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One Born Every Minute (17/1)

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juneybean · 17/01/2011 21:02

Anyone else watching?

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expatinscotland · 18/01/2011 23:46

I think if last week's woman was in that much pain they should have got her the bloody epi straight away not laughed at her.

What BS.

I've been there, though I didn't scream like that.

MilaMae · 19/01/2011 09:54

I was pretty hysterical before my c/s spinal was put in and in no pain what so ever(bloody terrified) so judge me for that then.

There are plenty of mums who find just being in a hospital terrifying enough let alone enduring a painful birth and a fear of the unknown,lack of control,fear of what's to come,fear of death etc,etc.

I gladly took up the C/Ss offered to me because I knew I'd be that woman-terrified basically and useless at calm birthing however much literature/coaching I had.

Motherhood gets enough judging as it,I think it's a very sad state of affairs if mothers are now going to be judged about how they handle the most painful human event possible before babies have even entered the world.

I enjoy OBEM but I think some viewers are getting a little carried away and turning into armchair birthers,reflecting on their own experience with heavily rose tinted spectacles.

MilaMae · 19/01/2011 09:54

Not directing the last post at you Expat just the thread in general.

StartingAfresh · 19/01/2011 10:08

I screamed MORE than Steph and was more out of control.

I was scrambling off the bed. I was delirous and though the bed was biting me. I was crawling and clawing the floor.

I was screaming and screaming and screaming, not just during contractions but in between.

When you have lost control you have lost control. There is no point in blaming the woman. How the fuck did she get in that position in the first place?

I have suffered 4 years worth of PTSD as a result of that and it was caused less by the experience and more by the subsequent judgement I have felt for not being able to cope when others so easily can.

6 hours I begged for an epidural and all they did was jab me with pethedine which made me even more out of control but less vocal about it. It was truly frightening.

My second birth smarted a bit, and my daugther swam out when it stung. I never reached the levels of pain even when pushing, that I did at 2-3cm with my first.

There was no comparison. For those of you not experienced what I experienced with my first birth be bloody grateful, not judgemental.

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 19/01/2011 12:51

The woman in question was talking before the delivery in her interview about how much of a drama queen she was, and how her friends thought she wouldn't cope. Afterwards she said she didn't care and that she would do it again. Why the hell did she get to that position in the first place? I have no idea...she didn't seem to want to help herself, it was as if she felt that she had something to live up to - it's that I'm Hmm at. Regardless, she got her epidural (once she'd stopped screaming at the doctor) and the delivery she seemed determined to have.

MoldyWarp · 19/01/2011 21:14

starting afresh agree with you re pethidine

shuts you up and makes the whole thing like a living hell

a waking nightmare

unable to even scream it out

CRUEL AND TORTUOUS

gizmo · 21/01/2011 22:35

OFG Maisie and Clunge...I'm getting sooo fed up of seeing the same old judgemental shit about how people have their babies on OBEM threads. It's not a f*cking competition, nobody is standing around with 'Strictly' style paddles judging you on style and accuracy. She was just acting in the way that came naturally to her at the time.

And I scream like a Berserker warrior in labour. Because it helps me. Because it regulates my breathing and expresses how I'm feeling. I make no apologies for it (except to my neighbours when I had DS2 at home and the whole street got an earful Grin)

walkinZombie · 23/01/2011 00:37

this programme makes me soo broody!!

walkinZombie · 23/01/2011 00:38

this programme makes me so broody!!

LydiaPydia · 03/02/2011 22:33

Phil was texting friends and family to let them know how I was getting on in labour, I was 11 days overdue so when I finally went into labour everyone was very keen to be updated! And I thought my sister was extremely brave as she is very squeamish however we are very close and I wanted her to be there for one of the most important experiences of my life.
And you need to remember the footage is edited for entertainment value, I was in labour for 15 hours however they showed 15 mins of it, therefore it looked like my sister was being a wimp the majority of the time and Phil was texting the majority of the time!

LydiaPydia · 03/02/2011 22:34

Thank you to the people who have made kind comments :-) x

BodleianBabe · 06/02/2011 11:56

Lydia: Thanks for the update 15 hours labour wow!!. I thought the comments re your DP were unnecessarily harsh. i only caught your episode today on i-player.

I was a lot older than him when I got (unexpectedly) pregnant and I remember have a big sobbing seesion about my 'lost' life and how I would never go on holiday again (travelling was a big passion). However as I'm sure you've found you do adapt and whilst life may be different it certainly is for the better as I now have 2 and wouldn't be without them.

I look back now at my previous life and it seems a bit empty and meaningless although was undoubtedly fun at the time!!

I thought your sister was fine and I'm sure she's a great auntie to little Evelyn (lovely name btw)

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