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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

teens are fun you know, not monsters(come post your nice stuff)

112 replies

smoking2shoes · 09/10/2009 07:42

fed up with the "omg a teen will stab me dramatics"
on monday dd had to have an operation(sn)
her 17yr old brother came to visit her with his friend(a girl) they stayed an hour and made her day.
he has another friend, who if you saw in the street would look scarey(mohican and all in black) yet whenever he comes to the house he comes in to show dd his hair, even though he knows she will lol

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gingertoo · 09/10/2009 20:54

I'm trying to raise money for play equipment / sports equipment for the young children and teens in our area.
It's shocking how many people are negative about the project saying 'the teens will only wreck it'

We're involving these kids at every stage with the fundraising, planning etc and they are all brilliant, fun and enthusiastic young people without whom this project would not be happening at all. Not mindless vandals funnily enough.

I love this thread

pinknosedevereux · 09/10/2009 20:57

This makes me want to blub-time to stop drinking methinks

Wonderstuff · 09/10/2009 21:03

I am a secondary teacher and when I tell people they ALWAYS say 'aren't you brave' I honestly love my job, preteens are sweet but teenagers are so interesting and engaging (ignoring the odd hormone and bad day). DD is not yet 2 so a long way to go, but I'm sure she will be a fantastic teen

liahgen · 09/10/2009 21:31

at the dancing school we go to, I was talking to ds's teacher yesterday, a lovely boy of 19 i discovered. He was telling me that he discovered his passion for dancing at 14 and was inspired by the tall guy from Diversity, (he knew them) he wanted to be that good one day. He's now got into the last 100 on "so you think you can dance" so he must be doing something right.

Ds's class absolutely adore him, how nice to have young boys aspiring to be like him now, I told him so yesterday and he was so pleased.

Teens are underrated imo.

pranma · 09/10/2009 21:37

when I was on chemo the one neighbour who always stopped to chat when I was in the garden was next door's 15 yr old daughter.She'd bring me a cuppa or a cold drink and was always lovely.

magnolia74 · 09/10/2009 21:42

Dd1 is 14 and so lovely....we have never had to moan about school, she is so helpful with her younger siblings. yes she has a strop now again but on the whole i love spending time with her

smoking2shoes · 09/10/2009 21:47

WOW I started a thread and it is on the home page
have to mention another upside of having a tenn, I get to go and buy lovely clothes
dd has cp so I get to still buy clothes for her(she is 14) and she "says" I am her forever friend.
ds taste in music is very good as well

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liahgen · 09/10/2009 21:53

my dd has taught my 6 yr ds all the words to Pink's so what

feralgirl · 09/10/2009 22:02

Hear hear Wonderstuff, the teens in my "challenging" school warm my heart daily.

A while back a truly terrifying girl in my Y10 class (who was permanently excluded shortly after) went berserk at another girl who was taking the piss out of a Lithuanian student's accent. It went something like this:

"Fuck's sake T***, you're such a cunt! How the fuck would you like it if you went to Lithuania and some fucking bitch took the piss out of you and you couldn't even understand what the fuck they were laughing at you for? You should just shut the fuck up."

Way more effective than anything I could have said.

She did then spoil it by calling the gay kid in the class a "queer little cunt" later in the lesson.

Merrylegs · 09/10/2009 22:03

DS (13) made pancakes for tea - from scratch all by himself - and he made mine in the shape of a love heart.

brimfull · 09/10/2009 22:36

great thread

I think teens are great and much misunderstood by people that are scared of them

I am also annoyed and shocked at some of the rude treatment teens get from adults for no reason

optimisticmumma · 09/10/2009 22:37

I love this thread too. I enjoy my 3 teens so much. Last week, I had swine flu so DS 1 (17) made shepherd's pie from scratch...what a star.!
I get so fed up, as do they, when they are all cast as scary troublemakers.

stressheaderic · 09/10/2009 22:38

Teenagers are BRILL. As a secondary teacher, the absolute best bit of the job is the banter with the kids. They warm my heart every single day.

mrsruffallo · 09/10/2009 22:44

The vast majority of the teens I know are fantastic. They are funny, clever, polite and sweet.
And much more sensible than I was!

mrsruffallo · 09/10/2009 22:47

I love the conversations you can have with them too. They have so many original ideas and love a discussion.
teens rule

Wonderstuff · 09/10/2009 22:49

feralgirl - that sounds v. familiar. Sometimes you know their heart really is in the right place even if their opinions are somewhat misguided on occaision

brimfull · 09/10/2009 22:50

an example of extemely irritating attitude with teens

dd works in waitrose in checkouts, she was serving someone her age she knew from school so she was chatting as she put the stuff through and her friend paid]]absolutely no hold up for lady behind but she made snidey comment to dd

" had a nice chat did you?" in sarcy voice

she would not have said that if the customer dd was talking to was not a teen

fucking pisses me off

DamonBradleylovesPippi · 09/10/2009 22:57

This is the best thread I have read in ages. I have got no teenager yet so cannot contribute yet.
All I seemed to remember of mine was the heartache I gave my parents. In fact you reminded me of all the things my mum and I did together and the fun and complicity. You also made me look forward to a stage I was dreading. Thank you.

spiderlight · 09/10/2009 23:38

My very elderly dad spent eleven days in Intensive Care earlier this year, on a ventilator, not expected to survive (although he did ). I found myself alone in my hometown with a two-year-old who wasn't allowed on the Intensive Care ward, no childcare facilities in the hospital, no local family my DS knew and would have been happy staying with - in a word, stuffed. My friend's 18-year-old daughter voluntarily made the journey as often as her A-level lectures would allow to spend hours on end walking the hospital corridors with him, reading to him, taking him to watch the diggers on a nearby bulding site, bringing him new and distracting toys to give me time to sit with my dad. She even came the morning after her 18th birthday party. I honestly don't know what I'd have done without her, and it was all entirely of her own volition - I hadn't asked and neither had her parents, but she insisted.

brimfull · 09/10/2009 23:45

spiderlight-what a lovely girl!

BiteOfFun · 10/10/2009 00:03

I love being the parent of a teenager- dd(13) is my right-hand woman in looking after our youngest with special needs, and is the sweetest, most patient older sister to her.

I posted this recently, having just found it again, so apologies if you've seen it, buy here is the poem she wrote about her when she was ten:

My Little Sister

My little sister doesn?t play with toys,
She can?t talk either, and only makes a noise.
When she plays in the garden she likes to throw her shoes,
Over the neighbours wall or wherever she may choose.
Sometimes it seems she doesn?t understand,
Like she is a special princess, of her own private land.
We don?t know what goes on inside,
Unless she lets us know with a cry or smile so wide.
My little sister is autistic; her ways may seem quite weird,
The world for her is different, sometimes something to be feared.
When she is scared she holds my hand tight, but I can make her laugh,
I play games, give her cuddles and tickles in the bath.
Her hair is red like flames, her eyes dark brown and bright,
She doesn?t know she is pretty or care if her clothes aren?t right.
All her family love her, though she drives us mad,
Still, she is the best sister I could ever have had.

shandyleer · 10/10/2009 00:22

What a lovely poem, feeling a bit choked here in shandyland.

TAFKAtheUrbanDryad · 10/10/2009 00:32

@ BOF.

That's beautiful.

duchesse · 10/10/2009 07:24

BOF- your little one is beautiful- she looks great fun. And your older daughter sounds absolutely lovely.

Phoenix4725 · 10/10/2009 07:39

i have 2 teens as well as 2 little ones and the big 2 are great with them .Am fed up of the looks given to my eldest yes he is tall yes he has long hair yes he might even look bit cary in someons eyes but he is the mot gentlest kind natured boy couldmeet.nfact he doeswork placement at a local sn school who was so impressed ith him last year offered him place fo thsi year.

and pst if he comes near your toddler on swing he is not gong to hurt him or you more likely to offer to push fo a while and give youa break