Big Fat Gypsy Weddings (8/2)

[juneybean]

feel so sorry for violet :(

They seem to have a different idea of "respectful" to me sat on other peoples graves drinking booze out of cans. nice.

Eggy I thought Paddy looked familiar too.

Jeez 50% do not live past 50 years of age.

You have to ask, would they mourn a daughter in the same way?

a can of fosters on the grave, nice.

Oh poor woman

Didn't they say they lost 4 other kids?

Yes paddy was on last years episode too

Who drives home?

I am sure Paddy was in another doco as he looks familiar to me too.

One of his nephews got married in "My big fat gypsy weddin"

'You don't think it's inappropriate'? seriously?

CaveMum...yes, I know of daughters who have been mourned just as much.

I am so disgusted by this. 5 children are buried in that plot, one died in the same accident as the first born, yet they only talk about him. That is really disgusting. :(

It's up the individual families to how they grieve,don't be so bloody judgemental.

Thanks Lucy.

The four other children died soon after birth. It's not an excuse, but you can understand them making a big deal about their 18yr old son, if that makes sense.

They said four had died shortly after birth. The son was 18. I think it's normal to feel the loss differently for each child.

From my limited, but very true, knowedge of some travller life then there is a great reluctance to go to hospitals. So I would think this plays a huge part in the death rate.

Also wonder about preg care?

No, I paused on the headstone, one was 17, died on the same day as the first born. Also a son.

No doubt channel 4 we only filming around the time that they celebrated their son's life and not for the rest of their lost children.

but "their way" is disprespectful to others who may be at the cemetery. I hate this idea that because it's anyone's "culture" or "way" or "tradition" that they can ride roughshod over other's people's sensibilities

That was his nephew.

The one sharing the grave is one of the cousins that died with the son, not one of the newborns.

And I agree that Paddy and family should be able to choose to grieve how they want without people getting judgemental - they had their son for 18 years so maybe feel his loss more strongly.

I'm trusting that he doesn't take music, cars, a party with him.

I would be terribly upset if I were that day mourning my own loved one and there was a party memorial going on elsewhere.

Yes people pay their respects in different ways. BUt you have to be considerate of other mourners in a cemetary.

Was that not the cousin who died in the same accident?

As i say, it's lovely that people actually remember. My sons been dead six years and i'm the only one that goes to his grave - i'd love to give him a party like that (but with less alcohol and more cake )

I also think it's hugely different grieving babies, and grieving an older child. Not that one is less than t'other, just different.