you are in the right, chaya.
i have depression characterised by much anxiety and insomnia. it went from PND. i am now one of the slim minority in whom it has become chronic and clinical.
i could not cope with another baby crying in the night. the slightest noises set me off on insomnia so bad i need to see my consultant and be prescribed drugs.
because of this, DH has had a vasectomy and i continue to use the Nuva Ring contraceptive.
i will make it clear to my children that this is not the place where we can cope with looking after another baby.
nor can we afford to keep one. we are working poor. the minute the tax credits and CB end, they will need to earn their crust and pay us for lodging and food.
they are already learning that you must work for money. there will be no more benefits and houses for teens who have babies. that is the government, it is how it is. it's best to bring your children up accordingly.
you have a baby: we cannot keep you.
it's nothing to do with 'support', it's everything to do with not having the money to feed another mouth.
think it is bad now, it will get worse. that is not just the government but the way the way of the world and how it is going.
it is best they learn this now, from me, afore they are lead astray into folly we cannot afford to support.
even my first cousin, who was 16 when she fell pregnant and her first. there is no welfare in the state of TX where she is native.
her mother was single. a social worker with two other children.
she married her 21-year-old boyfriend as there was no other way for her to get on his health insurance to look after the birth and bairn.
she'd to work. as her mother worked days, then she had to work evening and weekend so as to have someone to look after the baby.
she had not another until she was 22 and finished college to be a dental nurse and been working a couple of years.
there is no leeway there.
there will soon not be here.
no one can afford such, or wants to.