damaging ESP to a child already with problems, who can't articulate his feelings.

Agree MrsDeVere, the dad is completely out of his depth. It's not suprising he is defensive.

They said this is window of opportunity for him to catch up. Article on Bbc website

The dad jsut can't interact with him at all.

toby seems calmer but the dad very detatched

When my DS had his injections his birth mum came. I handed DS to her and she sat him on her lap.

When he had his jabs he screamed (like they do). Bmum just sort of looked at him. She didnt pull him in to her or comfort him. She just looked and went aww look. Then she handed him back to me.
I had not seen anything like that before. That is when I began to realised DS would be staying with us for longer than I first thought.

If you want to know how the case turns out it's on the BBC website.

Not necessarily too old to be adopted - friends of ours have just adopted a 5 yr old with challenging behaviour.

Supervised contact is just horrible. So artificial and doesn't teach good parenting.

Yes, I agree, MrsdeV, he doesn't understand he can't care for the child and it must be frustrating for him to be surrounded by middle class social workers, knowing he is being judged.

But at the same time, the child can't be allowed to live like that.

No conversation from his dad, no playing, they could be having pretend conversation etc

he is so eager to go

even the boy shock his head at the lack of interaction

In my experience of the disability SW team,they were very kind, understaznding and helpful when i went through a phase of letting the housework get on top of me. This programme brings it all back for me although my house is better and my parenting skills was not under investigation. Looking back on thios few weeks i feel so guilty and feel i badly let my son down by not keeping a cleaner tidy house. He always had clean clothes and lovely bedding/room. I feel sick.

I'm just catching the end of this, poor father doesn't know how to play. If he's not had anyone play with him as a child he's not going to know. It's very sad.