Trigger warnings - rape, paedophilia, murder, misogyny.
I’m going to be completely blunt here, because this is too serious for polite debate: incel culture and the manosphere are not just “boys lashing out” or reacting to being hurt. They are part of a growing extremist movement that glorifies rape, murder, child abuse, and terrorism, and radicalizes young men into believing women should be punished for existing.
When you suggest that the way girls treat boys is in any way equivalent to this, or somehow justifies the “backlash,” you’re not just missing the point—you’re enabling one of the most dangerous ideologies facing young people today.
Let me break down what incel culture actually is.
At the core of incel culture is the belief that men are entitled to sex and romantic attention, and women are evil for denying them. They often claim that rejection is as traumatic as being raped, something they call “reverse rape”.
Some incels argue for “enforced monogamy”, where women are legally assigned to men. Others go further, saying women should be raped as a way to restore male dominance. This isn’t fringe—it’s mainstream in many incel communities.
Incels dehumanize women with terms like:
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“Femoid” – a non-human female, literally a female humanoid.
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“Roastie” – a disgusting slur used to mock women’s bodies.
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“Stacy” – a woman who should be punished for being attractive and rejecting “losers.
They believe women should be punished for choosing who they date, and that violence is justified revenge.
This culture has already claimed lives, and its heroes are mass murderers. Let’s be specific:
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Elliot Rodger (California, 2014): Murdered six people, injured 14. His 141-page manifesto laid out his plan to exterminate women for rejecting him. He is worshipped by incels as the “Supreme Gentleman.”
- Rodger’s quote:
- “I will enter the hottest sorority house and slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up blonde slut I see inside.”
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Alek Minassian (Toronto, 2018): Drove a van into a crowd, killing 10 people, injuring 16. He praised Rodger and called for an “Incel Rebellion.” His act was labeled terrorism—the first incel-related attack to receive that designation.
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Scott Beierle (Florida, 2018): Shot and killed two women at a yoga studio. His YouTube rants were full of hatred for women and praise for other incel killers.
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Jake Davison (UK, 2021): Murdered five people, including his mother. Posted incel videos calling women “vile” and blaming feminism for his failures.
And it keeps going.
Dozens of planned attacks have been stopped, and
many more women have been stalked, doxxed, and terrorized.
Incel forums don’t just hate women—they fetishize underage girls. Many users argue that women over 25 are worthless and men should have access to “pure” girls before they can say no.
They advocate for grooming and the abolition of age of consent laws, believing that “consent” is feminist brainwashing. This leads to open fantasies about raping underage girls and treating them as breeding stock.
The “rape pill” is a common term, meaning acceptance of rape as normal and good for society. They believe mass rape is inevitable and necessary for men to reclaim control.
Some forums openly discuss rape techniques, share child sexual abuse material, and fantasize about sex slavery camps where women are forcibly impregnated.
Incels believe in an impending “Beta Uprising”—a mass, violent revolt where incels will kill women and sexually successful men in revenge.
Forums contain bomb-making instructions, blueprints for school shootings, and “kill counts” ranking the most “successful” incel terrorists.
Many incels idolize suicide bombers and mass shooters, seeing them as martyrs for the cause. This is misogynist terrorism, and intelligence agencies are alarmed. The FBI and Canadian intelligence both classify this movement as a domestic terror threat.
This is the part you need to hear: boys are being pulled into this world easily, starting with “harmless” YouTube videos about “alpha males” and “female nature.” They’re told women are liars, manipulators, and that rejection is abuse.
They’re taught to hate women and see themselves as victims, justified in revenge.
And yes, boys are hurting. But pain does not excuse hatred. Not when the result is mass violence, abuse, and dead women. Girls being unkind, rejecting someone, or even bullying is not remotely comparable to this.
Women have been:
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Doxxed—personal info shared for harassment.
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Stalked by incels who feel “owed” a relationship.
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Threatened with rape and murder.
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Murdered—by men radicalized online.
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This isn’t “boys being boys” or “mean girls causing backlash.” This is
organized, escalating, gender-based terrorism.
Let me be clear: suggesting girls are just as bad is not only false, it is catastrophically dangerous. It lets young men avoid accountability and gives them permission to dive deeper into hate.
We must:
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Educate boys early about misogyny.
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Monitor online spaces where this ideology spreads.
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Refuse to minimize the threat.
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This is a hate movement, no different from white supremacy or religious extremism. It is
killing people. And we
cannot fight it if we’re still asking “but what about the girls?”
The answer is protect both sexes by stopping the radicalization of boys—before it’s too late.