DS13 refusing to do anything on holiday

[savemefromteen]

DS is an only. We are in Devon for a much needed break and he’s ruining it. He refuses to come even for a quick dog walk on the beach. I managed to get him to agree to come somewhere with me tomorrow (visit to city) while DH and dog go elsewhere and he’s just said that after that he’s not leaving the house until we go home.

Keeps saying he wants to go home etc etc.

Am so fed up we have a lot going on and we really needed this break and I’m hating it because of this behaviour.

It’s fine to leave him while we do a quick dog walk but not all day ☹️

Any advice on where to go with this? I won’t be able to physically drag him out the house, he’s taller than me now!

I sulked the entire way around the Bayeaux Tapestry at around 11, I wanted to stay in the car and read!
My parents sent me to PGL every year after that, I loved it and went every summer right up to 18.
I'm now 48, my Dd is 24, I took her on short city breaks so we both enjoyed them, although she still had times when she'd do, 'the face'!.

Brutal 😂

My DS1 was like this for years. We took him to really exciting cities in Europe and he just stayed in the Air BnBs. Now he is in 20s anc talks about how he told his work colleagues that he has been to all these cities......yeah and saw the airport and a couple of restaurants!

But worked 🤣

Don't feel bad OP. As others have said this is pretty normal at this age, it's not your fault.

Don't let him spoil your holiday. Keep doing what you'd like to do, keep offering for him to join you or for him to suggest other things to do, otherwise leave him to it and go out without him.

I’d tell him to stop being so ungrateful and spoilt. I’d never have behaved like this, he needs some perspective. Are all his friends privileged? Does he not know anyone who has never or rarely goes on holiday? He’s lucky enough to be on a holiday and ruining it for everyone. Does he have a smart phone or tablet etc? I suspect he does given his behaviour, confiscate for duration of the holiday. And given his behaviour, probably at least until school starts again.