I am feeling really disappointed with DD, she is literally just 15 and has come home drunk!

[mynaughtylittlesister]

She asked if she could go to this party, I was apprehensive, but so far she has been a pretty good kid. She is my eldest of 3DDs. It was at the local rowing club, they all go there on a Friday/Saturday evening every week. So far no problems, until tonight. We have only let her go to this place for the last few weeks because she has a young man in her life and that is where he hung out!

I could tell as soon as she came in. She wasn't speaking right, so I asked her out right, first she said no, then she said ok I had one, I told her I didn't believe her and then she admitted to having 3 WKD. I feel she has had a lot more, honestly she can't walk in a straight line. I have sent her to bed with a large glass of water, told her we will talk in the morning.

She tried to fob me off by telling me she knows she has been stupid etc.... I told her it won't wash.

Any wise words to offer would be gratefully received, obviously don't want to be heavy handed but on the other hand I am bloody fuming.

Thanks

Well, we had a chat this morning. She owned up to not just drinking 3 WKDs but there was a free fruit punch they could drink.

I kept my cool, said to her that it was pretty silly drinking a punch especially as she had no idea what was in it.

I explained that she was was breaking the law by drinking, not only that but so was the young lad and also that the barman also was too. I explained what the consequences could have been for that person - she was surprised, I really don't think she had thought about that.
I asked her if she had had sex, that threw her completely and she immediately said no, I then explained that our thoughts are altered when we drink and often when we are sober we wouldn't do things, unfortunately when we have had a drink we sometimes think its a good idea.

She is sorry, I have allowed her out with friends today, she said that she will be home by 5 ready to help with dinner! Normally she moans about getting back for dinner at 6, so maybe its been a little learning curve.

I sometimes think a little chat and no too much shouting/lecturing is better with teenagers! She's not 100% sure you're not going to explode on her yet, so she'll be as good as gold, I bet! No point in screaming and shouting, she'll only get defensive and scream and shout back at you!

Glad she's hopefully learnt her lesson and I also secretly hope, like you, that she's not feeling that great today!

God, yes, the fruit punch with the unknown ingredients. One more to warn the children about.
Really, it would have been amazing if an inexperienced drinker hadnt got drunk, between that and alcopops.

Good for you!

Direct, firm and fair.

Plus education too - "fruit" punch has been the downfall of many a sensible drinker.

Do warn her about Pimms too........

sounds like you handled it well.

I have just shown my DD Psychos thread. Told DD that could have been so easily her. We live near the sea (obviously not near Psycho).

DD is now very quiet. I do feel very sorry for Pyscho as I know how I felt last night.