DS19 Coke and other issues

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Hi I'm beside myself with worry so please be kind.

DS19 has recently started doing coke with his group of friends when they go to the pub. Over the last two months there have been about 5 different times where he has gone out, gone on a 'bender' and then ended up in a terrible state the next day - anxiety attacks, talking about suicide, berating himself.

Recently he went out out, took coke and ended up cheating on his lovely girlfriend of three years. He confessed to her straight away but it looks like she wants to split - understandably.

DS is now beside himself and we're really worried for his safety - he went out last night and got so drunk he came back paralytic and then had a screaming panic attack. He is massive and myself and DH could barely restrain him. He told us that his friend had talked him down from throwing himself off a building.

He has left the house and driven off to try and talk to his ex again and I'm so worried for his safety as it's unlikely she will talk to him.

We've got a GP appointment tomorrow and will do whatever we can do get him help. Just genuinely don't know how to get him through the next few days and then how to help him stay away from the group of friends who he is getting into these habits with.

I could really do with a hand hold and any advice or experiences would be welcome,

i’m so sorry, i have no advice but sending so so much love to you to get through this difficult period. you’re handling it all very well, and i wish him the best of luck with recovery, it’s absolutely possible xxx

You can look up your local crisis team and give them a call. They’ll most likely have out of hours. X

Is there a youth drug and alcohol support team near you? FWIW, my 20 year old has self referred to one near him and he has found them really really helpful... he was however, very motivated to do this himself and not suicidal.

Thanks for the replies everyone. He came back last night still very upset. We're going to try and get through today and then talk to the GP this evening.

He's supposed to be going off to uni in Sept but I don't know how he will cope with the whole freshers/partying thing. Alternately, he needs to get away from his group of friends here as they are all a terrible influence on each other.