My 15DD is very suddenly having friendship issues, there are 6 of them in group and DD is obsessed with her BFF and there are another 4 that form the group. DD and her BFF were always doing sleepovers/walks without the others which concerned me slightly but never seemed to cause any issues.
Now the BFF seems to be slowly phasing her out (ignoring requests to hang out/no facetimes on evenings and the odd horrible comment), this girl seems to have influence over the others and they have joined in with the comments and its generally not nice for her.
My DD keeps asking BFF to hang out and trying to call (1 on 1 which they used to ) which I am trying to discourage to her to do and as its obviously this girl is backing off for whatever reason. Its heartbreaking seeing her so upset and chasing after this girl. Have tried to encourage her to put a bit more effort into schoolwork (as this is an ongoing battle) or find a new activity etc but she just wont listen to any good advice, I just don’t know how best to support her whether to be a bit brutally honest that this friendship is over and she needs to move on – I just cannot figure out how it has gone wrong so fast, sometimes DD is a bit immature and gets hyper focused on her interests and don’t think she is into boys yet – maybe that is the problem but she is a lovely girl and its so hard watching her like this and now is not wanting to go to school