How To Be A Good Mother..

[IWantMyHatBack]

Getting in early with this one... anybody watching?

Good post CallnDana, I agree with most things you said.

all i can think is baby no nappy on in same bed as me= mee covered in poo yuk!

People need to remember that prior to c-sections the mother or the baby, or both would probably be dead, so two alive people is far better than 1-2 dead people and that probably escaping death during childbirth would make you bond more closely with your baby not the other way round.

charming :)

hmmmm, wasn't calling MY daughter 'Baby' was calling babies IN GENERAL 'baby'. Maybe you should have been paying attention :)

i think the ridiculous thing about EC is not the idea that one can see when one's child is ready to have a poo - becausse yes, I can usually tell when DD is ready to go - but that one's life/one's family's life should be centred around waiting for that event. The parents in the show all talked about the constant observation required to make it work. I'm sorry, but I have no intention of putting many other aspects of my life (including my attention to other children) on hold while putting my child under constant observation. And for what? I can see no clear advantage to being nappy-free that can't be attained in some other way. OK, if it suits you, I guess it does me no harm, so go right ahead...but the idea that it is a criteria for being a "good mother"? crap.

Ooh Daria is that you?

I actively disagree with the principle that a parent should be constantly paying attention to their child and focused on their cues 100% of the time. I think it's awful, smothering, unnecessary, martyrhood parenting. I think parents who behave like that should get a hobby outside of their children.

I only saw this last night on catch up. If we needed the nutrients from our placentas our body would reabsorb it, it doesnt, it expels it so that makes me think we shouldnt then go and consume it, definitely weird.
Also, can't understand why you wouldnt put a helment on a baby when taking them out on a bike.

rather vampires than in laws brdgrl

I was thinking about this again today and it really annoys me when people refer to things that happened in "yesteryear" with a sort of reverence as if it's automatically right and natural. Daria in particular was guilty of this. In "yesteryear" a lot of women had no access to contraception and so would have child after child after child, making things such as EC totally impossible - how to do you watch the cues of a baby and two toddlers? (which is what my grandmother would have had to do). My grandmother was a SAHM but she certainly didn't sit and play with her children all day - she had to look after 11 people (9 children plus herself and grandad) with very little money, very few electrical appliances and no outside help. The children were thrown out onto the street in the morning, baby included, and not let back in until lunch, then thrown out again until dinner time. It just wasn't possible for my gran to give them much attention at all. She certainly didn't bring them to baby massage!!

The idea that in "yesteryear" (can you tell I hate that word??) women were so connected to their babies is just bollocks. In a lot of traditional cultures, such as tribes in Namibia women put their babies in slings but only because they have to go back to work very quickly after giving birth. The baby is put in the sling on the mother's back in the morning, fed when required, but basically ignored for the entire day unless it needs something. It's all very well for a woman like Daria who on an international scale is a very very wealthy woman to look down on others who can't devote their entire attention to their children, but for her to claim that what she's doing is the "right" way is ridiculous, considering such a small proportion of the world's population are financially capable of doing it that way, and yet the world keeps turning regardless.

Just watching 'Spendaholics' on Really, and the girl wants to run her own boutique. So they take her to see someone who started from scratch as a dressmaker - and guess who it is?

Wicked Stepmother!

I completely agree cailin. Women in either the olden days or developing countries (delete as appropriate) may do/have done things more 'naturally' but out of necessity and there is no culture in the ficking world where constant connection with your child is practised. It is not a natural human impulse to be so involved in your child and that indicates to me that it isn't optimum for human child rearing.
I honestly believe that baby absorption to the level that these parents espouse is actively damaging to a child's development.

Urgh just watching this on 4od, I cant bear fanatics of any kind..... Daria seems a total pill and personally I am very happy that I have access to nappies and formula...
People who say 'Baby wants....' rank fairly high on my list of irritants. And people who make revolting poo noises at their baby. Maybe its apparent that I'm the opposite of these earth mother types. And btw whats wrong with innovations to makea mothers life easier? Jeeeeeesus.
I may have a burgeoning Sharon Horgan crush tho.