Hi,
I think I’m here out of pure desperation of not knowing what to do with my 13yo DD. She is so secretive (not really sure why?) but I’m at my wits end with her. I have gone to put some socks away and found a vape in her drawer. She keeps stealing sweets/chocolate from the cupboard (this I wouldn’t normally mind however she stole things my husband/her stepdad got brought for his birthday). In her drawer also was a near empty tub of chocolate spread, along either a disposable wooden spoon. I have told her on numerous occasions that I don’t care if she has sweets/chocolate as long as she has her dinner first. I do not go through her drawers, I have only seen this because I was putting some clothes away. She has a bin in her room that she can put things in so unsure as to why she is hiding things. She also hides her dirty underwear instead of putting them in the washing basket- I have tried talking to her about this but every time she just shuts me off. I have told her I don’t care what state they’re in but I need to wash them! I do have a co parent however I can’t bring these issues up with him as he has previously sent DD screenshots of my messages to him, so I feel like I’m on my own with this.
she has also lied on numerous occasions about where she is (to the point I had to log her as a missing person with the police) as she had gone to the next city with her friends for a ‘sleepover’ but told me she was just round the corner at another friends house.
Any help would be appreciated as I genuinely don’t know what to do with this!