DS16 doesn’t want to come on holiday anymore

[Alwaysinamood]

We went on a lovely family holiday last month, DS16 did go the room earlier on his own in the afternoons as he has a GF now and wanted to ring her. It was lovely spending time with him even if he was a bit grumpy sometimes and short tempered. We have another holiday booked in October and he is point blank refusing to come says he doesnt want to. I feel upset about it. He has agreed to stay at his Nans for a few days and I have family next door where we live, so I ‘think’ he will be ok. Has anyone else experienced this before? He hasn’t spent anytime time with me or his DS11 other than us going away over the holidays. We watched a film together the other night and went for a family lunch but am I expecting too much? I just feel so upset like I’m loosing my baby boy!! We were always so close. I find myself pining over his baby videos and photos and photos before he turned grumpy ! ( was quite late with him, after his voice broke at 15). Just needed a vent really!

I am a single mum to 4 children. Dd19, DS18, DD14, DD12. It was the first year this year of taking them all abroad on my own, only for a week and we all had a great time although I do feel sorry for my DS being the only boy. I made sure that we incorporated things that he would enjoy and like to do like water sports and Jet skiing etc. he shared a room with DD14 as they get on really well. I did ask the eldest two if they wanted to come before I booked and they did. I was surprised as, at 16 he was less keen and I think just came along as it was kind of expected. I think the thought of a paid for, all inclusive holiday swung it for him 😂. And he went back to them room alone sometimes for his own space which helped. I think they are more grateful for a free holiday as they get a bit older.

I stopped going on holiday with my parents at 16 (but then did take up the offer of a couple of free holidays around 19-20!)
They're all different. I'm surprised and pleased that our older teens still want to come away with us but I know that could change very soon.

My super sensible, full domesticated DS stopped coming on holiday around that age. They stayed home alone but went to my Mum's 10 minutes along the road to get fed by Granny 😆.

Saved me a fortune not having to pay for kennels and catteries as he looked after the menagerie. And, DH and I could indulge in all sex, alcohol and rock and roll without a rugrat cramping our style 😃.

My children enjoy our company, and we enjoy theirs.

I'm just back from a short break with just dh.
Ds 15 + dd17 stayed home (their choice) they don't want to come with us any more. It's an adjustment to say the least!
I came back to a tidy house, washing done and all fine. Dd had her friend stay over one night and ds cooked for them all!

At the other end of the scale my adult dd 31 and I have jubooked a trip to Amsterdam together, just me + her, it's come full circle.