I am so not enjoying being parent of a teenage girl

[ButterflyMcQueen]

Not just one single issue.
Just a general abiding aura attitude atmosphere
I don;t want to talk to her simply because,
I don;t trust her therefore,
I don't want her in the house
I just think I dont actually like her...
This feels as though it has gone on s so long and gradually I am giving up...I am exhausted with trying

Years of a metaphorical brick wall and she is still 13!

My friends are sick of hearing this so sorry but you are my sounding board.

It's so upsetting.

Breaks my heart she used to be lovely

good advice sally!

I've been thinking about this a bit over the last couple of days & I think one thing that helped us keep 'in contact' was watching TV - DD introduced me to Buffy, Scrubs and now America's Next Top Model, and I introduced here to Dr Who - we bonded through mutual drooling over admiration for David Tennant & James Marsters, though DD was a bit peeved when I pointed out that I was closer in age to both of them than she was....

It will get better I promise dd2 was a nightmare ...dodgy boyfriends ..stealing ..stiving school everything bad you can think off...now a lovely 24 year old and we are very close you just have to be there for them ...hard as it is.

thankyou
she seems to be getting worse - i feel so distant from her
i will try my hardest to feign show interest in her life and try to keep lines of communication open

meanwhile boys being lovely

It will get better, BM, honest - and I think it's true to say that the earlier it starts the earlier it will be over.

Does she go to a girls' school?

yes!!! i think that has made it worse! half her friends are from 'your way' actually

Its horrible BM I've been there I thought I had lost my dd but she came back and she was worth waiting for {smile]

Oh, we're 'orrible over this way

I have a friend with 3 DDs, 2 of whom started off at our mixed grammar but then moved to Lancaster Girls; the eldest was quite old when they moved and anyway was always an angel child and would have been OK anywhere, but the younger 2 definitely went a bit funny for quite a while in that seething mass of hormones.

My DDs had some pretty revolting moments (and I didn't know the half of it really ) (they tell me stuff now I didn't know then and I faint) but they have turned out quite nice...

yes that is it wendy - i am better off not knowing!
i think in a mixed school she may have been tempered but she is a frisky thing with strong ideas....
i am just hoping this is as bad as it gets but ... not sure i can convince myself

i would not fret!!!!. i used to be the teenager from hell. i was a propper dadds girll at 11/12, hit 13. i suddenly had a horrible attitude, i had seen my friends boundaries so i would stretch my mums patiene for mine to be the same. i was interested in boys , friends. and suddel you cant talk to your mum about it. i think maybe they just ned litle bits of frredom, although this is hard in this day and age.

i too am in the middle of this.
door slam
moods
bitchy thoughtless comments
stinky room
filth
talk to the hand when she is on the mobile
friend now so interesting and dh and i are old fogeys
brat
brat brat

breaks my heart
thank god for mumsnet
and for knowing i am agin NOT ALONE

I'm living in this hellhole of teenagerdom too.

Can tick several similar boxes off of crem's list

Someone, tell me it gets better.....please!

i hope so poshwellies

am assuming said dd had food technology today as just went to the fridge to get some eggs and they were gone....sweet!

also a cookery book has disappeared !

The room, what do you do? Mine doesn't care but I do. I work hard to pay for the house and I really don't like walking past it, smelling it and seeing grubby undies on the floor. Yesterday I spent 20 mins looking for two school shirts, that I supposedly had washed. I checked the washine machine wet washing, no shirts. I looked on the washing line, no shirts. I asked DD to check in her room, two dirty shirts so where the hell were the others?! Tore the house apart, looked everywhere and then while DD was showering stumbled into her room, kicking a path through the shit whilst avoiding drawing pins, my new camera and most of my make-up. What did I find? Two more farking school shirts buried under the debris.

Mentioned this very loudly to DD, who sniffed them all and choise the least stinky..

I give up!!!!!!

Stickyj are you me>?

I DO NOT enter her room,simple-its vile-dirty pants clothes,empty crisp wrappers (which have been pinched out of cupboards btw)and just general shit..
And her idea of putting her washing is about 3 items of clothes,she forgets the dirty stuff shes just stepped on to get out of her room... BUT I will not do it,she wants to go around in minging clothes-she'll learn to stick it in the washing machine,it's hardly rocket science!

Oh and the only time I go in there,is to find stuff she's stolen from me.

I'm losing the will to live,I really am..

poshwellies and stickyj lets share the feeling!

my dd is so bad with clothes etc (i am lucky to have an ironer but dd so cannot get it from the neat pile to the cupboard or drawer) i found a pair of converse and another pair of shoes in her underwear drawer!!

i have 5 kids and nip into their rooms every couple of days

i DARE NOT go in hers because i know it will upset me so much

the stealing food from cupboards winds me SKY high as well ....but 'hey' if you are going to do it - do me the courtesy of binning the evidence instead of stuffing wrappers in cupboards drawers under duvet....a jelly wrapper under the mattress.......

it is so bloody mind numbingly depressing!

This is the real reason they invented boarding schools

I would consider it!

Where do I sign?