Underage and pregnant

[PaulineCampbellJones]

Anyone watching tonight? 21 year old bloke has relationship and then baby with 15 year old. Her mam thought it was ok

am watching, missed forst 5min

They are really nice people, she is just so young.

Good to see hes got another job

21 & 15 thats just wrong

shit i missed it, will have to try and coatch up on this too

Crikey - she was 14 when they started going out. That is really Not Right. And what happens when she gets to 21 and realizes he's pushing 30 and (presumably), still as immature as a 15-year-old?

I thought he actually seemed really decent. I felt sorry for him in some ways.

i really liked him and would be proud if he was my son

I had 21 year old boyfriends when I was 15, I am still friends with one of them now - he doesn't act like a 15 year old, he acts like the 36 year old single father he is.

He was a fantastic boyfriend, and he is a fantastic friend. Not all under-aged girls are abused and exploited.

Just watched it on iPlayer. I thought Dan was lovely. Yes, he was older than her, but she didn't look 15 - she said herself she didn't tell him how old she was when they first met.

He seemed very mature and they seemed to be coping very well with the baby/pregnancy. You could tell they were struggling a bit in the middle, but after their second baby was born and he got the job they seemed much happier, and you could really tell during that labour how much they cared for each other. I hope they both let each other have nights out though without ringing every 5 minutes!

Nice to know there are some decent guys my age around anyway :)

I thought they came across very well - very loving parents who wanted the best for their children. She didn't seem like a 16 year old at all.

i just saw it on iplayer.

i did think the whole "oh, and then we realised she was pregnant" and "oh, and then i was pregnant again" bits spoke volumes about their immaurity.

ffs, use some contraception!!! ok i'll probably be flamed now for that, but really... how likely is it that they were using a reliable method of contraception that just happened to fail twice?

she seemed very, very needy which i think could pose problems. he seemed to feel quite trapped.

but they both came across fairly well despite all that i thought, he certainly appeared to be very responsible

Well, one of my first cousins started going out with a guy who was 20 when she was 15.

When she was 16, she fell pregnant.

They married.

She is now 32.

They are still married, with two more children (she didn't have another until she was 22 and finished college to become a dental nurse).

So it's not a given they'll not stay together.

I agree with colditz.

Yes I did feel he came across better than she did - but she still came across a lot better than some of the mums on the prog :(

Not understanding the outrage to the age gap at all. Especially seeing as he comes across like a really fab bloke. They're both much better than some of the other stupid excuses for parents that program has featured. It makes me quite angry... It shows you why there is such a stigma against younger mothers if people like those are being thrown in your face :(

I went out with a 23-year-old when I was 16.

BFD.

I'd rather see my daughters go out with an older bloke than one who's a dafty, into drugs, etc.

Depends on the person, not the age.

the age gap in itself wouldn't bother me at all. in fact, i hardly thought about it while watching the program as i thought they came across as fairly close in age.... she looked older than she was

it's the underage bit that makes it wrong IMO.

Well, I think I saw different things in that programme from some others. I thought she came across as a nice girl, not particularly immature for 16, and fantastically impressive during her second child's birth.

But it was painful to see her acting the part of a much older person, which she clearly was. It seemed as if she'd got trapped playing house and now had to pretend it was all fine, when in fact she was clearly bored stiff, cut off from her friends most of the time, and unable to make simple meals while thinking it was her job.

I hope it goes well with her and her partner, but the law is there for a reason.

Agree with you RedDragon - I got the same impression although I thought it was interesting how much he acknowledged that and said he wasn't putting those pressures on her. He seemed very kind and quite emotionally bright.

Yes, I think he was kind. But he also talked about her in a way that had me worried - about how it didn't matter how she got on at home because he'd come in after work and look after her. In a way that's lovely; in a way it could be quite stifling and it'd take a very strong couple to move past that kind of uneven relationship where one partner is so much in the position of teaching/caring for the other.

Maybe they will get there, I don't know. I just didn't find it uplifting as some people seem to have done.

i thought they were a lovely couple - and she was so brave when she was giving birth - put me to shame i was screaming like a banshee

hello. just seen this on iplayer. can't sleep. was going to start a thread...

watching that fab young couple made me feel pathetic. TTC#1 - I am 34 married 2.5 years, DH is mid 40s and I am so scared about being pregnant, giving birth and being a good mum.

They had everything stacked against them yet coped so well.

Maybe cause I am older - old enough to be Kelly's mum in fact! I am so worried. I can't be alone in being daunted by the whole thing can I?

anyone watching tonight?

when is it on?

How did she get benefits and a house if she's underage?