my teenagers pregnant!

[pinklemonstoo]

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Shes 18.
I don't know what to do really....

what would you do?

there is nothing you can do except be there for her when she wants you to be

support her and let her enjoy being pregnant and a new mom without disapproving looks and judgy comments.

i don't understand what you mean by 'i don't know what to do'..... there is nothing for you to do except be there for her.... this isn't your problem (in fact it's not a problem at all as most of us younger mums can testify)

i was pregnant at 15 my daughter is 27 this month we are very close

She is 18 and now an adult. Just be there for her. I know it may be a shock for you but once the shock has worn off, remember you are going to be a gran. Is she happy about the pregnancy?

I was 19 when I got pg wth DD. I was fucking petrified, be there for her, you know what the next few years are going to hold, she is a young girl with no clue, and probably scared to death.

Does she still live with you? Are you wondering if you will end up bringing the baby up?

Or has she left home? Either way, she needs your support.

Must be a shock for you.

I'm sure after the shock has worn off you'll be a great supportive mum to your dd.

she's 18. she's not 15. she will be fine. if she had plans to go to uni they don't have to be scuppered. she might want to take some time out but it's not the end of the world. be there, support her but don't interfere and don't help out too much else she will come to depend on you and she needs to learn to stand on her own 2 feet. i speak from experience

we are here for you - theres not a lot in your control really xxxxxx

I was pregnant at 16 and my mother said she would support me but then couldnt stop picking fights and acting dissapointed in me and trying to influence my desicion which led to me moving out aged 16 and pregnant and our relationship was never the same.

All i wanted was for her to give me a hug and say well what do YOU want to do adn then support me with it without thinking bad of me.

I know its a shock for you but please please try so hard not to act like your dissapointed in her or say anything that could be hurtfull now is a very fragile time in your relationship and how you act can determine your future relationship

Oh sorry that was a long one!

oh yes please don't keep saying your are fucking devastated. sorry to swear but that's all i ever heard my mum say to other people and it did my head in. why was she devastated exactly. it wasn't like i was still in bloody secondary school when i got pregnant!! and it really didn't make me feel very good about the whole thing

Just found out earlier today. She is still an adult but is retaking her A2s so is going to be living at home for at least another year. I'm quite young to be a gran if i say so myself. I just think shes messed everything up.

Dont say that to her or in her company!

The fact that you think ou are too young to be a gran is unimportant tbh its her feelings that matter the most it is her life not yours.

She hasn't messed everything up - she can still do her A2s, uni may be put off for a year or two but is still possible; I went to uni when DS was almost 2; I had him at 19 so was 21-24 at uni and by no means "out of place"

It is an enormous shock for both of you but it truly isn't the end of the world that it feels like it is.... honestly

yeah as a mum of older teens i get where your coming from - you just want your children to have much much more before children - and iwas pg at 16 so i know what i am talking about.

its a hard thing - she should go to council asap and ge t on the list

I was pregnant at 15. Mum marched me off the the clinic and that was the end of that. Our relationship survived but I should have had a say in it. It was back in the 70's though and things were different.

I would never do the same to my DD. I would support her at any age and 18 is fine. She can still live a very happy, successful life. I had my child at 33 as a single mum and know if I'd had my baby at 15/16 that it would have been just an equally important accomplishment/event as it was 18 years later.

and as lewis fan says she can carry on with her studies - i did - but i still feel your pain - you just want them to experience LIFE before children - but thats that and its about supportingher in her decision = she can still study

I totally understand where you are coming from.
DP went to uni as a single guy, went travelling etc, I was stuck at home being housewife from 19-24.
Don't get me wrong I lve my kids, but I will try my hardest to get myDC's to wait til they are older. I still see students now and feel jealous of a big experience I know made a lot out of DP that I never got to have.

I know where you are coming from Custy but is there ever really a right time. I may have had a happier more secure life if I had had my baby at such a young age. Me and the dad were so much in love at the time.

I have a teenage DD and have high hopes for her but if she fell pregnant I would still support her. My sis was very young but her life has spanned out very happily. Mine perhaps not so much but my DD had her at 33 is my greatest accomplishment.

I've also done the career and all the travelling etc but as I say its my DD who is best thing that's happened to me.

i plan to take ds travelling - want to get someone to come with me though i'm not brave enough on my own! having children isn't an end to studying, a career, seeing the world. she hasn't ruined everything. was it planned or an "accident"

oh yes i would still support my children no doubt - but i want them to go to concerts and gigs and shag various people and have xperiences you just cant have being carefree and childree and responsability free - there is something wonderful about youth - that i missed and ihope to fuck my kids embrace by theballs anbd make the most of their youth, they carefree mentality, the experiences, the dumbshit you can't do becuasre you are responsible for another human being